The problem with all this is that our churches are nothing like the Early Church of the First Century. After the 5th or 6th Century, the church became formalized, ceremonial and ritualistic, and was taken over by bishops who took the pre-eminence and asserted their authority, putting ordinary believers into a state of audience passivity. Also because of the reforms that Constantine introduced into the church in the 4th Century, many pagan ceremonies and beliefs were mixed in. As the true believers in the gifts of the Spirit died out, the gifts declined, because those who replaced them did not want ordinary believers using them because that would undermine the authority of the bishops, and ultimately the Bishop of Rome who became the head rooster of the church pyramid. He took on the role as the vicar of Christ and his "revelations" were accepted as equal to Holy Scripture. So the Church remained like this for 1000 years until the reformation.
There were movements throughout that time that believed in the gifts of the Spirit, including prophecy and tongues, but they were brutally suppressed by the established church and their literature destroyed.
In these days, our churches have not yet fully recovered from many of the issues that remain with the established church. In most churches, there is still the one-man band at the front performing to a passive audience. This is happening even in Pentecostal and Charismatic churches, where there is much hero worship of "big-name" ministries that advertise themselves as being closer to God than the common "herd" and are getting special revelation that the ordinary believer is not.
There are many who are trying to exercise the gifts of the Spirit, but largely are misusing them because they are doing them because it is "the doctrine of our church" rather than being genuinely moved by the Holy Spirit.
Also, because of the invasion of the occult and pagan mind-control into the Charismatic movement, many godly people, seeing the wacky and non-Scriptural stuff going on, prefer to keep right away from anything to do with tongues and prophecy, which is understandable.
1 Corinthians 14 is the only clear teaching on how to use the gift of tongues, privately and in public meetings. But there is no teaching on exactly how to receive these gifts, and there is certainly no instruction manual on how to use the other spiritual gifts listed in 1 Corinthians 12.
So, it is quite true that the spiritual gifts declined markedly after the 4th Century when Constantine took control of the early church. Some groups, mainly Pentecostal, teach that the Holy Spirit has restored these gifts to the church, but I'm not sure whether the gifts have been fully restored, because it seems quite clearly, that the church itself has not been fully restored to what it was in the First Century when the gifts were more widely manifested, and the gifts of prophecy and tongues were not a sideline to normal worship and private prayer.
So, perhaps in order to be assured that those who claim to have the gift of prophecy and to be able to pray in tongues, need to seek God about how to restore where they fellowship to be more aligned to what the early church was; But I really think that this won't happen, because most people are resistant to change and would feel more comfortable in their churches they way they are.
