I need your prayers (fornication)

FriendOfGod said:

Ok so first I've been saved a while and I am also an ordained minister. I've been single basically all of my Christian life. When God saved me I insantly stopped seeking premarital sex and actually went out with a girl once that got mad at me for not doing anything with her. So God did a marvelous work in my life and I am so thankful.

Fast forward to now and like I said I am a minister that has never been married and have recently started a courtship. We are very serious and have talked about marriage. Well about a month ago we messed up and had sex and we both repented. Then this past weekend it happened again and she was actually begging me to do it and at first I had some anger toward her but have since asked her to forgive me because it took both of us. We have set boundaries but have broken them and I need some prayers and advice honestly. I have cried and cried and asked God to forgive me and this has also really put a strain on our relationship. Prayers and any words of advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

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The old testament had a "you break it you bought it" rule. You should marry the girl and be content with her.

just get married.. have a preacher buddy perform a quick 10 min ceremony before you two and god and be done with it. then have your big planned wedding later.

remember what paul said about marriage it to him was for those who burned with passion. for those who do should get married.

FriendOfGod said:

I appreciate these replies and with the while old testament "break it you buy it". I told her the same thing.

Also, I really feel like a hypocrite because obviously I preach against fornication. I've repented with bitter tears but it still weighs on me.

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Prayer and the Scriptures.

Marriage if you are free to marry.

Step back from your ministry.

FriendOfGod said:

I've repented with bitter tears but it still weighs on me.

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You don't need prayers. You need to get separated or married .

FriendOfGod said:

So if we were to go ahead and get married do you think a person I'm my situation should step back from the ministry? I agree if a person doesn't have a good report but it's between me and her. I know we're to confess our faults, but do we confess our sins to each other?

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As requested I have tried to give you Scriptural advice; I will leave it there.

FriendOfGod said:

So if we were to go ahead and get married do you think a person I'm my situation should step back from the ministry? I agree if a person doesn't have a good report but it's between me and her. I know we're to confess our faults, but do we confess our sins to each other?

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If a man should step back from ministry for committing a sin then we wouldn’t have any ministers my brother. And your only a hypocrite if you present yourself as being more righteous than another. No you seem very humble and sincere about this in my opinion and this world needs devoted servants of Christ like you. I think the idea of quitting the ministry could be a deception from the evil one. God bless you brother.

FriendOfGod said:

Ok so first I've been saved a while and I am also an ordained minister. I've been single basically all of my Christian life. When God saved me I insantly stopped seeking premarital sex and actually went out with a girl once that got mad at me for not doing anything with her. So God did a marvelous work in my life and I am so thankful.

Fast forward to now and like I said I am a minister that has never been married and have recently started a courtship. We are very serious and have talked about marriage. Well about a month ago we messed up and had sex and we both repented. Then this past weekend it happened again and she was actually begging me to do it and at first I had some anger toward her but have since asked her to forgive me because it took both of us. We have set boundaries but have broken them and I need some prayers and advice honestly. I have cried and cried and asked God to forgive me and this has also really put a strain on our relationship. Prayers and any words of advice would be appreciated. Also, I really feel like a hypocrite because obviously I preach against fornication. I've repented with bitter tears but it still weighs on me. Thanks!

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I m not a minister or anything but I also succumbed to that temptation after I became a Christian. We ended up getting married. You're not a hypocrite unless you are standing in judgement over others for doing the same thing. Now don't go doing anything crazy like confessing in public to your entire congregation or anything or stepping down. Back in the day they didn't have these issues, marriages were arranged, couples married early etc. It's a different playing field. Don't be so hard on yourself. Are you in love?

FriendOfGod said:

Ok so first I've been saved a while and I am also an ordained minister. I've been single basically all of my Christian life. When God saved me I insantly stopped seeking premarital sex and actually went out with a girl once that got mad at me for not doing anything with her. So God did a marvelous work in my life and I am so thankful.

Fast forward to now and like I said I am a minister that has never been married and have recently started a courtship. We are very serious and have talked about marriage. Well about a month ago we messed up and had sex and we both repented. Then this past weekend it happened again and she was actually begging me to do it and at first I had some anger toward her but have since asked her to forgive me because it took both of us. We have set boundaries but have broken them and I need some prayers and advice honestly. I have cried and cried and asked God to forgive me and this has also really put a strain on our relationship. Prayers and any words of advice would be appreciated. Also, I really feel like a hypocrite because obviously I preach against fornication. I've repented with bitter tears but it still weighs on me. Thanks!

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You're an adult and you had sex with a woman you love.. and you repented? I think that's very sad.

FriendOfGod said:

We are very much in love. We were talking about marriage before we ever messed up. I definitely see myself spending the rest of my life with her. She is very supportive of my ministry and is very good to me.

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Then don't insult her by repenting.

summerville said:

Then don't insult her by repenting.

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repenting of disobeying God is not an insult.

FriendOfGod said:

We are very much in love. We were talking about marriage before we ever messed up. I definitely see myself spending the rest of my life with her. She is very supportive of my ministry and is very good to me.

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So get married already.

You have found out the hard way that once that line is crossed it is almost impossible to go back.

FriendOfGod said:

Also, I really feel like a hypocrite because obviously I preach against fornication.

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Do you preach against masturbation as well?

Thank you for your honesty. Don't tell ANYONE, other than God, about this. Get married. Have mercy on your fellow Christians who struggle with sin of any sort.

FriendOfGod said:

So if we were to go ahead and get married do you think a person I'm my situation should step back from the ministry? I agree if a person doesn't have a good report but it's between me and her. I know we're to confess our faults, but do we confess our sins to each other?

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I'd say no, unless you are ministering one of the nut bag forms of christianity where even marital sex is governed. Or they hold past sin over you and force you to take like scarlet letter..

Otherwise to pretend even as a minister you live a completely sin free life is foolishness that contradicts even Paul's ability to live without sin (romans chapters 6,7 and 8)

If Paul could not live with out sin as the father of the gentile church then seriously... who are you to pretend otherwise? why would you demand or teach others to live a lie that Paul wrote out a whole book of the bible to free us from?

do you need to repent.. yes in whatever form or fashion your religious brand demands. do you need to step down, it depends on your brand of faith. if everyone pretends to be without sin as believers then probably a good idea to step down grow spiritually and move on. Otherwise you don't want to be the root of all evil that makes old gossips explode with stories to tell causing even more actual sin to invade your church than what your act actually did.

Don't run from this don't hide from it. It's not ideal but neither is any of our lives when the truth is told. If we could live without sin Christ need not die on the cross. spend some time in the book of romans with 'fresh' eyes. think about the people receiving this message not having any other books of the bible to concern themselves with. outside of a cursory understanding of the gospel this is all the church at rome was built on. It was enough to sustain and even build the faith into a world religion as it was from rome that christian went world wide. Yes the rest of the bible has to be considered but still this is more than enough for a proper foundation.