If you can't re-marry then...

thelord's_pearl said:

Where in the bible does it say you can re-marry? Thank you

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Divorce Allowed Due to Abandonment

• But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 (NASB)

Divorce Allowed Due to Adultery

• Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. Matthew 5:31-32 (NKJV)

• He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” Matthew 19:8-9 (NKJV)

Kris Jordan said:

Divorce Allowed Due to Abandonment

• But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 (NASB)

Divorce Allowed Due to Adultery

• Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. Matthew 5:31-32 (NKJV)

• He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” Matthew 19:8-9 (NKJV)

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Actually, although you have provided the two passages where divorce is allowed (by Moses for those under the Old Covenant) neither passage advocates for remarriage and, in actual fact, the passage in Matthew, which is paralleled in Mark 10, specifically prohibits remarriage.

bbbbbbb said:

Actually, although you have provided the two passages where divorce is allowed (by Moses for those under the Old Covenant) neither passage advocates for remarriage and, in actual fact, the passage in Matthew, which is paralleled in Mark 10, specifically prohibits remarriage.

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Hi bbbbbbb,

The passage in Matthew prohibits remarriage except in the case of adultery.

depends on if you want to actually follow the scriptures or simply follow your own way of doing things.

Kris Jordan said:

Divorce Allowed Due to Abandonment

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the apostle says that a woman is bound to her husband as long he lives in romans 7:2-3. these two statements would be contradictory if 1cor7 is saying you can remarry if the spouse up and leaves. 1cor7:12-15 is merely saying that a spouse that is abandoned by an unbelieving spouse is no longer required to fulfill their spousal duties. the passage does not permit them to remarry. such a conclusion of 1cor7 would also contradict Messiah's own words in saying that the only cause for divorce and remarriage is fornication.

Kris Jordan said:

Divorce Allowed Due to Adultery

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what's interesting is that the verse in matt5 doesn't say that adultery is an acceptable cause for divorce. it says fornication is. matt5 says that a man who divorces his wife but for fornication causes her to be an adulterous. this statement wouldn't make much sense if adultery was the reason he could divorce and remarry as he wouldn't be making her an adulterous by his actions. she would make herself an adulterous by her own actions even if her husband stayed with her.

the fornication being talked about here is in deuteronomy 22:13-21. a man taking a wife who is found to not be a virgin was to be put to death. Messiah is saying that such a situation is the only acceptable reason for a second chance at marriage.

having sex outside of marriage while being married as a reason to leave your wife would also contradict deuteronomy 22:28-29. a man who lays with a woman who is a virgin must make marriage with her and cannot divorce her under any circumstances. vs 13-21 as well when a man falsely accuses the woman he married of fornication. he can't divorce her for any reason.

this makes sense as scripture tells us that sex constitutes marriage. compare 1 corinthians 6:15-16 to genesis 2:24.

a difficult thing to accept by many, but certainly biblical. then again, if you're not an israelite, none of this matters.

Kris Jordan said:

Hi bbbbbbb,

The passage in Matthew prohibits remarriage except in the case of adultery.

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Please see the post above for a good reply.

Lost4words said:

But, Jesus made a strong statement regarding divorce.

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But there isn't any detailing of circumstances. Divorce has always been a subject that I think needs more looking into because there is way too many different circumstances that warrant the necessity of it.

What if the husband divorces the wife (disregarding of religious teachings) and remarries himself? Is the ex-wife still tied to the law, is she still tied to him? If not, can she remarry then?

Cis.jd said:

What if the husband divorces the wife (disregarding of religious teachings) and remarries himself? Is the ex-wife still tied to the law, is she still tied to him? If not, can she remarry then?

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That is a difficult question, indeed. Unfortunately, we now live in a society where these sorts of situations happen routinely.

thelord's_pearl said:

..are you allowed to have a new boyfriend/girlfriend? According to the Bible I know you can't re-marry.
Matthew 5:31-32
It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

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There are habitual adulterers/adulteresses looking for a new love. Marrying one of these might only bring failure.

