Worries and Anxiety

Joshua S

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How do I overcome my anxiety and worries? I have a court sentencing in a month's time which will most likely be community service but I'm still worried about it. Very regretful of my actions which ended me up in court. I felt down today and a sudden intense emotional feeling of disbelief came over me. I reminded myself that the devil was taking advantage and that he would try to use masturbation next to destroy me, unfortunately while he didn't get me with the disbelief as my faith grew stronger when I trusted in God, I fell to the sinful temptation of masturbation. I worry I'm not good enough for God, I worry that I'm a mistake, I worry about finances, accommodation, and many more things. I just want to live peacefully.

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Bro I think God put me in this chat for a reason right now! I can tell you my story and hopefully you can find Joy and Peace independent of your circumstances like I did!!!!

So I married a Christian girl with Christian parents who loved Jesus, she was a missionary in a Christian rock band, super hot and awesome. We waited until we were married to have sex, the whole nine yards...

After 10 years of marriage and 2 kids, she sat me down and told me she didn’t love me anymore, I was a bad husband and father and person, and she didn’t believe in God anymore and wanted a divorce.

The pain was savage, I could barely function at work, she took the kids and wouldn’t let me see them hardly at all, and she lied to the courts making me out to be some kind of terrible person to try and keep the kids away. I was shook, I didn’t want to live. every single day was pure suffering all day for months and months. She agreed to come to counseling for awhile but she bailed and filed for divorce shortly after.

Later I found out she met a guy, and that’s what it was all about, but at the time she made me feel like a terrible person and a bad father.
Worry and stress about money and my family, my kids, my future were my constant companion. All I could do was exercise and run miles and miles every day to try and not think about it. I lost 50 pounds in two months lol...


One night at 3am I was tossing and turning and worrying like every night, and I clicked on this random Francis Chan sermon on YouTube about joy. He had a 5 sermon serious on joy from like 2009 or something I randomly stumbled across (hated listening to sermons btw). I remember crying out to God saying “I am always suffering and sad, why don’t I have this joy, please just give it to me, all these verses say you will if I ask, I’m asking.” And I remember feeling like God really listened to me in that moment. Like the worry and stress lessened some and I felt a weird peace despite all the trash in my life and horrible stuff, that he was going to take care of my kids.

I remember thinking it was probably fake and not real and I asked God if this is real, please help me feel this joy in the morning when I wake up. It was there when I woke up, and so I immediately started filling my mind with every YouTube sermon on joy I could find, and reading every verse in the Bible on joy, and most days I asked God to give me just another day of the joy. I became “the joy guy” to my family and friends because other regular stuff I used to talk about was replaced with this new thing man, it literally changed my life. I’ve come to a place where I understand the scripture teaches our joy can’t be taken away we have to give it up with worry, and that our joy can exist during suffering, in fact suffering is the best place to find joy. So I know when I give it up now, and I work to try and get it back.

I made this list of go to verses on joy in the beginning and any time I feel myself worrying or angry or suffering I just read through them. Even when my wife took my kids and ran off with the other dude, I was like raging with jealousy but I couldn’t get through the list of verses without getting back the joy. I hope they can help you man. Fill your mind with the word, and listen to dudes like John Piper on YouTube and Francis Chan on joy even if you hate sermons...Piper is obsessed with the joy and peace of Christ, he’s a junky. It’s the only way to live and I regret nothing in my past because I have it now because of all that.


