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I know I will probably regret posting this here, but this is about the only place that I can turn to with this. So here it goes.
I joined this forum when I was a baby-faced 20-year-old college student, trying to find my way in a very confusing world. Within months of joining this forum, I began to look towards the East, and though it was a long journey, I eventually became a full member of the Holy Orthodox Church. I don't for a minute regret my decision. Orthodoxy is full, and Orthodoxy is true - that is fact. I can thank this forum, in part, for teaching me that.
Yet, despite my love for Orthodoxy, recently I have begun to get frustrated with it as well.
I am almost 27 years old now, and while I have Christ - I also feel dreadfully alone. I want to get married, and I want to have a family, as most people do. I have followed all the advice laid out on this forum over the years. I have prayed. I have gotten deeply involved with parish life. I have never in my life had illicit relations with anyone, and I have always tried to treat people with love and respect. Yet, despite this, I have not been blessed to meet anyone who could be my partner.
I know what some of you are thinking, "oh great, another one of these threads." Yet, if you are thinking that way, do you actually know how hard it is to meet a single Orthodox person in the United States? Do you understand the pain that some of your fellow believers are going through with this issue? It's not a joking matter.
There is one lousy Orthodox dating website available that barely has any users on it, and there is a scattering of meetup events for undergraduate aged students to get together. That is it. If there are no Orthodox singles in your area and you are no longer a college student, then you are out of luck.
And that is where I get so frustrated. The Orthodox Church expects me to follow a set of moral rules that are very difficult to follow in the context of the United States. I have to find an Orthodox girl (or a virtuous non-Orthodox Christian) without any help or support, act chaste before marriage in a society that practically worships unchaste behavior, and do it without complaints. Where is the help? Where is the support? Is the Orthodox Church content to let their single members fall behind the rest of the flock? Because from my very frustrated vantage point, I feel like a sheep who has been left behind.
I'm out of options. I will keep praying and hold out hope that someone will come along, but if nobody does, I am actually scared that I might give in to the temptation of secular dating. So please pray for me, and if you are in a position to help single people at your parish, then please help them. Don't brush their concerns off, be a shoulder that they can lean on.
I joined this forum when I was a baby-faced 20-year-old college student, trying to find my way in a very confusing world. Within months of joining this forum, I began to look towards the East, and though it was a long journey, I eventually became a full member of the Holy Orthodox Church. I don't for a minute regret my decision. Orthodoxy is full, and Orthodoxy is true - that is fact. I can thank this forum, in part, for teaching me that.
Yet, despite my love for Orthodoxy, recently I have begun to get frustrated with it as well.
I am almost 27 years old now, and while I have Christ - I also feel dreadfully alone. I want to get married, and I want to have a family, as most people do. I have followed all the advice laid out on this forum over the years. I have prayed. I have gotten deeply involved with parish life. I have never in my life had illicit relations with anyone, and I have always tried to treat people with love and respect. Yet, despite this, I have not been blessed to meet anyone who could be my partner.
I know what some of you are thinking, "oh great, another one of these threads." Yet, if you are thinking that way, do you actually know how hard it is to meet a single Orthodox person in the United States? Do you understand the pain that some of your fellow believers are going through with this issue? It's not a joking matter.
There is one lousy Orthodox dating website available that barely has any users on it, and there is a scattering of meetup events for undergraduate aged students to get together. That is it. If there are no Orthodox singles in your area and you are no longer a college student, then you are out of luck.
And that is where I get so frustrated. The Orthodox Church expects me to follow a set of moral rules that are very difficult to follow in the context of the United States. I have to find an Orthodox girl (or a virtuous non-Orthodox Christian) without any help or support, act chaste before marriage in a society that practically worships unchaste behavior, and do it without complaints. Where is the help? Where is the support? Is the Orthodox Church content to let their single members fall behind the rest of the flock? Because from my very frustrated vantage point, I feel like a sheep who has been left behind.
I'm out of options. I will keep praying and hold out hope that someone will come along, but if nobody does, I am actually scared that I might give in to the temptation of secular dating. So please pray for me, and if you are in a position to help single people at your parish, then please help them. Don't brush their concerns off, be a shoulder that they can lean on.