Read this article, and this made me think of a deep conversation I had with a friend....
Christian Dating: Dating with a Purpose And Not Just Fun
There's this long time female friend I know that has a devoted role in her church's musical ensemble. She's kind of in a stand-out position there as she kind of leads the pack in that area of her church.
For a long time she's been single. A divorced, fiercely independent woman. She's had an on again, off again relationship with a man that has been trying to get her down the aisle. He loves her, and she does the same, but...she refuses to ever marry again.
Why?
Because of her previous marriage, WAY back in her 20s, is still impacting her decision to marry again even to this day. She had a quite the damaging ex-spouse...and this has led her down the path of not marrying...ever.
Lately, she was talking to me about her latest break-up with him...and the subject of "dating with purpose" came up as I was wondering if she was aware of such a thing. She became upset, suggesting that as a Christian she should know she should date with the purpose of marriage. Not that I outright said, "As a Christian, you should know this"....but I guess there was no other way of saying this without sounding judgy.
At that point, she wanted to switch subjects and that was that. It wasn't up for discussion. But I was trying to mention that maybe God was trying to tell her something about this on-again-off-again relationship she was having with this man she cares so much about, and perhaps He was planting seeds to steer her down the road to matrimony.
She's approaching 50 and I was wondering why she is still letting a marriage of old impacting her decision now, as I know tons of people that married again. As of now, she's only interested in relationships that don't lead to marriage bells.
But my question is, have you ever come across Christian friends where the conversation like this came up organically when they started talking about their dating issues/problems?
It is interesting that the Bible says very little about dating though. As back in Biblical times women were more like commodities or married out of convenience and not really love. People married in their teens, and just learned to love someone without the issue of seeing "if you're compatible" or "if he was 6 feet or taller"....but save that for a new topic.
Christian Dating: Dating with a Purpose And Not Just Fun
There's this long time female friend I know that has a devoted role in her church's musical ensemble. She's kind of in a stand-out position there as she kind of leads the pack in that area of her church.
For a long time she's been single. A divorced, fiercely independent woman. She's had an on again, off again relationship with a man that has been trying to get her down the aisle. He loves her, and she does the same, but...she refuses to ever marry again.
Why?
Because of her previous marriage, WAY back in her 20s, is still impacting her decision to marry again even to this day. She had a quite the damaging ex-spouse...and this has led her down the path of not marrying...ever.
Lately, she was talking to me about her latest break-up with him...and the subject of "dating with purpose" came up as I was wondering if she was aware of such a thing. She became upset, suggesting that as a Christian she should know she should date with the purpose of marriage. Not that I outright said, "As a Christian, you should know this"....but I guess there was no other way of saying this without sounding judgy.
At that point, she wanted to switch subjects and that was that. It wasn't up for discussion. But I was trying to mention that maybe God was trying to tell her something about this on-again-off-again relationship she was having with this man she cares so much about, and perhaps He was planting seeds to steer her down the road to matrimony.
She's approaching 50 and I was wondering why she is still letting a marriage of old impacting her decision now, as I know tons of people that married again. As of now, she's only interested in relationships that don't lead to marriage bells.
But my question is, have you ever come across Christian friends where the conversation like this came up organically when they started talking about their dating issues/problems?
It is interesting that the Bible says very little about dating though. As back in Biblical times women were more like commodities or married out of convenience and not really love. People married in their teens, and just learned to love someone without the issue of seeing "if you're compatible" or "if he was 6 feet or taller"....but save that for a new topic.