Who knows man, if your court date and legal troubles brought you to this forum, and this posts brings you to those scriptures, and those scriptures bring you to infinite joy and peace in Jesus, it’s all worth it. Our pain isn’t wasted, it all has the purpose of confirming us to Christ.

also you ain’t good enough for God neither am I. His son bled on a cross to make us white as snow!!!! It’s not us it’s Him that’s enough.

prayers up my guy, if you want more stuff like the sermons I listened to and more ways I got into the joy send me a message here
-Jay
 
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Hello all

How do I overcome my anxiety and worries? I have a court sentencing in a month's time which will most likely be community service but I'm still worried about it. Very regretful of my actions which ended me up in court. I felt down today and a sudden intense emotional feeling of disbelief came over me. I reminded myself that the devil was taking advantage and that he would try to use masturbation next to destroy me, unfortunately while he didn't get me with the disbelief as my faith grew stronger when I trusted in God, I fell to the sinful temptation of masturbation. I worry I'm not good enough for God, I worry that I'm a mistake, I worry about finances, accommodation, and many more things. I just want to live peacefully.

Any advice?

The best way to overcome any bad life is to learn to love God above all, love yourself with His love and then love your neighbour as you love yourself. That is how you will find peace for your soul and a heavenly joy which cannot be taken away by even extreme hardships. God knows you, He knows you are weak that is why He brought Jesus about. Jesus paid our price. Good life with God is for free to all those who make His love their own.

Peace.
 
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Hello all

How do I overcome my anxiety and worries? I have a court sentencing in a month's time which will most likely be community service but I'm still worried about it. Very regretful of my actions which ended me up in court. I felt down today and a sudden intense emotional feeling of disbelief came over me. I reminded myself that the devil was taking advantage and that he would try to use masturbation next to destroy me, unfortunately while he didn't get me with the disbelief as my faith grew stronger when I trusted in God, I fell to the sinful temptation of masturbation. I worry I'm not good enough for God, I worry that I'm a mistake, I worry about finances, accommodation, and many more things. I just want to live peacefully.

Any advice?

Seek the Lord wholeheartedly to the point that you are resolved to be His, to serve Him, praise Him, and live to please Him no matter what happens to you. If you do that you have the most important matter right; and everything else then is relatively small and not worth fretting over since there is the promise in God's Word that those who do this will not be tempted greater than they are able to bear (1 Corinthians 10:13).

Matthew 6:24-33: "24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. 25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? 26 Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? 27 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? 28 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: 29 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith? 31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? 32 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. 33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."

Revelation 14:6-7: "6 And I saw another angel fly in the midst of heaven, having the everlasting gospel to preach unto them that dwell on the earth, and to every nation, and kindred, and tongue, and people, 7 Saying with a loud voice, Fear God, and give glory to him; for the hour of his judgment is come: and worship him that made heaven, and earth, and the sea, and the fountains of waters."
 
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worry I'm not good enough for God

Let me set your mind at rest on this one. None of us are good enough for God.
Please don't Panic.

We are saved because Jesus loves us inspire of our failings. The good news is you or I do not have to be good to deserve Gods love.

As to your other worries and anxieties, if they are affecting your life, sleep etc please see a doctor.
Anxiety etc is a mental condition that does respond to treatment. Often therapy that teaches one how to minimise the anxiety.

Temptation to sin. Get rid of anything that encourages you to sin. Use anti virus filters to block inappropriate content, trash any magerzine etc
The problem with temptation is input minds we want the sin and because of that do not resist it.
 
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Hello all

How do I overcome my anxiety and worries? I have a court sentencing in a month's time which will most likely be community service but I'm still worried about it. Very regretful of my actions which ended me up in court. I felt down today and a sudden intense emotional feeling of disbelief came over me. I reminded myself that the devil was taking advantage and that he would try to use masturbation next to destroy me, unfortunately while he didn't get me with the disbelief as my faith grew stronger when I trusted in God, I fell to the sinful temptation of masturbation. I worry I'm not good enough for God, I worry that I'm a mistake, I worry about finances, accommodation, and many more things. I just want to live peacefully.

Any advice?
Take things a step at a time. We can't move mountains! You are blessed that you have a conscience, this means the Holy Spirit is working in your life. We all have to suffer consequences for our actions and through your suffering you have become closer to the Lord. Here is a Word for encouragement.
17 Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness in the day of judgment; because as He is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. 19 We love Him because He first loved us. 1 John 4
 
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