Is it ok to remain single forever

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Some people say you need to get married before you reach a certain age and I’m almost 29 and I still don’t have anybody. I’m fine being alone, but is it in God’s plan for everybody to find someone or is it ok to be single as long as you live?
Yes, it is okay to be "single as long as you live." There is no biblical directive on who stays single, who gets married, etc. Personally, I would ask the Lord what He sees in your circumstances. I am almost 50, single, never been married, and don't have any children. I don't worry about it. If someone comes along great, if not, great. You are a child of God. The Lord doesn't love you based on your relationship status. He loves you based on your relationship status with Him through faith in Jesus Christ. Grace and Peace.
 
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Well everybody in my family is pushing me to find somebody now and get married but I know I’m not ready for any of that and I can’t get that through to them
Well, you have two choices; allow them to direct your life or you direct your life with the help of the Lord. He goes with you regardless. But, I wouldn't allow others to project their will for my life over what the Lord is leading me to do.
 
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That’s true given my history and emotional problems I face I think I’ve decided that I don’t want to be in a relationship. They seem so complicated to me I don’t know maybe it’s just me
My advice is to not look towards a relationship as the be all end all of your life. A wise man once said, "Whatever God blesses as a supplement, He will curse as a substitute." Cultivate your relationship with Jesus. As you grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and who you are in Christ, any earthly relationship you have will be one of you giving to them what God has given to you. Otherwise, you will just suck each other dry trying to get from the other that which they do not have to offer.
 
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That's tough! if it's God's will you can remain single.
The Bible encourages us to be single if we can. 1 Corinthians 7 is a good passage to read. Here is one verse: "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." 1 Corinthians 7:34
When we are single, we have more time for the Lord.
Praying your family will give you a break and that if you are to marry they can wait until the Lord's timing. God bless.
 
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That’s true given my history and emotional problems I face I think I’ve decided that I don’t want to be in a relationship. They seem so complicated to me I don’t know maybe it’s just me
I also think a relationship seems too complicated, especially in this day and age. We also take the chance of marrying someone who is not faithful. Now a days, I don't find the thought of marriage very appealing.
 
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I think you’ve answered the question. You’re not ready! Ask the Lord to prepare you for marriage if it isn’t His desire for you to remain alone.

My daughter is in the same boat and she’s near your age. We’re using her season of singleness for personal development and spiritual growth. While we’re making preparations for marriage and the realities of running a household and raising children. She hasn’t been pressured to make it happen. We’re allowing the Lord to order her steps and I recommend you do as well.

The next time the topic is raised remind your loved ones of the words from Psalm 127. The Lord builds the house not man.
 
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Families, friends, and society at large have much different ideas about what a person "should" do than some of us. Life can be perfectly awesome when you're single, so I don't think you should let people try to push you into doing something that you don't want or aren't ready for.

I tried marriage once, and after she cheated on me, it made trying to trust somebody else impossible.
 
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People are actually pretty stupid, I wouldn’t worry too much about what they say (including me). They don’t make the rules as much as they’d like to think they do!

The answer is yes tho, of course it’s okay. If you really want it, it can be hard waiting and maybe it will never happen so make your peace and live a good life no matter what cards you’re dealt.
 
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I know how you feel! I’m also tired of people telling me to find a guy. I used to cry and started questioning myself. Don’t be like me, doing this will never help you.


My advise for you is to pray to God to lead you to the right path and to tell your family members you’re not ready yet. Pray for them to understand :).


For other people especially strangers or nosy neighbors. Just look down on your phone and wear earphones even without music. Trust me it works like magic. ;)
 
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There is a great video on Ronnie & Mel’s YouTube channel where Mel talks about how she handled being single and what she thought God called her to do before she met Ronnie. Great interview and even me (as a guy) got a lot out of it. You should check it out and tell me what you think.

 
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That’s true given my history and emotional problems I face I think I’ve decided that I don’t want to be in a relationship. They seem so complicated to me I don’t know maybe it’s just me

Look, just know that when you reach your 40's, that it's not going to be a question about whether or not you want to be in a relationship---you're going to be too old for babies, you're not going to be as pretty as you are now, you'll likely be bigger, and the reality of it will hit you---you cannot have a relationship, all of your available men will be taken or not interested because they will be dating younger women. You will have missed the boat. My advice is to get married as soon as possible, so you are not middle-aged and dependent on your own salary. One day your parents will be gone, your siblings will have their children and grandchildren, and you will be old and alone. Once you start having severe health problems, there will be no children to help you. Get over yourself and get out there and find someone before its too late!!!!!!!

I once was like you and now I know I've missed out. I made bad decisions and passed up some (not all) men who would have loved me.
 
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Some people say you need to get married before you reach a certain age and I’m almost 29 and I still don’t have anybody. I’m fine being alone, but is it in God’s plan for everybody to find someone or is it ok to be single as long as you live?
Some people are called to singleness. Some people are called to be married.

Regardless, being married is not a higher state than singleness. And being single isn't a higher state than marriage. I think society gets too caught up in that mindset. :)

I think during singleness, it's important to figure out who you are and to grow as a person. I hear about someone who takes herself out on dates. I thought it was weird at first, but she explained to me about why she does and I think it's actually a really good idea and even apologized for judging the idea WAY too quickly.

She was always told who she was as a person from others, but she never knew who she was herself. So, she went to places out in the community to see if she liked them. Restaurants, movies, parks, etc. She would bring a journal and write out the things she did and if she liked them and she'd always end the journal entry with a positive thing she really enjoyed about herself or something she discovered about herself.
 
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I also think a relationship seems too complicated, especially in this day and age. We also take the chance of marrying someone who is not faithful. Now a days, I don't find the thought of marriage very appealing.

This has been my stance as well.... things were simpler back then. I'd hate to even think about going out with someone today...

to the OP, it's perfectly fine as long as it's not out of fear... I have siblings (both younger) and one is married already and looks to have kids next year so I am not the one being hounded on for grandkids ugh....
 
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It really depends on the person. Being single isn't easy a lot of the time but being in a relationship has it's own difficulties. For me the pressure and stress of a relationship would be too much and frankly I think it'd blow up in my face... for others though, maybe it's what they are destined for.

I had a friend who was younger than me and sometimes I worried that he was following in my footsteps despite not needing too. He was much better with people than me yet he had introverted qualities. After a breakup he was single for a long time. Then he finally got with a new woman and I think it's serious. So I was happy for him. Even though it was also bittersweet since us being single was one of things connecting us.
 
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Some people say you need to get married before you reach a certain age and I’m almost 29 and I still don’t have anybody. I’m fine being alone, but is it in God’s plan for everybody to find someone or is it ok to be single as long as you live?
Evidently it is. The Bible is full of Single people, all mightily used to the Glory of God.
 
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