Pray for my husband's faith

But_First_Coffee · Nov 1, 2019

For nearly two years now, my husband's relationship with God or desire for one has been about as reliable as my phone signal when I'm driving home from work, down that long coastal road in the middle of nowhere.
"Where did it go?" "Oh! there it is... ugh it's cutting out again!?" "Hello? I can't hear you?"
"Wait it says I have a signal.... oh wait I guess I don't it says 1-X"
It's like sometimes we say a prayer together, and it sounds like he's definitely in touch with God, but other times he will outrightly say "I'm not sure what I believe right now".
This faith-deficit started after a rough patch in our marriage, so I feel partially responsible.
And I've tried EVERYTHING.
I've, of course, prayed. I've talked to him lovingly about it. I've talked to him pleadingly, with anxiety about it. I've tried putting my foot down, saying "I married a Christian. A Christian husband is what I desire. I need a leader. I know it's in there, please get in touch with Him". I've tried being softer, saying "I will always love you, even if you hate God". It's true, I would.
I've tried leaving it alone. His mom has also tried talking to him.
Nothing seems to get through,
and I am aware that if I bother him enough, he could just start claiming he resolved it to appease me.
I personally haven't lost faith though. In God or in my husband's deep-down "roots".

My prayer is for him to come 'round before this year closes, by Christmas perhaps,
and have him be eager to go to the Christmas Eve service, eager to pray with me,
eager to talk about Jesus on Christmas.
But if not that, I DEFINITELY have a goal to help him find that faith by Easter.
The church we are going to is planning a HUGE service that will take up a
WHOLE AMPHITHEATER on Good Friday.
And they don't know if they will even be able to make that work out,
but they have faith that it will
so I'm having faith that by then, he will be seeking Christ,
talking about it, praying with me, and looking forward to that event.
For the right reasons.
I'm planning to wear a special dress just for the occasion and take that day off work.
Also get a babysitter for the church service.
I wholeheartedly believe this can be resolved by then.

I don't know if it's wrong to set deadlines with God for a loved one's faith revival,
but I'm really hoping for him to come around, I miss when he had a good strong relationship with God. I, of course, didn't at that time. Now I'm ready for us to be on the same page.
I'm also ~very weary~ of toting the "spiritual load" for the whole family.

Brightmoon · Nov 1, 2019

Well you can’t make someone feel the same way you do. It’s hard enough to share opinions if you don’t agree . To keep trying runs into pointless nagging and borders on narcissistic behavior. He’ll deal with it in his own time . Not yours ! This is between him and God, not you him and God!

SkyWriting · Nov 1, 2019

But_First_Coffee said:
For nearly two years now, my husband's relationship with God or desire for one has been about as reliable as my phone signal when I'm driving home from work, down that long coastal road in the middle of nowhere.
"Where did it go?" "Oh! there it is... ugh it's cutting out again!?" "Hello? I can't hear you?"
"Wait it says I have a signal.... oh wait I guess I don't it says 1-X"
It's like sometimes we say a prayer together, and it sounds like he's definitely in touch with God, but other times he will outrightly say "I'm not sure what I believe right now".
This faith-deficit started after a rough patch in our marriage, so I feel partially responsible.
And I've tried EVERYTHING.
I've, of course, prayed. I've talked to him lovingly about it. I've talked to him pleadingly, with anxiety about it. I've tried putting my foot down, saying "I married a Christian. A Christian husband is what I desire. I need a leader. I know it's in there, please get in touch with Him". I've tried being softer, saying "I will always love you, even if you hate God". It's true, I would.
I've tried leaving it alone. His mom has also tried talking to him.
Nothing seems to get through,
and I am aware that if I bother him enough, he could just start claiming he resolved it to appease me.
I personally haven't lost faith though. In God or in my husband's deep-down "roots".

My prayer is for him to come 'round before this year closes, by Christmas perhaps,
and have him be eager to go to the Christmas Eve service, eager to pray with me,
eager to talk about Jesus on Christmas.
But if not that, I DEFINITELY have a goal to help him find that faith by Easter.
The church we are going to is planning a HUGE service that will take up a
WHOLE AMPHITHEATER on Good Friday.
And they don't know if they will even be able to make that work out,
but they have faith that it will
so I'm having faith that by then, he will be seeking Christ,
talking about it, praying with me, and looking forward to that event.
For the right reasons.
I'm planning to wear a special dress just for the occasion and take that day off work.
Also get a babysitter for the church service.
I wholeheartedly believe this can be resolved by then.

