She likes to drill her prospects...

I'm speaking from a very narrow perspective, so take it with a dose of salt:

Some folks like asking more pointed questions early and by-passing the small talk. It's not common.

Some do it to try to avoid spending time with incompatible people, thinking asking more direct and pointed questions off the bat will do a better job of sorting people.

That what it seems like to me, and I say that because I do the exact same thing. I ask deep questions early on.

I'd probably answer those questions with questions of my own, even if I have answers that I think she'd like. Do we bring people to Christ, or does God do it and we just play a small role in his plan? The latter is arguably closer to the truth. The body of Christ is more than a giant mouth. The other parts are also important, and shouldn't be looked down upon.

Is she a new believer?

Like you, I don't have a dramatic conversion story. I grew up in a Christian home, and accepted Christ when I was a child. This doesn't make me better or worse than somebody who does, but it influences my perspective. My testimony has more to do with the fact that I'm still a Christian after all I've been through. Perhaps your story is similar.

Too much too soon? That would depend on the dynamic and chemistry I have with her. Everybody is different.

ThisIsMe123 said:

Met this woman through a online Christian singles platform, and instead of responding with "What do you like to do for fun" or "What do you look for in a partner" , "Favorite hobbies/food" or some every day getting to know you chit-chat...she hits pretty hard right off with, "How long have you been saved?" I had been a Christian since childhood, so I said since a child.

Then she follows up with this rather oddly specific question..."Tell me about a scenario where you brought someone to Christ?"

Cripes, man...talk about the third degree. lol. I said I cannot recall a time where I had ever done that...maybe that time will come in the future.

I had thought that most people that came to Christ did so of their own doing. "God helps those who helps themselves" or salvation come from within.

I dunno, ...too much too soon?

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These questions are 100% fair to turn around and ask her.

ThisIsMe123 said:

Then she follows up with this rather oddly specific question..."Tell me about a scenario where you brought someone to Christ?"

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What even IS that question?

Stupid woman lol.

We all have the power to influence people - you might even meet someone on the off chance at a bus stop one day, and say just one thing to them; that one thing has the power to change that person's life. You'll never know it did, but it did.

This is obviously her deal-breaker. She seems to be no nonsense and doesn't want to waste her time or the guy's time if what he believes isn't in line with what she believes. There isn't anything offensive about the questions. They are cut and dried like resume questions. Either she has had some bad experiences or that is just her personality.

You get to decide if she is a "fit" to you based on her asking these questions or by her response to any questions you ask. I am not sure that you should feel attacked though. (I wouldn't likely consider a male equivalent to this to be a good fit for me either...but I also don't like online dating...)

ThisIsMe123 said:

Oddly enough, when I asked about meeting/getting her number she said, "Okay".

Then I asked, "Okay, what? To meeting? The phone number?"

She responded: "Okay"

ANd the I replied, "Never mind"

Nutjob.

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possibly true ... there are a lot of nutjobs on online dating ... there are also a lot of people who just don't know how to date or meet people and are very clumsy at it ... and there are those who seem drunk or high when they post

Sounds like a genius to me. She managed to not only waste your time, but she's wasted all of ours as well.

I take back my earlier comment. She's done more reeling than the entire fish'O'mania rooster combined.

ReesePiece23 said:

Sounds like a genius to me. She managed to not only waste your time, but she's wasted all of ours as well.

I take back my earlier comment. She's done more reeling than the entire fish'O'mania rooster combined.

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Since she didn't ask for our input, she didn't waste anyone's time ... well, except maybe ThisIsMe. We volunteered to give her our time by responding. However, she did respond and talk a little which is more than most people do on online dating...maybe that part is just part of the online dating game.

maybe she wants a guy who does evangelism.

ThisIsMe123 said:

Oddly enough, when I asked about meeting/getting her number she said, "Okay".

Then I asked, "Okay, what? To meeting? The phone number?"

She responded: "Okay"

ANd the I replied, "Never mind"

Nutjob.

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go for it and see what happens..

blackribbon said:

Since she didn't ask for our input, she didn't waste anyone's time ... well, except maybe ThisIsMe. We volunteered to give her our time by responding. However, she did respond and talk a little which is more than most people do on online dating...maybe that part is just part of the online dating game.

