- Apr 15, 2019
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I know I have posted on here about this a few times previously, but everyday I engage in self-retrospection, as I think we all do.
Okay, I am always labeled "quiet" by others, a label which I constantly struggle to accept by others or allow others to define me. I feel as though people use it to compare me to others and I just think it shows a lack of self control on one's part for someone to tell someone "you are quiet" because I don't fit their world (or box) of how others are supposed to act. No one tells anyone they are "loud" or if they have a bad haircut, for example. I find that I am able to be more attuned to things than others who are constantly chattering. I only speak when necessary, i.e. I have something (meaningful) to express. I have a co-worker who tells me that I am "quiet" and this often frustrates me on the inside, and also when others tell me this. I just do not understand why people have to measure someone's worth based on the number of words they speak. But my thing is too is that often people have mundane conversations and I just feel as though I can predict what others are going to say in conversation. Rarely do I find people that have intellectually stimulating or meaningful conversations. I am not saying that people have to talk to me about Calculus or be an Einstein, but small talk becomes draining to me at times. Besides, I work in a workplace where everyone always talk about drinking or often curses. So, I just feel as though I do not fit in with others or that others are too worldly, and do not "get me". I am not trying to sound condescending, I am a very nice person, as others have told me also, I just find it hard to find people who understand me. If someone tells me that I am "quiet," it only distances me from that person and causes me to shut them out even more. I just think people should be careful with their tongues because they never know what others have gone through and should not try to make others be like them, because it makes them comfortable. Is there something wrong with me because I feel as though I rarely come across people who have meaningful conversations? Also, not sure if this is important or not, but I tend to lose a slight interest in jobs or things that seem to become too routine, but at the same time I prefer routine because I like predictability! What do you all think about all of this? (I am still trying to figure myself out).
Thanks in advance for your comments.
Okay, I am always labeled "quiet" by others, a label which I constantly struggle to accept by others or allow others to define me. I feel as though people use it to compare me to others and I just think it shows a lack of self control on one's part for someone to tell someone "you are quiet" because I don't fit their world (or box) of how others are supposed to act. No one tells anyone they are "loud" or if they have a bad haircut, for example. I find that I am able to be more attuned to things than others who are constantly chattering. I only speak when necessary, i.e. I have something (meaningful) to express. I have a co-worker who tells me that I am "quiet" and this often frustrates me on the inside, and also when others tell me this. I just do not understand why people have to measure someone's worth based on the number of words they speak. But my thing is too is that often people have mundane conversations and I just feel as though I can predict what others are going to say in conversation. Rarely do I find people that have intellectually stimulating or meaningful conversations. I am not saying that people have to talk to me about Calculus or be an Einstein, but small talk becomes draining to me at times. Besides, I work in a workplace where everyone always talk about drinking or often curses. So, I just feel as though I do not fit in with others or that others are too worldly, and do not "get me". I am not trying to sound condescending, I am a very nice person, as others have told me also, I just find it hard to find people who understand me. If someone tells me that I am "quiet," it only distances me from that person and causes me to shut them out even more. I just think people should be careful with their tongues because they never know what others have gone through and should not try to make others be like them, because it makes them comfortable. Is there something wrong with me because I feel as though I rarely come across people who have meaningful conversations? Also, not sure if this is important or not, but I tend to lose a slight interest in jobs or things that seem to become too routine, but at the same time I prefer routine because I like predictability! What do you all think about all of this? (I am still trying to figure myself out).
Thanks in advance for your comments.
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