Hannah Griffin
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It says somewhere in the Bible (can't remember where) that we should be careful of our thoughts as our thoughts determine our whole life. So if you are having negative thoughts, then the only way to get rid of them is by replacing them with good thoughts. If you have to fake it until it feels real then that's what to do. So if you see your worst enemy in the street for example and your first instinct is totally negative and you want to react that way, then by all means fake a smile and the reaction you will get will no doubt be positive which in turn ill make you feel good. Life is all cause and effect. Negativity attracts more negativity and positivity attracts more positivity. So I say fake it until eventually you don't have to fake it no more as it will just feel so good. Start each day with gratitude and this tends to wipe out negativity.I've been under some stress and dealing with some issues. Common threads on those issues extend across home life, church, and work.
So my head wasn't in a real good place this morning. Very negative thoughts. The more I prayed, "Lord, help me have a positive attitude no matter what," the more painfully negative my thoughts became. But then when I prayed, "Lord, help me FAKE a positive attitude no matter what," it actually became easier. People can see me smiling and being friendly, and not know I'm a pressure cooker on the inside. And really, the world couldn't care less what's going on inside me. All they really care about is the outward behavior.
And that seemed to work. People asked, "How are you doing?" And I smiled and answered, "Fine. And you?" I don't really like the idea of being "fake." It feels hypocritical. But I told myself I wasn't really being dishonest. The question was, "How are you doing?" Not, "How are you feeling?" If anybody had asked me how I was feeling, I might have been forced to answer differently.
Is there something morally questionable about this "fake it 'til you make it" philosophy? Where is the line between that and hypocrisy?
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