It is legal to remain single after a failed relationship(s). It is nice to have a friend of the opposite sex. I once rented a basement apartment from a lady friend. We were not physically involved with each other, but were friends more than a decade until I moved out of the area.

In my 55+ community there are a number of unmarried couples living as room mates. Since some people have a difficult time paying bills with the high cost of housing, medical expenses, etc. Some choose to share their homes, or rent out rooms. My aunt lost her husband to a long term illness. She moved in with her daughter and son in law.

There are many widows, widowers, divorced and single people living alone. Those who were successful in marriage might succeed in marriage again after the death of a spouse, although it is not as common for the elderly to marry or remarry.

bbbbbbb said:

That is a difficult question, indeed. Unfortunately, we now live in a society where these sorts of situations happen routinely.

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Agreed. What some people have to realize that the Bible doesn't note down every circumstance. We have to take in consideration that the writers in the Bible did not know how big the world was (or would be) in 2020. So their views and their messages may have been more directed in thought towards the current society they were talking too.

The Bible is only 1,200 pages how can all the circumstances that happen from then, now, and the future be noted down especially when the main point of our salvation with God is the most important and emphasized message of the entire scripture?

So we must be opened that there are actual situations with in marriage/divorce that have to be dealt wisely, not fundamentally. Using the Bible fundamentally to answer various social issues is almost dangerous.

Cis.jd said:

What if the husband divorces the wife (disregarding of religious teachings) and remarries himself?

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scripture only recognizes marriage as being between a man and a woman.

such a thing as you have described simply wouldn't be marriage(same as "gay marriage").

S.O.J.I.A. said:

scripture only recognizes marriage as being between a man and a woman.

such a thing as you have described simply wouldn't be marriage(same as "gay marriage").

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Sorry, I'm confused at what you said. Remarrying wouldn't be considered real marriage?

thelord's_pearl said:

..are you allowed to have a new boyfriend/girlfriend? According to the Bible I know you can't re-marry.
Matthew 5:31-32
It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

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Yes, Jesus said that, but other passages tell about our need to repent of our past sins and God's willingness to forgive us because of Jesus' death. If you have repented of your part in past relationships, I believe that you are free to have another relationship, as long as it would avoid the sin of sexual immorality before the wedding.

Cis.jd said:

Sorry, I'm confused at what you said. Remarrying wouldn't be considered real marriage?

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scripture doesn't recognize the silliness of someone "marrying themselves".

If there's no intent to remarry, why bother with a divorce?

S.O.J.I.A. said:

scripture doesn't recognize the silliness of someone "marrying themselves".

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I think you misunderstood. I'm not saying the husband marries himself. I mean, he himself is remarrying someone.

Cis.jd said:

I think you misunderstood. I'm not saying the husband marries himself. I mean, he himself is remarrying someone.

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both parties would be in sin for remarrying as there's no biblical warrant for either to do so.

S.O.J.I.A. said:

both parties would be in sin for remarrying as there's no biblical warrant for either to do so.

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I think the problem raised here is what is the wife to do if her husband divorces her and marries another woman. This can be a huge problem if she has several children to raise and is unable to find sufficient employment. Should the wife now stay home and raise the kids (without any income, especially in the case of a deadbeat dad who fails to provide any child support) or should she go out and work 80 hours a week or more at a low-paying job to keep a roof over their heads, thus leaving the children to raise themselves?

S.O.J.I.A. said:

both parties would be in sin for remarrying as there's no biblical warrant for either to do so.

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"Being in sin" is out of the initial question. If the husband divorced his wife and remarried someone else. Is he and his ex-wife still tied together by the law? Who is the husband tied too.

Cis.jd said:

"Being in sin" is out of the initial question. If the husband divorced his wife and remarried someone else. Is he and his ex-wife still tied together by the law? Who is the husband tied too.

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Some would say that he is now a bigamist. Others might say that his first marriage is the only legitimate marriage and his second "marriage" is actually adultery.