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If any of you have followed my spiritual journey at all knows that i've been struggling a lot. Over the last 5 months, things have been stable, though still difficult and i was still confused and I kept asking God for help and to erase this confusion which never happened. I had tried explaining how back btwn last Feb-April, I had been experiencing 'changes' and was getting several a day until it leveled off and became stable btwn May-Oct 31. Nov 1 hit and I began to experience these 'changes' again and again more difficult then it had been. I can't deal w/ it being more difficult. I hadn't conquered what God had given me previously and I kept asking God to make it easier, not harder and yet, it's harder yet again. Nov 1, I experienced 2 changes, Nov 2, one, Nov 3, 2 and today 3-4 so far. I am nervous, I do not know how to stay faithful throughout all this again. Confusion reigns supreme still. I am holding on, staying firm, yet, unhappy. This morning, I again prayed for God to remove this confusion from me and to make staying faithful easier. God did give me peace for about a half an hour, but, then awoke to a difficult 'feeling' ---

All, I ask, if you reply, Do NOT tell me I can't rely on my feelings. I had lived by feelings Only for 18 full years w/ everything God put me through and now, it's still feelings. Yes, I know feelings lie, yes, i know you're not supposed to live by your feelings, but, i don't know any other way bc of everything I've been thru in the last 18 yrs.

I cannot handle this negativity. This is extremely difficult. Another test/trial/whatever. I absolutely HATE this. I feel like letting go. I can't say this is as bad as things were 6 months ago, but, this is bad, negative.

I remember my one friend telling me how God doesn't give us anything negative bc he doesn't want us to fail but he allows satan to tempt us and that is what can feel negative but, that God won't allow the negative to stay long and that he'll deliver me again... so... i just need to hang in there and wait.

I'm not sure if I want advice bc I know from the past, people on here have condemned me for my explaining about these feelings and changes. It's what I'm going thru. Just believe it and don't condemn me for it.
 

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I'm not sure if I want advice bc I know from the past, people on here have condemned me for my explaining about these feelings and changes. It's what I'm going thru. Just believe it and don't condemn me for it.
Deal. I'm not going to condemn you. Please do not take anything I say as condemnation of you, because that is not what I intend.

If any of you have followed my spiritual journey at all knows that i've been struggling a lot. Over the last 5 months, things have been stable, though still difficult and i was still confused and I kept asking God for help and to erase this confusion which never happened. I had tried explaining how back btwn last Feb-April, I had been experiencing 'changes' and was getting several a day until it leveled off and became stable btwn May-Oct 31. Nov 1 hit and I began to experience these 'changes' again and again more difficult then it had been. I can't deal w/ it being more difficult. I hadn't conquered what God had given me previously and I kept asking God to make it easier, not harder and yet, it's harder yet again. Nov 1, I experienced 2 changes, Nov 2, one, Nov 3, 2 and today 3-4 so far. I am nervous, I do not know how to stay faithful throughout all this again. Confusion reigns supreme still. I am holding on, staying firm, yet, unhappy. This morning, I again prayed for God to remove this confusion from me and to make staying faithful easier. God did give me peace for about a half an hour, but, then awoke to a difficult 'feeling' ---
What confuses you?

All, I ask, if you reply, Do NOT tell me I can't rely on my feelings. I had lived by feelings Only for 18 full years w/ everything God put me through and now, it's still feelings. Yes, I know feelings lie, yes, i know you're not supposed to live by your feelings, but, i don't know any other way bc of everything I've been thru in the last 18 yrs.

I cannot handle this negativity. This is extremely difficult. Another test/trial/whatever. I absolutely HATE this. I feel like letting go. I can't say this is as bad as things were 6 months ago, but, this is bad, negative.
Seems like you could be cutting off your own way out of this, just saying. I've been imprisoned by my own feelings before. I had to put my faith in truth over feelings in order to get free. If that is what is happening to you now, that is the only way out that I know to recommend.

