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I have stage 4 lung cancer it’s tough to live with , I am thankful to still be hear but every cough ,pain ,reminds me death is ever present and to be honest it is scary .I wish I could feel Gods presence in this , I have saw a few friends go and it has been fast and painful I am terrified to have that outcome , I know Miracles are rare I do believe God can heal , but part of facing this is realizing he may not choose to heal me , how do I cope ? I pray , I seek God but still not finding much comfort . If you have a scripture you can share I would appreciate it.
 

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I have stage 4 lung cancer it’s tough to live with , I am thankful to still be hear but every cough ,pain ,reminds me death is ever present and to be honest it is scary .I wish I could feel Gods presence in this , I have saw a few friends go and it has been fast and painful I am terrified to have that outcome , I know Miracles are rare I do believe God can heal , but part of facing this is realizing he may not choose to heal me , how do I cope ? I pray , I seek God but still not finding much comfort . If you have a scripture you can share I would appreciate it.
Philippians 1:21-23 "For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. But if I am to live on in the flesh, this will mean fruitful labor for me; and I do not know which to choose. But I am hard-pressed from both directions, having the desire to depart and be with Christ, for that is very much better."

A little while ago I was in emergency with a heart problem. The treatment was to stop my heart so that it would restart in sync instead of all over the place. It's usually effective; things can go wrong. I wondered if it was my last night on earth. If anything, I was a little excited by the prospect. I'm 68, so there is still work for me to do in God's kingdom. Yet, like Paul, I realise that I will be better off by far in the next life.

I was prepped and they were about to administer the anaesthetic. The doctor glanced at the monitor and saw that my heart had stabilised. The procedure was unnecessary and I went home. The doctor and anaesthetist were both believers!

I don't want to diminish your physical suffering in any way, so don't misunderstand me. I do wonder why you fear death. If you are not 100% certain that you are born again, it's a really good time to make sure. Please read the following article:
Are you absolutely sure you are born again? - Christian Life Frankston

Miracles are still possible. We will pray for you. Another thing to consider is that sickness came in with sin. Some sickness is related to a particular sinful attitude. Cancer is often the result of independence. Ask the Lord to show you.
 
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praying for you with all my heart friend
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Psalm 18:6
In my distress I called to the LORD
I cried to my God for help.

From his temple he heard my voice
my cry came before him, into his ears
 
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'It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.’ (Deuteronomy 31:8)

May God lift you in spirit, comfort you and relieve your pain. May He free you from your anxiety and fear. Whatever your circumstances, my prayer is that you will know that He will never leave you or forsake you and that, in Him, you are totally safe and secure. Nothing will ever separate you from the love of Christ.
 
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I have stage 4 lung cancer it’s tough to live with , I am thankful to still be hear but every cough ,pain ,reminds me death is ever present and to be honest it is scary .I wish I could feel Gods presence in this , I have saw a few friends go and it has been fast and painful I am terrified to have that outcome , I know Miracles are rare I do believe God can heal , but part of facing this is realizing he may not choose to heal me , how do I cope ? I pray , I seek God but still not finding much comfort . If you have a scripture you can share I would appreciate it.

I pray for the Lord to protect you and heal you. Dear Father guide and protect and make yourself real in Jesus precious name
 
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I have stage 4 lung cancer it’s tough to live with , I am thankful to still be hear but every cough ,pain ,reminds me death is ever present and to be honest it is scary .I wish I could feel Gods presence in this , I have saw a few friends go and it has been fast and painful I am terrified to have that outcome , I know Miracles are rare I do believe God can heal , but part of facing this is realizing he may not choose to heal me , how do I cope ? I pray , I seek God but still not finding much comfort . If you have a scripture you can share I would appreciate it.
If you follow a plan for accomplishing goals you will improve your outcome.
Not doing this will have the opposite effect.
 
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I have stage 4 lung cancer it’s tough to live with , I am thankful to still be hear but every cough ,pain ,reminds me death is ever present and to be honest it is scary .I wish I could feel Gods presence in this , I have saw a few friends go and it has been fast and painful I am terrified to have that outcome , I know Miracles are rare I do believe God can heal , but part of facing this is realizing he may not choose to heal me , how do I cope ? I pray , I seek God but still not finding much comfort . If you have a scripture you can share I would appreciate it.
Do what you can today. Tomorrow will take care of itself.
Matthew 6:33 But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness...

