Hello, and thank you in advance!
I got pregnant with my son a little under a year of dating this guy. Two days after I gave birth, we got married. Two days before I gave birth, my then boyfriend just turned 18. It was a busy week. (He also graduated high school a few days before)
Anyway, before I got pregnant he was absolutely great. Kind, would do small things like bring me a drink from the gas station, go to church with me, even church camp. Shortly after I got pregnant, even though he acted super excited, things changed. He was rude, stopped going to church, stopped doing anything nice. He wasn’t mean, just broke promises, no more dates, just played games all day.
So anyway, after I had our son (at this point I got moved in with him and his parents because I was in an unsafe home environment) things were still just as bad. He was no help, never changed him, never woke up with him, he was still breaking promises, not spending time with me, staying away from church.
August came around my husband left for college. I stayed, watched our son, worked to pay for everything myself, stayed living with his parents so I COULD, tried to go to church as often as I could, tried to be a good mom.
Anyway, our son is almost two now, husband is just finishing up second year of five year college in a town two and a half hours ago. We never see each other, he’s still breaking promises or just not making them or doing anything, all he wants to talk about is sex (due to past things I’m a little off put by sex but we still have a healthy relationship in that aspect, even though he always hits a home run and I’ve never been past first base, also he’s got a inappropriate contentography addiction but that’s a whole new topic).
There’s been a lot of fights, a few times where I’ve packed things to leave (his mom bawled and she never cries, I couldn’t do that to her, but he went right back to normal). Anytime we fight, he gets super sweet and then goes back to normal when things are okay.
I’ve talked with my pastor and his wife, and they told me I should leave, as he’s not being the Christian husband he should be (we are unequally yoked, I went into this knowing it would be hard) but every time I look in the Bible, it says stay. I just need advice on how to get through this. I have no idea what to do, I’ve been praying about it constantly for two years. I just don’t want our son growing up thinking this is what love is, that this is how a man acts. I’ve brought up seeing a counselor and he says it wouldn’t do any help. I’m so lost.
Any help is appreciated.
