- Aug 27, 2017
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Hey everyone,
I will try to make this as to the point as possible! While I have believed in God for over 20 years now, I only recently (about a year ago) began to take my faith very seriously and have turned from the sins I was committing. I was involved in sexual sin and same sex relationships but have finally broken free from that and am now pursuing relationships with men as I have a strong desire to find a husband (praise the Lord!).
Because of my past, I do have several lesbian friends who are non-believers. I also have a friend who claims to be a Christian and is a lesbian; she goes to an affirming church and thinks it is fine to be gay. I have come to the conviction that ACTING on same sex desires is sinful.
I have been wondering what friendships to keep and which ones I should step away from. I was just reading 1 Corinthians 5. Verses 9-13 discuss how the church is given the authority as a whole to exercise judgment on members inside of the church, and to not associate with Christians who live in constant, unrepentant sin. However, we are not to judge those outside of the church. With that said I do believe that we shouldn't be friends with anyone who creates strong temptation in our lives, or who may compromise our Christian testimony.
In summary, my questions are as follows:
1) One of my lesbian friends (non-believer) is a great person. She does not tempt me to sin and we enjoy wholesome activities together. The catch is that I haven't told her that I've turned away from same sex relationships. I have no idea how to go about doing so. She has been shunned from the church before for her sexual orientation and I really don't want her to feel judged by me. However, I know that I'm technically lying each time that sexual orientation comes up and I don't admit that I am dating men. I know that this is wrong and it makes me feel like I'm living a "double life". Any tips on how to handle this with grace and non-judgment would be greatly appreciated.
2) These verses have made me wonder if I should distance myself from my friend who calls herself a Christian lesbian. Not just because of the verses in Corinthians, but also because she does have feelings for me. Again, I'm not sure how to handle that situation with grace. Any tips would be wonderful.
3) Opinion on whether or not being friends with lesbians could potentially hurt my Christian testimony? I know Jesus hung out with sinners all the time so I definitely don't want to just end friendships just because of their unrepentant sin...but I also don't want to hurt my testimony.
Thank you!
I will try to make this as to the point as possible! While I have believed in God for over 20 years now, I only recently (about a year ago) began to take my faith very seriously and have turned from the sins I was committing. I was involved in sexual sin and same sex relationships but have finally broken free from that and am now pursuing relationships with men as I have a strong desire to find a husband (praise the Lord!).
Because of my past, I do have several lesbian friends who are non-believers. I also have a friend who claims to be a Christian and is a lesbian; she goes to an affirming church and thinks it is fine to be gay. I have come to the conviction that ACTING on same sex desires is sinful.
I have been wondering what friendships to keep and which ones I should step away from. I was just reading 1 Corinthians 5. Verses 9-13 discuss how the church is given the authority as a whole to exercise judgment on members inside of the church, and to not associate with Christians who live in constant, unrepentant sin. However, we are not to judge those outside of the church. With that said I do believe that we shouldn't be friends with anyone who creates strong temptation in our lives, or who may compromise our Christian testimony.
In summary, my questions are as follows:
1) One of my lesbian friends (non-believer) is a great person. She does not tempt me to sin and we enjoy wholesome activities together. The catch is that I haven't told her that I've turned away from same sex relationships. I have no idea how to go about doing so. She has been shunned from the church before for her sexual orientation and I really don't want her to feel judged by me. However, I know that I'm technically lying each time that sexual orientation comes up and I don't admit that I am dating men. I know that this is wrong and it makes me feel like I'm living a "double life". Any tips on how to handle this with grace and non-judgment would be greatly appreciated.
2) These verses have made me wonder if I should distance myself from my friend who calls herself a Christian lesbian. Not just because of the verses in Corinthians, but also because she does have feelings for me. Again, I'm not sure how to handle that situation with grace. Any tips would be wonderful.
3) Opinion on whether or not being friends with lesbians could potentially hurt my Christian testimony? I know Jesus hung out with sinners all the time so I definitely don't want to just end friendships just because of their unrepentant sin...but I also don't want to hurt my testimony.
Thank you!