Sermon on the Mount is good for inspiration - Matthew 5 - 7.
I liked Psalm 23. God can guide someone like a shepherd guided sheep.
 
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I have stage 4 lung cancer it’s tough to live with , I am thankful to still be hear but every cough ,pain ,reminds me death is ever present and to be honest it is scary .I wish I could feel Gods presence in this , I have saw a few friends go and it has been fast and painful I am terrified to have that outcome , I know Miracles are rare I do believe God can heal , but part of facing this is realizing he may not choose to heal me , how do I cope ? I pray , I seek God but still not finding much comfort . If you have a scripture you can share I would appreciate it.

We will be with you in thoughts and prayers! I promise you this! Even if you don't feel up to posting, I'll be praying for you. My heart aches when I learn that someone is suffering.

Isaiah 40:29
He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength.

It might not be physical strength, but spiritual strength is better.

My husband was diagnosed with gall bladder liver cancer in May of 2012 and passed away in September of the same year. If you aren't healed in this life, you'll go to a place where there is no sickness or pain! Heaven is better than life on earth!

There's a thread: My Cancer
 
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I have stage 4 lung cancer it’s tough to live with , I am thankful to still be hear but every cough ,pain ,reminds me death is ever present and to be honest it is scary .I wish I could feel Gods presence in this , I have saw a few friends go and it has been fast and painful I am terrified to have that outcome , I know Miracles are rare I do believe God can heal , but part of facing this is realizing he may not choose to heal me , how do I cope ? I pray , I seek God but still not finding much comfort . If you have a scripture you can share I would appreciate it.

I pray that this helps you:

 
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I've often thought how I don't fear death but dying ( the process, suffering, pain). Then when I think the Lord will be with me it makes me think of how He must have suffered on the cross for me, His pain was agonizing and not just physical. If you are truly born again then absent from the body is to be present with the Lord 2 Corinthians 5:8 and only because of that death and your position in Him. Of course there are miracles too but should it be your lot to suffer through this at least today there is medical support to aid in pain management and such. Having your heart right with God is paramount.
You're on my prayer list, we just lost an extended family member to terminal liver cancer, he fought a good fight but pretty short with a lot of pain and in the end submitted to Jesus, the day he did that he basically went to sleep. By the third day they cut back pain meds etc and two days later he passed, we believe straight to be with the Lord. He submitted to Jesus in prayer with a pastor and instant peace came over him. This was the kind of submission where you stop fighting and simply trust Him, "thy will be done" and really we believe he passed pretty comfortably. You know what his biggest concern was ? Not suffering but that his family was all in unity which was something he felt he could never produce himself. Now that was the real miracle that God did produce in this, even sworn enemies prayed together and shared care of him together till the end. Nobody can ever explain the power of the Holy Spirit in these things and you can't make it up. God be with you and bless you !
 
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I have a serious affliction that has many times left me thinking I might not even survive the night. I have dealt with it on two levels. First, I am surrendered to God. If He allows me to go at this time, I am at peace with Him, and if He says so I will let go. That peace has been my strength at my weakest moments.

However, I do not believe it is His will for me to go at this time. I have hopes and aspirations I would like to fulfill for His glory. And so with the time and energy I have I seek healing. I am on an herbal regimen which has helped me tremendously, and I keep pressing into both the Lord and how I might cooperate with His healing grace.

Also, I would direct you to do a youtube search for a Joe Tippens interview. He had terminal lung cancer, and came across a simple, inexpensive cure. I cannot vouch for it myself, but it comes with strong anecdotal support, as you will see if you research it.

May you find peace and good success.
 
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It's alright to be scared. I had stage 3 melanoma and was often scared, pretty much anytime I thought about it. I prayed to have my fear taken from me and got a vision of light. The Lord's light illuminated everything, nothing bad or evil could hide in the light, including fear. It gave me comfort. Keep praying and know the Lord is there for you and will always take care of you. Praying you find healing and peace.
 
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It's alright to be scared. I had stage 3 melanoma and was often scared, pretty much anytime I thought about it. I prayed to have my fear taken from me and got a vision of light. The Lord's light illuminated everything, nothing bad or evil could hide in the light, including fear. It gave me comfort. Keep praying and know the Lord is there for you and will always take care of you. Praying you find healing and peace.
How are you doing now ? What has been the benefits of going through this trial ?
 
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John 14:27
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
 
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How are you doing now ? What has been the benefits of going through this trial ?