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I'm just having a laugh.

Online dating - for the most part, is best avoided. Believe it or not, but there's thousands upon thousands of personality types you could get on with. You're not going to meet anyone special in ANY arena of life - because no one IS special. We're all on a level playing field.

Most people are suitable really. It's just a question of connecting again and talking to the people around you. On the train, in the supermarket, at the gym, etc.

In some ways, this generation isn't doing very well. I think the 90's were better to a very large extent. We had just enough, but not so much that it made us spoilt like we are now. The fact you're talking to me and not the person standing in the line at the Post Office is a mark of that. Technology has ruined us.

I mean, only a decade or so ago I would get a girl's number and ACTUALLY call her. Now it's just "I'll slide into your DM's later."

ThisIsMe123 said:

Met this woman through a online Christian singles platform, and instead of responding with "What do you like to do for fun" or "What do you look for in a partner" , "Favorite hobbies/food" or some every day getting to know you chit-chat...she hits pretty hard right off with, "How long have you been saved?" I had been a Christian since childhood, so I said since a child.

Then she follows up with this rather oddly specific question..."Tell me about a scenario where you brought someone to Christ?"

Cripes, man...talk about the third degree. lol. I said I cannot recall a time where I had ever done that...maybe that time will come in the future.

I had thought that most people that came to Christ did so of their own doing. "God helps those who helps themselves" or salvation come from within.

I dunno, ...too much too soon?

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Just answer the questions and move on, NEXT!

I can't recall bringing someone to Christ either. Churches are in a mess, unsure of the truth themselves so what is the point?? I have to be very sure first it is the truth I'm bringing someone to.

I'm not the kind of person to believe in anything so easily. Ironically, even the Bible says we should think hard, scrutinize before believing anything.

Don't over think it.

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You're not going to meet anyone special in ANY arena of life - because no one IS special. We're all on a level playing field.

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That mindset requires a humility not available to many! An Auden epigram sprang to mind:

Everyone thinks:
"I am the most important
Person at present."
The sane remember to add:
"Important, I mean, to me."

(Marginalia, 1969)

GOD Shines Forth! said:

That mindset requires a humility not available to many! An Auden epigram sprang to mind:

Everyone thinks:
"I am the most important
Person at present."
The sane remember to add:
"Important, I mean, to me."

(Marginalia, 1969)

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I just don't believe in anything else. Whether you're the guy in Hollywood staring in movies, or you're the one working in retailing, the power you have to make an individual's day better is just as equal.

Great acting, or great customer service, it's all the same.

ReesePiece23 said:

I'm just having a laugh.

Online dating - for the most part, is best avoided. Believe it or not, but there's thousands upon thousands of personality types you could get on with. You're not going to meet anyone special in ANY arena of life - because no one IS special. We're all on a level playing field.

Most people are suitable really. It's just a question of connecting again and talking to the people around you. On the train, in the supermarket, at the gym, etc.

In some ways, this generation isn't doing very well. I think the 90's were better to a very large extent. We had just enough, but not so much that it made us spoilt like we are now. The fact you're talking to me and not the person standing in the line at the Post Office is a mark of that. Technology has ruined us.

I mean, only a decade or so ago I would get a girl's number and ACTUALLY call her. Now it's just "I'll slide into your DM's later."

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I disagree on the fact that there isn't someone special. I don't believe that there is only one someone special, but I do believe that there are specific people that match well. Maybe some people have personalities that match more people than others.

As for me, I AM that person who talks to strangers in line and everywhere else in public. LOL. However, I have no use for online dating either.

blackribbon said:

I disagree on the fact that there isn't someone special. I don't believe that there is only one someone special, but I do believe that there are specific people that match well. Maybe some people have personalities that match more people than others.

As for me, I AM that person who talks to strangers in line and everywhere else in public. LOL. However, I have no use for online dating either.

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Yeah, I could probably get on board with that way of thinking - especially when I consider a nightmare I once had, when I was out on a date with Kim Kardashian. (Why would I consent to that? Lol)

I do believe also that you can match too well. Particularly if you both share the same bad habits. It's good to be challenged a bit.

Plot twist:

She's a dentist.