I remember my one friend telling me how God doesn't give us anything negative bc he doesn't want us to fail but he allows satan to tempt us and that is what can feel negative but, that God won't allow the negative to stay long and that he'll deliver me again... so... i just need to hang in there and wait.
Maybe you do just need to hang in there and wait. I can't tell you how long that is going to be. I don't know how temporary this is. A mood swing is a lot more temporary than a forced amputation or the loss of a child. I also disagree with your friend that God doesn't give us anything negative. Even for the Christian who has been born again and forgiven, that is wrong (1 Cor 11:32, Heb 12:4-12, Rev 3:19).
 
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I struggle with negativity a lot myself. Honestly, I still don't know fully how to deal with it. But I came across a few things that enlightened me.

1. Take some time to meditate The Bile says to meditate on God's word, so meditation isn't only for Buddhists and New Age yoga instructors. Simply clearing your mind and focusing on a good memory you have of God, or even just letting everything go and just repeating Jesus' name, can be very good for your mental health. Playing soothing music, burning scented candles, and using essential oils can help as well.

2. Make yourself a mantra Declare what you want to be true, even if you don't feel like it is. Say to yourself, "I am free. I am loved by God. I am free and strong. No fear or confusion has any control over me." Say it whenever you're feeling oppressed, and keep saying it until you believe it.

3. Remember, God is on your side And I don't just mean that "He's watching over you", because that's something every Christian knows. I mean that He made you the way He did for a reason, and maybe these struggles and confusions are a way of Him trying to beak away Satan's hold on you.
Keep in mind, Satan has many faces, and one of his favorite masks to wear is a mask of Jesus. If you are confused, go to the Bible. If the Bible doesn't address your problem, then ask yourself if you are confused over the rules of God, or the rules of Man. Man makes up a lot of rules, and Jesus often called out the Pharisees for following the rules of men instead of the rules of God. God's way is the way of peace. If you are truly seeking Him, and you feel peace, then that is a sign you are on the right path. Satan can give many things, but peace is not one of them.

And remember, worry only about what God says, not about man. I have a number of ideas on how Christians should deal with their approach to sex and the body that would probably be very unpopular with Christians, but I don't care because I answer to Christ, and he has given me peace and shown me what I now know is His way. But it took me a while to accept this peace and God's goodness, because I was living by the laws of man, and thought that my thoughts and ideas were wrong. I would pray constantly, unable to accept that the peace I felt was genuine, and it was a few years before I fully accepted the peace that God gave me that said that His way is not the way of man, and that to live in Him is to be free not only of sin and the flesh, but of the bonds of religion that Satan creates, posing as God so that He might steal our freedom and our joy.
God gave us all the rules we need in the Bible very clearly. God does not change. With these two pieces of information, you can tackle almost any lie that comes your way, and remember, what is not of God is of man and/or Satan. If it's not in the Bible, then God obviously didn't think it worth mentioning. Beware those who twist the Scriptures to defame what God made. And most of all, remember this: if you seek God, he will seek you. And you will know when you are with Him, because He will give you peace.
 
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If any of you have followed my spiritual journey at all knows that i've been struggling a lot. Over the last 5 months, things have been stable, though still difficult and i was still confused and I kept asking God for help and to erase this confusion which never happened. I had tried explaining how back btwn last Feb-April, I had been experiencing 'changes' and was getting several a day until it leveled off and became stable btwn May-Oct 31. Nov 1 hit and I began to experience these 'changes' again and again more difficult then it had been. I can't deal w/ it being more difficult. I hadn't conquered what God had given me previously and I kept asking God to make it easier, not harder and yet, it's harder yet again. Nov 1, I experienced 2 changes, Nov 2, one, Nov 3, 2 and today 3-4 so far. I am nervous, I do not know how to stay faithful throughout all this again. Confusion reigns supreme still. I am holding on, staying firm, yet, unhappy. This morning, I again prayed for God to remove this confusion from me and to make staying faithful easier. God did give me peace for about a half an hour, but, then awoke to a difficult 'feeling' ---

All, I ask, if you reply, Do NOT tell me I can't rely on my feelings. I had lived by feelings Only for 18 full years w/ everything God put me through and now, it's still feelings. Yes, I know feelings lie, yes, i know you're not supposed to live by your feelings, but, i don't know any other way bc of everything I've been thru in the last 18 yrs.

