Are My Christian Parents Stagnating Their Autistic Adult Child (Me)?

I've talked about this on FB in a group (and maybe someone in the forums is already there, who knows?), but, being 32 years old and still living with my parents is not the disappointing part, given that the American economy is kind of crappy in regards to consumerism or such, my brother of 30 finally starting a project to build his own house that he'll move into sometime in mid-2020.

But with me, it's like I don't even matter half the time or I'm an afterthought, like my NT brother is more a priority in general and I just have to wait, because apparently trying to help me become independent is too "hard". I want to say part of the issue is the subtle ableism from Autism Speaks that is probably what my parents are more familiar with in the idea of autism being something "bad" or a "challenge".

And I have to wonder if others have more insight into a Christian perspective on autism, especially those that may be unintentionally damaging and ableist

Been trying to get the process of applying for disability and such through Vocational Rehabilitation started, though even that's coming into issues (because I'd rather email the counselor rather than call but their email redirects, either deactivated or changed, pretty sure I typed in the right email)

It's going to come to them learning about it at some point or another (because I'll need transportation, since the idea of me learning to drive myself is apparently not important, for one reason or another, not that they didn't try when I was 16) and I'm posting some videos regarding these issues around New Years for my family and friends to watch (or listen, the imagery isn't that important, no visual aides or such used), thought I'd post it here. And it's a playlist more than videos, but yeah, I recall I need to explain the video when posting such things

Personal Processing - YouTube

Not remotely defending whatever bad things they may be doing, but that seems to violate Hanlon's razor in attributing some malice to them, or even worse, just bluntly calling them dumb instead of trying to fix the problem in some way

Sure, their Christianity may be incidental, but the title drew attention (eventually), so it balances out, I' argue

The problem is partly on me in terms of not necessarily giving as comprehensive a description as possible about their behavior, you'd need to ask specific questions to better qualify such things.

I feel like you could contribute in some way on a topic I made in a different part of the Mental Health forums, here's the link: Are My Parents Stagnating Their Autistic Adult Child (Me)?

There's been a lot of advice and it's helpful, but at the same time, it's also the one step forward, 2 steps back problem of sorts.