I don't know if it's wrong to set deadlines with God for a loved one's faith revival,
but I'm really hoping for him to come around, I miss when he had a good strong relationship with God. I, of course, didn't at that time. Now I'm ready for us to be on the same page.
I'm also ~very weary~ of toting the "spiritual load" for the whole family.

You need to work on your own relationship with God.
This is the solution you seek.

ajcarey · Nov 1, 2019

I doubt it's a good idea to set deadlines for many reasons- two keys one being you want to make sure God doesn't receive any blame should he not come around by the deadline; and you also don't want to set yourself for disappointment that could have been avoided had you not entertained unwarranted expectations.

But to earnestly pray for him to come back and trust that the Lord will be moving greatly to bring that about, still do that and hope for the best- with the understanding that God doesn't violate anyone's free will and often the lessons people have to learn before they would even necessarily be in a place to turn to the Lord might be long-term ones that we simply cannot estimate well enough the timetable on to set a reliable deadline over- and even then, the person we are praying for might not respond to the lessons God has taught them with genuine repentance and faith ever or they might make it harder than it needed to be before they finally do.

Still take heart and be earnest in your prayers! "The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. 17 Elias was a man subject to like passions as we are, and he prayed earnestly that it might not rain: and it rained not on the earth by the space of three years and six months.
18 And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth brought forth her fruit. 19 Brethren, if any of you do err from the truth, and one convert him; 20 Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins." (James 5:16b-20)

Dave G. · Nov 1, 2019

The answer generally is to look at our own walk first and be sure we are taking everything before Christ, that what we do points to Him first. Because Jesus ( Holy Spirit actually) gives us a capacity to cope and deal with those around us.. The battle isn't yours for your husband, focusing on Christ is your job, let the Lord deal with hubby. IE, give it to Jesus. If DH was ever Jesus' to begin with, in due time the Holy Spirit is going to come knocking in loving conviction. I can't tell you what that will look like, it happens in many forms. Just let the husband know that you are there for Him.

We have to get self out of these things, the key to what I said is your very open statement that You Have Tried Everything, well try God and God alone in faith and trust in His full capability. When the Lord needs you in this He will make it obvious to you. That's my take on a situation we have seen quite a bit of really. Keep your own walk a living testimony. And yes of course we also pray in the name of Jesus. Amen

joshua 1 9 · Nov 1, 2019

But_First_Coffee said:
I don't know if it's wrong to set deadlines with God for a loved one's faith revival,

I had a grandmother that did not get saved until she was 100 years old. About a year before she died. She wanted what God had to offer her. I think the last year of her life was the best because she had the peace she always dreamed about.

We can not decide for people. God will not make their choices for them. Each and every individual has to choose for themselves.

zippy2006 · Nov 1, 2019

But_First_Coffee said:
For nearly two years now...

What are some of the other things you've tried? From what you say here it seems like you've prayed and talked to him.

Christian men's groups? A good book? A retreat? A new church? A meeting with the pastor?

That said, faith is not something that can simply be conjured up, but there are always things that might help.

Halbhh · Nov 1, 2019

But_First_Coffee said:
I don't know if it's wrong to set deadlines with God for a loved one's faith revival

Yes, that won't likely be up to you, though you can pray with faith, that something will be done. And I don't think we can usually know the timing, but could know something will be done. I'd like to pray he feel pulled to hear more of what Christ said, or to look up things that come to his mind. This would be good -- Romans 10:17. I'll pray that, and you could also, and you could do it yourself (look up things Christ said, and read more of His words to you). Are you praying the prayer in Matthew chapter 6 each day? -- if not, today is a good day to begin.

