Ok to date someone who is divorced?

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But bank robbery can?? No.

But what does repentance look like for a person who was sinned against by their spouse committing adultery and then divorcing them? Which sin are they supposed to be repenting from?
Besides this, the New Covenant has no divorce provision.
 
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Not for believers. The hard hearted.
Written to BELIEVERS:

Hebrews 3:15
while it is said, “Today if you hear His voice, Do not harden your hearts, as when they provoked Me.”
 
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Besides this, the New Covenant has no divorce provision.
There is a LOT of carryover from the Abrahamic to the Mosaic covenants, and from the Mosaic to the New Covenant.

The rule of ancient covenant renewal is anything not specifically addressed or deleted gets carried over as is.
 
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There is a LOT of carryover from the Abrahamic to the Mosaic covenants, and from the Mosaic to the New Covenant.

The rule of ancient covenant renewal is anything not specifically addressed or deleted gets carried over as is.
No mention of divorce as being a provision of God in the NT.
 
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Is it ok to be with this woman she had 2 civil marriages and that was before Christ came into her life and both relationships I believe the former husbands left her and cheated on her and abused her.. is it ok to be with her in this type of situation?
What do you mean by "be with"?

Dating is fine.. Having coffee is fine.. Socializing is fine..

Sometimes people mean "Sexual relations" when they say "be with".

If you are to date and propose and marry her... and you are both Christians.... why not?
 
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Divorce is not an option in the New Covenant. You are married for life even if separated.
Yes, she has become "One Flesh" with two other men and will always be spiritually connected to them. They will not be ever forgotten nor cease to have an affect on her present state of mind, even if she is unaware of it.

One thing I forgot to ask in my first post, Tainted, is one question we Christians all must ask ourselves when we decide to date the opposite sex is situation which could lead to marriage. That question is. "Am I ready to commit to a lifetime marital relationship of healthy relations including humility, totally open and vulnerable and honest communication, compromise, and sleflessness and ready to behave as described in Col 3, 1 Pt 3, and Ephes 5 with the love described in 1 Cor 13?" Many, in their youthful pride (and youthful lusts and enfatuations) jump the gun on preparing themselves for a VERY LONG, lifetime commitment to a relationship which will challenge them beyond their current imagination.
 
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What do you mean by "be with"?

Dating is fine.. Having coffee is fine.. Socializing is fine..

Sometimes people mean "Sexual relations" when they say "be with".

If you are to date and propose and marry her... and you are both Christians.... why not?

Yes, AFTER marriage. No one knows ahead of time whether or not a marriage will be consummated. People are left at the marriage alter ALONE every day some where.
 
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Is it ok to be with this woman she had 2 civil marriages and that was before Christ came into her life and both relationships I believe the former husbands left her and cheated on her and abused her.. is it ok to be with her in this type of situation?

Yes. Even if it was while she was a Christian, her former husbands cheated on her, left her and abused her which are reasons for divorce.
 
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No mention of divorce as being a provision of God in the NT.
There is no provision for using musical instruments in the NT either.

It is a carry over from the Mosaic covenant.
 
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Is it ok to be with this woman she had 2 civil marriages and that was before Christ came into her life and both relationships I believe the former husbands left her and cheated on her and abused her.. is it ok to be with her in this type of situation?
you should talk to your pastor about it. 100 people will have 100 opinions on it (and 100 verses to support it). Many will quote 1 Cor 7 that tells us if there is abonnement then you are not bound to your spouse. But 1 Cor 7 also tells us that we should remain as we are called and not look for a change of status after salvation.

What is better is to live in such a way that we give glory to God and at peace with the community around us. If your pastor gives you their blessings then you have that freedom, if they have conditions then meet those conditions, if they say no, then be ready to respect this choice. Pastors are supposed to be as shepherds and they have more tools than just preaching. reconciliation is always the better answer, so be prepared that this may be the answer from the pastor (or at least a condition).
 
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Is it ok to be with this woman she had 2 civil marriages and that was before Christ came into her life and both relationships I believe the former husbands left her and cheated on her and abused her.. is it ok to be with her in this type of situation?
Welcome! Only God knows the heart. And you my friend need to find out more information. You say you "believe" her former husbands left her, cheated on her and abused her. Do you actually know? The issue is not her past, it is her fruit. Now that she is a member of the Body of Christ changes occur that only the Holy Spirit can manifest in her life. That being said, proceed with caution, ask many questions and take your time to know her and her family. Not all who say they have been regenerated show the fruits of that regeneration.
Blessings
 
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