Should you leave a partner over weight gain/old age

Notmyname · Nov 16, 2019

I think you guys are missing my point here.

Yes I am aware that a husband should provide for his family and I 100% agree with that because that’s his job but if he were to hypothetically stop providing money the wife would probably leave him.

If the husband were broke the wife would be out the door so because of that I think that justifies leaving his wife for a prettier one.

That’s what I’m trying to get at.
Here’s a dialogue of what’s im trying to get at

Millionaire husband: if I were to stop providing income for you, you would be out the door

Wife: Yes

Millionaire husband: That’s why I’m leaving you for a younger women

Notmyname · Nov 16, 2019

if the income stopped would you’re wife still stick around

Probably not

So why would you stick around if she gets old or fat

coffee4u · Nov 16, 2019

If he can't provide due to health then no, she should not leave. Her job is to look after him. Sickness is part of the marriage vows. I can't think of any other reason for him not trying his hardest to provide a roof over their heads and meals on the table. If he has been fired he needs to be out trying to get another job. I think it's also perfectly fine if they come to a mutual agreement that he will stay home and look after things and she works.

In your case above that would make her a gold digger which is equally a bad. That sounds like she married him for his money in which case I highly doubt she is a Christian woman and he also sounds faraway from God. Very few people are millionaires, many of us are happy to just make ends meet.

The pair of them are equally as shallow as each other. I will tell you what matters to most women and it isn't money, it's love.
Epheasians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her

Notmyname · Nov 16, 2019

coffee4u said:
If he can't provide due to health then no, she should not leave. Her job is to look after him. Sickness is part of the marriage vows. I can't think of any other reason for him not trying his hardest to provide a roof over their heads and meals on the table. If he has been fired he needs to be out trying to get another job. I think it's also perfectly fine if they come to a mutual agreement that he will stay home and look after things and she works.

In your case above that would make her a gold digger which is equally a bad. That sounds like she married him for his money in which case I highly doubt she is a Christian woman and he also sounds faraway from God. Very few people are millionaires, many of us are happy to just make ends meet.

The pair of them are equally as shallow as each other. I will tell you what matters to most women and it isn't money, it's love.
Epheasians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her

Yeah that’s what i was getting at, I guess I didn’t explain it in the right context or maybe I needed to be more blunt, but yeah gold diggers was what I was talking about.

RDKirk · Nov 16, 2019

Notmyname said:
I think you guys are missing my point here.

Yes I am aware that a husband should provide for his family and I 100% agree with that because that’s his job but if he were to hypothetically stop providing money the wife would probably leave him.

Except it is not true that the majority of wives desert men without jobs. You keep saying it, but it's not true.

There are millions of men who lose their jobs, lose income, and their wives stay with them. You keep repeating a falsehood.

Now, a man on hard times is not the same thing as a man who won't try to support his family.

Most wives, even among non-Christians, do not leave a husband who is doing all he can to support her.

RDKirk · Nov 16, 2019

Notmyname said:
if the income stopped would you’re wife still stick around

She did.

RaymondG · Nov 16, 2019

Redwingfan9 said:
The only way to justifiably end marriage is adultery. Anything else is unbiblical.

Actually it's fornication.

Pedra · Nov 16, 2019

What does the Bible have to say about marriage? that should be the only guidance or advice sought by a Christian.

S.O.J.I.A. · Nov 16, 2019

being a deadbeat lay-about is not biblical justification to end a marriage.

morphing into a landwhale is not biblical justification to end a marriage.

"for better or for worse"..

Paidiske · Nov 16, 2019

Notmyname said:
if the income stopped would you’re wife still stick around

Probably not

As RDKirk said, this is a false premise. Most couples, over a lifetime, will have some variation in their financial situation. Most wives don't leave for that reason.

I can tell you that I, at least, am quite happy being the breadwinner for our household, and I am grateful and all the more committed to my husband for his willingness to take on the more domestic role in our marriage.

Anguspure · Nov 16, 2019

Notmyname said:
if the income stopped would you’re wife still stick around

Probably not

So why would you stick around if she gets old or fat

Because your marital covenant with her is unilateral.

If it was a bilateral, conditional covenant then the agreement would point out the terms of the marriage in ways that implied a penalty or termination in the event one or both partners failed to meet the conditions of the agreement.

But marriage covenants (Christian ones at least) are not of this nature (in imitation of the covenant that YHWH has made with us). The standard Christian marriage vow has each party unilaterally promising to Love and hold the other "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part."

Note that there is no condition put on the vow, it is simply a promise about what one person is going to do for the other, and makes no provision for the other party to do anything in return.

So the reason you would stick around is because you have vowed that you will.

blackribbon · Nov 16, 2019

Notmyname said:
I still don’t believe unconditional love exists, I still think a husband is in the right to leave his wife and find another younger prettier one ect because a wife would probably leave her husband if he didn’t bring money or the lifestyle to the table.

It’s one of those double standards
If a women divorces her husband because he can’t or doesn’t want to provide money or the lifestyle she wants, she’s met with praise, you deserve a better man ect.

Yet if a husband divorces his wife because she’s old or has gained weight his probably going to be labeled with all types of names.

It was very interesting to see the opinions of others though. I’m only a teenager so maybe my opinions will change later on idk.

I'd suggest that you don't marry. None of your reasons are valid reasons to divorce a person in a Christian marriage. If you don't understand this, then you are not ready to pick a spouse or get married.

coffee4u · Nov 16, 2019

Notmyname said:
if the income stopped would you’re wife still stick around

Probably not

So why would you stick around if she gets old or fat

That is not an accurate picture of reality. If this is how you think or view women something warped your view.
The correct answer is, yes most women would stay.

Some would leave later but the reason for leaving is more likely to do with the relationship. It's easy for a man to blame it on the income when in reality it was more to do with his attitude. A man without an income tends to be angry, depressed and blaming others.
Only a small amount of women would leave due to the loss of money as a first response. Not just women marry for money or some kind of status though, men do too.

Sweeping generalizations about an entire group are just that and always wrong because every person is an individual. You can't lump all women together, the same way you can't lump all men, all Catholics, all Asians, all 'insert group' here.

mmksparbud · Nov 17, 2019

Notmyname said:
I still don’t believe unconditional love exists, I still think a husband is in the right to leave his wife and find another younger prettier one ect because a wife would probably leave her husband if he didn’t bring money or the lifestyle to the table.

It’s one of those double standards
If a women divorces her husband because he can’t or doesn’t want to provide money or the lifestyle she wants, she’s met with praise, you deserve a better man ect.

Yet if a husband divorces his wife because she’s old or has gained weight his probably going to be labeled with all types of names.

It was very interesting to see the opinions of others though. I’m only a teenager so maybe my opinions will change later on idk.

And if the one that happens to be old, ugly, fat, and sick is you---you then should have no problem with her leaving you for a younger, healthier, better looking version?
God keeps His vows, He expects us to keep ours. Man's love may be conditional---those that follow God are to become more like Him in character, otherwise you will only have this life. Those who become more like the character of God will love like He does. And that means, unconditional love. A mother of a serial killer may hate what he has become, but ask the mother of one---she still loves her son.
You are still a teenager, the brain still is developing until age 22---providing your mother has been a good mother---are you going to dump her for a younger, thinner prettier mother? How about your dad---if he was a good father, dump him for a better looking, stronger, richer one? I strongly suggest you do not get married until you are about 30---give your brain time to catch up to you.

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