I cannot handle this negativity. This is extremely difficult. Another test/trial/whatever. I absolutely HATE this. I feel like letting go. I can't say this is as bad as things were 6 months ago, but, this is bad, negative.

I remember my one friend telling me how God doesn't give us anything negative bc he doesn't want us to fail but he allows satan to tempt us and that is what can feel negative but, that God won't allow the negative to stay long and that he'll deliver me again... so... i just need to hang in there and wait.

I'm not sure if I want advice bc I know from the past, people on here have condemned me for my explaining about these feelings and changes. It's what I'm going thru. Just believe it and don't condemn me for it.
God is not the One who condemns and neither should His people. You do need to make God's word your absolute authority. Read the scriptures that tell you what God has done for you in Christ. Put your faith in God's facts. Start with Ephesians and see who you are in Christ. Read Romans 8. You are depending on yourself. Forget that, no one is that good. Make sure that you tell God that you cannot live the Christian life and ask Lord Jesus to live out His life in place of what you used to be. If Jesus can be depressed, so can you. If Jesus can fail, so can you. But if Jesus cannot fail and Jesus cannot be depressed, then neither should we fail or be depressed. You have the victory in Christ. You need to know it in your heart, not just mentally. God will show you. Ask Him.
 
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If any of you have followed my spiritual journey at all knows that i've been struggling a lot. Over the last 5 months, things have been stable, though still difficult and i was still confused and I kept asking God for help and to erase this confusion which never happened. I had tried explaining how back btwn last Feb-April, I had been experiencing 'changes' and was getting several a day until it leveled off and became stable btwn May-Oct 31. Nov 1 hit and I began to experience these 'changes' again and again more difficult then it had been. I can't deal w/ it being more difficult. I hadn't conquered what God had given me previously and I kept asking God to make it easier, not harder and yet, it's harder yet again. Nov 1, I experienced 2 changes, Nov 2, one, Nov 3, 2 and today 3-4 so far. I am nervous, I do not know how to stay faithful throughout all this again. Confusion reigns supreme still. I am holding on, staying firm, yet, unhappy. This morning, I again prayed for God to remove this confusion from me and to make staying faithful easier. God did give me peace for about a half an hour, but, then awoke to a difficult 'feeling' ---

All, I ask, if you reply, Do NOT tell me I can't rely on my feelings. I had lived by feelings Only for 18 full years w/ everything God put me through and now, it's still feelings. Yes, I know feelings lie, yes, i know you're not supposed to live by your feelings, but, i don't know any other way bc of everything I've been thru in the last 18 yrs.

I cannot handle this negativity. This is extremely difficult. Another test/trial/whatever. I absolutely HATE this. I feel like letting go. I can't say this is as bad as things were 6 months ago, but, this is bad, negative.

I remember my one friend telling me how God doesn't give us anything negative bc he doesn't want us to fail but he allows satan to tempt us and that is what can feel negative but, that God won't allow the negative to stay long and that he'll deliver me again... so... i just need to hang in there and wait.

I'm not sure if I want advice bc I know from the past, people on here have condemned me for my explaining about these feelings and changes. It's what I'm going thru. Just believe it and don't condemn me for it.

The best advice I have been given when I have what I call my "times" is that I won't always feel that way.
I do like to think on "Be still and know that I am God" Psalm 46:10a.

Sometimes it comes down to simply recognising it and riding it out.

Because it is true, you won't always feel that way.
Prayers for you dear one.
 
