I have tried telling him that and saying that we need to get rid of it It driving us a part. I feel like I'm in prison here. So many issues.
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I have tried telling him that and saying that we need to get rid of it It driving us a part. I feel like I'm in prison here. So many issues.
I really need advice/prayer. I'm really unhappy and no longer want to be married anymore.
Been feeling like this for a while now. We've been married for 5 years. I have a teen and my husband has a 26 year old. Shes been back and forth when she gets mad at her dad then she moves with her mother She got married, and still kept coming back to our house for frivolous things She stayed with her husband for 3 months and moved back in with us with a baby. I feel like my husband is handicapping her. He makes excuses that shes not making a lot of money, but she buys food out everyday. He buys and does everything for her. She lives in our house for free, doesnt have to clean up or do NOTHING. He tells her to sweep, etc., and she still doesn't do that. She makes the baby as an excuse. my husband works 2 jobs and is only off on Saturday. We NEVER do anything together.
When he is here, hes on one side of the room watching TV and I'm on another side watching tv.
Okay. So, what does God say in His word about married people separating and divorcing? In the book of Malachi, right at the end of the Old Testament, God says that those who forsake their marriage vows are "dealing treacherously" with their spouse. He also says through the prophet Malachi that He HATES divorce. (Malachi 2:13-16)
Sir, you might want to re-read that passage. God hates the treachery that causes divorce:
It is a profound disgrace to the Christian community that many have taken a sentence fragment out of context to badger abused women into staying enslaved to a husband who deals with them treacherously.
No, he hates the treachery that is divorce.
Verse 16 clarifies this very well:
Malachi 2:15-16
15 ...let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth.
16 For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel...
The treachery in view is not bad behaviour causing divorce but, as verse 16 indicates, divorce (or, putting away) itself.
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Tammy, do you think of the baby as your grandchild?I really need advice/prayer. I'm really unhappy and no longer want to be married anymore. Been feeling like this for a while now. We've been married for 5 years. I have a teen and my husband has a 26 year old. Shes been back and forth when she gets mad at her dad then she moves with her mother She got married, and still kept coming back to our house for frivolous things She stayed with her husband for 3 months and moved back in with us with a baby. I feel like my husband is handicapping her. He makes excuses that shes not making a lot of money, but she buys food out everyday. He buys and does everything for her. She lives in our house for free, doesnt have to clean up or do NOTHING. He tells her to sweep, etc., and she still doesn't do that. She makes the baby as an excuse. my husband works 2 jobs and is only off on Saturday. We NEVER do anything together. When he is here, hes on one side of the room watching TV and I'm on another side watching tv. She asks him every Saturday and sunday to watch the baby while she takes a bath. I told him them days are our time together. So after he settle down on Sunday she brings the baby so she can take a bath. I go to bed, because I'm sick of it. There is sooo many more reasons why I dislike being here, but this is just a small portion. any advice would help Am I being selfish?
Is that what one would call a Frankenquote? You put fragments from two different sentences together to make up the concept you want.
A text without a context is a pretext.
Malachi 2:15-16
15 ...let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth.
16 For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel...
I have not put two fragments together.
...remain "enslaved." That's just silly....
Not sure if this helps, but, ultimately how he handles his daughter is his choice. It is his daughter. Should he listen to what you have to say and acknowledge what you're saying? Yes, I do believe so. However, ultimately it is his daughter and his decisions on how he handles her.
My girlfriend will voice her opinion about my little ones and how we should do this or that and I do go to her for advice at times, however, and these are her own words to me, the choice is ultimately yours. She has no expectations that I am going to listen. Not because it's a pattern, but rather, they are my children and I am going to make a decision that could go along with her or contrary to her and she's alright with that. They are my kids and she expects nothing less. I am the same with her kid. She has ultimate say in how she handles him. I voice my opinion and either she takes it or leaves it.
I don't know. Maybe the difference is that we at least acknowledge each other's opinion, even if we're not going to listen to it and put it into action.
I agree. thankwoman are often the social co-ordinator in families
make reservations, buy tickets, or whatever you need to do to get husband and you out of house on Saturday to have fun and spend time together
then soon he'll look forward to your Saturdays together & he can watch his show another evening on an ap
you've got to take action & not let yourself feel ignored
do something about it