- Mar 23, 2015
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- United States
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- Single
I have a girl friend who has been complaining and venting to me about her husband & marriage for at least 2 years. She's constantly sending me articles or little quotes to support her perspective that she shouldn't stay in the relationship. She claims he's a narcissist, autistic, alcoholic, into inappropriate content, had an emotional affair, .... on and on. She shares the same stories with me repeatedly and claims I'm the only one she tells these things to because I live out of state and she doesn't want to come across as bad talking her husband to her local circle. I'm not one to offer divorce as a solution, but after so long of this I asked why she hasn't left him yet and she always has some excuse..... unable to provide for the kids alone, the stigma, her reputation, etc. etc.
This is a friend I dearly love, but it gets to be too much. I had warned her it was too soon to marry him when they got engaged. She's admitted she rushed into it and it was a mistake. During our last conversation, I interrupted one of her repeated stories and told her she's fully and completely analyzed the situation and asked what she's decided to do about it. She said she wants to seek Separation so I basically gave her homework - asked her to send me a list of what needs to be set in place for her to get the papers going for that.
At first I would ask questions and try to offer solutions to the issues that would come up, eventually I figured she was just venting for sympathy so I quit giving ideas and just lent a listening ear. I do care about what she's going through, but I'm just so worn down from it all. Is there a better way I can respond to my friend? I don't think divorce is the answer but sometimes I just want to go break them up myself just to move on!
This is a friend I dearly love, but it gets to be too much. I had warned her it was too soon to marry him when they got engaged. She's admitted she rushed into it and it was a mistake. During our last conversation, I interrupted one of her repeated stories and told her she's fully and completely analyzed the situation and asked what she's decided to do about it. She said she wants to seek Separation so I basically gave her homework - asked her to send me a list of what needs to be set in place for her to get the papers going for that.
At first I would ask questions and try to offer solutions to the issues that would come up, eventually I figured she was just venting for sympathy so I quit giving ideas and just lent a listening ear. I do care about what she's going through, but I'm just so worn down from it all. Is there a better way I can respond to my friend? I don't think divorce is the answer but sometimes I just want to go break them up myself just to move on!
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