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If any of you have followed my spiritual journey at all knows that i've been struggling a lot. Over the last 5 months, things have been stable, though still difficult and i was still confused and I kept asking God for help and to erase this confusion which never happened. I had tried explaining how back btwn last Feb-April, I had been experiencing 'changes' and was getting several a day until it leveled off and became stable btwn May-Oct 31. Nov 1 hit and I began to experience these 'changes' again and again more difficult then it had been. I can't deal w/ it being more difficult. I hadn't conquered what God had given me previously and I kept asking God to make it easier, not harder and yet, it's harder yet again. Nov 1, I experienced 2 changes, Nov 2, one, Nov 3, 2 and today 3-4 so far. I am nervous, I do not know how to stay faithful throughout all this again. Confusion reigns supreme still. I am holding on, staying firm, yet, unhappy. This morning, I again prayed for God to remove this confusion from me and to make staying faithful easier. God did give me peace for about a half an hour, but, then awoke to a difficult 'feeling' ---

All, I ask, if you reply, Do NOT tell me I can't rely on my feelings. I had lived by feelings Only for 18 full years w/ everything God put me through and now, it's still feelings. Yes, I know feelings lie, yes, i know you're not supposed to live by your feelings, but, i don't know any other way bc of everything I've been thru in the last 18 yrs.

I cannot handle this negativity. This is extremely difficult. Another test/trial/whatever. I absolutely HATE this. I feel like letting go. I can't say this is as bad as things were 6 months ago, but, this is bad, negative.

I remember my one friend telling me how God doesn't give us anything negative bc he doesn't want us to fail but he allows satan to tempt us and that is what can feel negative but, that God won't allow the negative to stay long and that he'll deliver me again... so... i just need to hang in there and wait.

I'm not sure if I want advice bc I know from the past, people on here have condemned me for my explaining about these feelings and changes. It's what I'm going thru. Just believe it and don't condemn me for it.

See a doctor and find a support group.
 
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I would be the last one to condemn you. Life is hard and for some it is harder than others. The more trials God brought me through, the more faith I had. Once I asked God to just let me die. I wasn't suicidal. I left the decision with God. When I realized He wanted me to live, I thought, "This isn't going to be easy." I'm sure it hasn't been easy for a lot of people.

So I asked God, "Why?" I just needed to keep reading my Bible.

James 5:11 NASB
We count those blessed who endured. You have heard of the endurance of Job and have seen the outcome of the Lord's dealings, that the Lord is full of compassion and is merciful.

Romans 5:1-5 NASB
1 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. 3 And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; 4 and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; 5 and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

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If any of you have followed my spiritual journey at all knows that i've been struggling a lot. Over the last 5 months, things have been stable, though still difficult and i was still confused and I kept asking God for help and to erase this confusion which never happened. I had tried explaining how back btwn last Feb-April, I had been experiencing 'changes' and was getting several a day until it leveled off and became stable btwn May-Oct 31. Nov 1 hit and I began to experience these 'changes' again and again more difficult then it had been. I can't deal w/ it being more difficult. I hadn't conquered what God had given me previously and I kept asking God to make it easier, not harder and yet, it's harder yet again. Nov 1, I experienced 2 changes, Nov 2, one, Nov 3, 2 and today 3-4 so far. I am nervous, I do not know how to stay faithful throughout all this again. Confusion reigns supreme still. I am holding on, staying firm, yet, unhappy. This morning, I again prayed for God to remove this confusion from me and to make staying faithful easier. God did give me peace for about a half an hour, but, then awoke to a difficult 'feeling' ---

All, I ask, if you reply, Do NOT tell me I can't rely on my feelings. I had lived by feelings Only for 18 full years w/ everything God put me through and now, it's still feelings. Yes, I know feelings lie, yes, i know you're not supposed to live by your feelings, but, i don't know any other way bc of everything I've been thru in the last 18 yrs.

I cannot handle this negativity. This is extremely difficult. Another test/trial/whatever. I absolutely HATE this. I feel like letting go. I can't say this is as bad as things were 6 months ago, but, this is bad, negative.

I remember my one friend telling me how God doesn't give us anything negative bc he doesn't want us to fail but he allows satan to tempt us and that is what can feel negative but, that God won't allow the negative to stay long and that he'll deliver me again... so... i just need to hang in there and wait.

I'm not sure if I want advice bc I know from the past, people on here have condemned me for my explaining about these feelings and changes. It's what I'm going thru. Just believe it and don't condemn me for it.


When you are being grateful, it takes precedence over other issues.
So do more of that.
 
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