How can I tell if my boyfriend was sent from God?

baptistgirl21 said:

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now and I think it's getting pretty serious, but I'm not sure if he was sent from God. #1, he hardly ever, and I mean ever, talks about God. #2 He never goes to church with me and I'm not even sure if he goes to church. #3, he chooses video games over church and wonders why I disagree. And #4, he's okay with us doing "married couple" things before getting married, which I'm 100% not okay with.
Those are the red flags that tell me God hasn't chosen him for me.
If he was from God, wouldn't he speak and live for him? Wouldn't he choose to go to Church instead of playing silly games? Wouldn't he want to wait until marriage before we "do things"?
I'm very uncomfortable with all of this, but where he relies on me for his happiness, I can't leave him. I'm afraid he will hurt himself and it will be all my fault. I need some major advice

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So there is no evidence that he even goes to church? He's not for you. Maybe he will 'mature' into the role, or not.

What do you believe? Do you believe the only way you can have an abundant life is to marry and spend the rest of your life with this guy till death do you part? Or, do you believe the way to have abundant life is to seek God with all your heart. . No Matter What?

Choose only one. From what you have said, it is likely you can't have both at this time.

I'm sorry, but I see those RED FLAGS too! I'm in my seventies and I've seen a lot od mistakes that people make by decisions to marry non-Christians. You can tella true Christian by his compassion and doctrine. If you don't know your Bible you haven't become equipped to know the difference. But chevyontheriver is right.

baptistgirl21 said:

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now and I think it's getting pretty serious, but I'm not sure if he was sent from God. #1, he hardly ever, and I mean ever, talks about God. #2 He never goes to church with me and I'm not even sure if he goes to church. #3, he chooses video games over church and wonders why I disagree. And #4, he's okay with us doing "married couple" things before getting married, which I'm 100% not okay with.
Those are the red flags that tell me God hasn't chosen him for me.
If he was from God, wouldn't he speak and live for him? Wouldn't he choose to go to Church instead of playing silly games? Wouldn't he want to wait until marriage before we "do things"?
I'm very uncomfortable with all of this, but where he relies on me for his happiness, I can't leave him. I'm afraid he will hurt himself and it will be all my fault. I need some major advice

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To be blunt if he was from God he would be leading and encouraging you in your Christian service.
May I suggest two things.
1/ be blunt and tell him he is coming to church with you every Sunday.
You say you are getting serious with some person who does not go to church with you!
2/ if he say no, say good bye.

If he is not a Christian (and if he or anyone else it does not "guarantee" he is "the one") then he will not share your walk with Christ. If he wants to have sex he will have to look elsewhere. Stand firm in your faith. Remember you cannot demand that he "become a Christian or else". If he has no interest in what should be the most important relationship in your life (Christ) then it is time to become just friends. And remember, you are not alone...this happens all the time. Praying for you.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and concerns with us. These forums are great for sharing burdens and venting. It seems that you have all the answers of this situation. I think you did a very good evaluation about your relationship. It is important that the couple share the same beliefs, in this case it is important to make a relationship on the rock of God then to build a good foundation that early or late will lead both of you to getting married. It seems that your BF has others priorities than to live a life according to God. It is important that you marry someone who loves God with all his heart, soul and mind because it is in that way that he could love you, respect you and be faithful to you. If someone cannot love God, he will not able to love anyone. Therefore, it is best to both be on the same level of belief or be on the same page. If he cannot be willing to accept what it means to love and follow God’s laws, for example if you could try to invite him to attend with you to church and he choose to stay playing video games instead to go to church then it might be best to discern in prayer the right person for you. Definitely, if you are calling for marriage vocation God has a special man for you. I encourage you do not be afraid to be sincere with him and be clear what do you expect from him in a relationship. I encourage you to pray before to have a conversation and explain him what would you like to find in a man if you want to go further in a relationship. If you open your Bible you will see that God teaches us when we want to meet your soulmate: “Do not be yoked with those who are different, with unbelievers. For what partnership do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness? What accord has Christ with Beliar? Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?” 2 Cor 6,14. I hope this helps. Sending you hugs. I will keep you in my prayers my friend.

baptistgirl21 said:

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now and I think it's getting pretty serious, but I'm not sure if he was sent from God. #1, he hardly ever, and I mean ever, talks about God. #2 He never goes to church with me and I'm not even sure if he goes to church. #3, he chooses video games over church and wonders why I disagree. And #4, he's okay with us doing "married couple" things before getting married, which I'm 100% not okay with.
Those are the red flags that tell me God hasn't chosen him for me.
If he was from God, wouldn't he speak and live for him? Wouldn't he choose to go to Church instead of playing silly games? Wouldn't he want to wait until marriage before we "do things"?
I'm very uncomfortable with all of this, but where he relies on me for his happiness, I can't leave him. I'm afraid he will hurt himself and it will be all my fault. I need some major advice

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I agree, those are all red flags.

If he hurts himself, it won't be your fault if you're not specifically pushing him to hurt himself. You should encourage him to get professional help if you think he might.

baptistgirl21 said:

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now and I think it's getting pretty serious, but I'm not sure if he was sent from God. #1, he hardly ever, and I mean ever, talks about God. #2 He never goes to church with me and I'm not even sure if he goes to church. #3, he chooses video games over church and wonders why I disagree. And #4, he's okay with us doing "married couple" things before getting married, which I'm 100% not okay with.
Those are the red flags that tell me God hasn't chosen him for me.
If he was from God, wouldn't he speak and live for him? Wouldn't he choose to go to Church instead of playing silly games? Wouldn't he want to wait until marriage before we "do things"?
I'm very uncomfortable with all of this, but where he relies on me for his happiness, I can't leave him. I'm afraid he will hurt himself and it will be all my fault. I need some major advice

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Oh no, no, no.
"he relies on me for his happiness, I can't leave him. I'm afraid he will hurt himself and it will be all my fault."

Huge red flag- HUGE. Do not yoke yourself to this man.

You are not responsible for his happiness -he is.
You are not responsible for stoping him hurting himself. -he is

Run and do not look back.

Do you love him? Does he love you?

Maybe it is your task to convert him! Just maybe, God is asking you to guide this person to His loving arms?