After a few surgeries, I am now 5 years out, though I still need annual CT scans. And of course I'm a bit nervous before each one, I've never been particularly brave.
It is appropriate you asked about "benefits". The Lord uses even our fears and trials to the good. It has made me more appreciative of the little things and I believe more compassionate in general. I don't take as many things for granted as much now either. As difficult as it was, I have to say it has probably made me a better person...though I wish there was an easier way! In some ways I always felt it was harder on my wife (the care giver) than on me. And if given a choice I would rather it happened to me, than someone I loved.
A couple of books that helped me where pamphlets by Lance Armstrong and his LiveStrong series. Also a book called Getting Well Again by Simonton. It is secular, but has some good tips about dealing with cancer. It's a scary thing, but many have gone through it and you can too. Praying for you.
 
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I have stage 4 lung cancer it’s tough to live with , I am thankful to still be hear but every cough ,pain ,reminds me death is ever present and to be honest it is scary .I wish I could feel Gods presence in this , I have saw a few friends go and it has been fast and painful I am terrified to have that outcome , I know Miracles are rare I do believe God can heal , but part of facing this is realizing he may not choose to heal me , how do I cope ? I pray , I seek God but still not finding much comfort . If you have a scripture you can share I would appreciate it.

All I can do is offer my experience. 3 years ago I had colon cancer surgery. They did not want to do it as they were afraid my heart would stop as I have Art. Fib. I said go ahead, if anything happens, I'm at the right place. I woke up 2 months later and was informed I had been on a ventilator for 2 months, in a coma, for respiratory failure. My heart had never quite. What I remembered when I woke up was a dream I'd had. I had been in a room full of water, to the ceiling, and I was trapped in a very thick net from which I was struggling with all my might to tear myself out of and I could not breathe. All of a sudden I just stopped struggling and I said--"OK, Lord, whatever you want, whatever you want."--Immediately I felt as though God had wrapped His arms around me, I was engulfed in a total peace like I have never known. It was amazing and I was so relaxed and then everything went black.
It was wonderful. I've longed to be back in those arms many times. I struggled to learn how to do everything again and finally, after a month, was able to get back into my wheelchair and go home.
A year later my husband died after a 2 month battle but He gave His heart to the Lord and he was not afraid. He died in my arms.
I've had God answer many prayers while I've struggled to keep going. I almost lost my home, I was angry and afraid, but again, I said "whatever you want Lord." I was given a loan that the only stipulation is I must live in my home for 5 yearts, then the loan does not have to be paid back! That cut my mortgage payment in half. It's been a bit of a struggle, but I have managed to keep going and have started to pay my tithe again. He has blessed me beyond my wildest dreams. I have only my social security to live on--no savings at all. I did have to give my beloved Siberian Husky up, but God took care of every prayer I had for Him and he has the best home possible.
However, my doctor refused to give me pain meds for several issues and as I withdrew from my Tramadol, my B/P would spike very high when the pain struck, he still would not help me. I ended up in the ER, the cardiologist said that the B/P spikes had damaged my heart, I'd had an MI. Nothing can be done as I am a no code for this had been the 2nd time I'd gone into respiratory failure during surgery and it is agreed that I can not survive another surgery. Nothing to do but send me home under Hospice---which was a HUGE blessing. At least I was able to get the pain meds I need now! My B/P's have been OK since then.
I don't know how long I've got, nobody does. I have until Aug. 14, 2023 for my loan to become non-payable. My home is to go to my church and 2 nieces when I go so I am praying that I live till then, but no one has lived longer than 2 years on Hospice, and that was rare. Basically, I have one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel!---I am not afraid. I know what peace awaits me. I have prayed that as I go in His arms I will be able to see His face, for no man can live who sees His face, but since I'm dying---why not?! I will just gently go to sleep and the next thing I will know I will be awakened by Jesus at His return.
I pray to last until the date needed---but I know I can go any minute. It is up to God. He doesn't need the money, but the church could use it and my nieces also. I am grateful to God for evrything He has done for me over the years. I have no complains about my lifre, God's been there even during my backsliding and my refusal to call Him my Lord and master. It took Him almost 30 years toi get me back, and He still stayed with with a couple of backsloidings. He has been faithful throughout my faithlessness. I am filled with gratitute for His love and patience and forgiveness. Therre is nothing to be afraid of and the Hospice people keep my pain under control.
Sorry it's so long, I tried to condense it!
 
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