Peter Odhiambo · Nov 1, 2019

But_First_Coffee said:
For nearly two years now, my husband's relationship with God or desire for one has been about as reliable as my phone signal when I'm driving home from work, down that long coastal road in the middle of nowhere.
"Where did it go?" "Oh! there it is... ugh it's cutting out again!?" "Hello? I can't hear you?"
"Wait it says I have a signal.... oh wait I guess I don't it says 1-X"
It's like sometimes we say a prayer together, and it sounds like he's definitely in touch with God, but other times he will outrightly say "I'm not sure what I believe right now".
This faith-deficit started after a rough patch in our marriage, so I feel partially responsible.
And I've tried EVERYTHING.
I've, of course, prayed. I've talked to him lovingly about it. I've talked to him pleadingly, with anxiety about it. I've tried putting my foot down, saying "I married a Christian. A Christian husband is what I desire. I need a leader. I know it's in there, please get in touch with Him". I've tried being softer, saying "I will always love you, even if you hate God". It's true, I would.
I've tried leaving it alone. His mom has also tried talking to him.
Nothing seems to get through,
and I am aware that if I bother him enough, he could just start claiming he resolved it to appease me.
I personally haven't lost faith though. In God or in my husband's deep-down "roots".

My prayer is for him to come 'round before this year closes, by Christmas perhaps,
and have him be eager to go to the Christmas Eve service, eager to pray with me,
eager to talk about Jesus on Christmas.
But if not that, I DEFINITELY have a goal to help him find that faith by Easter.
The church we are going to is planning a HUGE service that will take up a
WHOLE AMPHITHEATER on Good Friday.
And they don't know if they will even be able to make that work out,
but they have faith that it will
so I'm having faith that by then, he will be seeking Christ,
talking about it, praying with me, and looking forward to that event.
For the right reasons.
I'm planning to wear a special dress just for the occasion and take that day off work.
Also get a babysitter for the church service.
I wholeheartedly believe this can be resolved by then.

I don't know if it's wrong to set deadlines with God for a loved one's faith revival,
but I'm really hoping for him to come around, I miss when he had a good strong relationship with God. I, of course, didn't at that time. Now I'm ready for us to be on the same page.
I'm also ~very weary~ of toting the "spiritual load" for the whole family.

God has promised salvation not for only us but for our households. It is Gods desire to have our loved ones share with us the intimacy we are enjoying with Christ. It sounds your husband once knew the Lord so what is needed is revival in her spirit. There seems to be barriers in him getting back. As I read this I heard the word betrayal. I don't know the genesis but there seems to be emotional and heart issues that he will have to address with the Lord. Support him and let him rest in God, do not set time. You can't achieve much by pushing. It is Good who reveals himself, he helps us know him. Read the book songs of Solomons and see the drawing of the beloved. He starts the awakening and the love dance. Waiting is the key to revival. Both of you should wait.

I have your prayer request and shall be praying for you and family.

tturt · Nov 2, 2019

I understand - wives want their husbands to be the spiritual leaders in our homes. Eph 5:33 says for husbands to love your wives and wives respect your husbands. Just a thought - wondering if your love and concern is coming across as disrespect to him.

Asking Yahweh to remove the blinders from his mind.and let the wonderful news of Christ flow him.

"...for their minds have been blinded by the god of this age, leaving them in unbelief. Their blindness keeps them from seeing the dayspring light of the wonderful news of the glory of Jesus Christ, who is the divine image of God."
II Cor 4:4

Blade · Nov 2, 2019

Little Children are easy for the Father.. they listen. My son when he was about 4 in preschool really liked this girl Adana. But she would never have anything to do with him. So I told him this..that with kids its easy. That whisper from God. Not long after that I came to pick him up.. all were sitting. Jake gets up.. and Adana did and comes over and hugs him.

Did not God tell Sarah " What is to hard for the lord?"

The enemy knows our weaknesses. Not sure this helps but its playing right now "Casting Crowns.. Just be held"..I Know this is about your spouse.. but.. take this for YOU! Jesus is SO IN LOVE with you. The song.. your world is not falling apart but falling into place

And Isa 41 10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Forgive me.. something about you here. If I am wrong forgive me. I don't know how to explain it. Like tears.. Hes heard them.. felt them. Like Hes hugging you and won't let you go

What WAS started.. He is going to finish.

LoricaLady · Nov 3, 2019

I pray that you will first get closer to the Lord yourself so that you can hear clearly from Him about what He wants you to be as a wife.

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