How prevalent is father-raping?

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I'm not sure what you are alluding to.
I'm not alluding to anything nor am I implying anything.

I'm telling you openly and clearly that raping a minor is not premarital sex. Its a capital crime and it is only that. There is no justification for raping a minor at all. It does not matter if this is pathological or not.

Because of that, you do not speak for me when you say 'we Christians'. I am not in any way part of that notion of 'we' that you may have.
 
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I'm telling you openly and clearly that raping a minor is not premarital sex.
Define "rape."

Define "minor."
Because of that, you do not speak for me when you say 'we Christians'. I am not in any way part of that notion of 'we' that you may have.
You totally mistook my stated position, and you seemed to have disregarded my follow-up attempt at clarification.

Concerning attraction to 15-19yo (ephebophilia), if marriage to such is acceptable, when laws allow, attraction to them is acceptable when laws don't allow for marriage. Our behaviors/responsibilities/duties are constrained by said law. But we don't have to set such limits on our feelings about them or feel guilty for thinking that they are pretty.

I've raised three daughters and they have always been pretty to me. I am just not romantically eligible to them (or anybody else).
 
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so, is it inspired by God, or by people?
Its both perhaps.

An evil act is from people and their use of free will to commit crimes and/or sin.

The telling of a story (that describes the evil/crime) is inspired by God in order to provide the reader an opportunity for spiritual growth when the story is read. This does not justify the behavior of the people in the story. It only uses the story to foster growth.

How this maps onto the story of Lot or his kids is subject to interpretation.

Personally, I see it as an account of incest. To me this is wrong. Whether the women were drunk and Lot forced himself on them, or the other way round as the story suggests, does not really matter to me. What happened was not good in my view.

I have no idea if this was in some manner acceptable to that ancient society. My guess is that it was not acceptable at all. This is why there is a story about it. If it was an ordinary thing, no one would write about it, let alone in a book aimed at spiritual matters.
 
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It's not and people are not telling you that it is. They are trying to show you how people of that time thought.
Remember that Lot's daughters were married to husbands who were citizens of Sodom. Lot may have had righteous values, but we can't safely assume that his daughters and their husbands shared those values. According to the current values that existed in Sodom, the daughters may have been engaging in an act that would have been seen as quite acceptable, given that the values in that city would have been vastly different to what we could consider appropriate interaction today.
 
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Why would preserving the family line be an excuse for incest and rape?

It's not if you read my post. You're reading it in your current understanding and not in context with history, is the issue.
 
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and you seemed to have disregarded my follow-up attempt at clarification.
I don't really want clarification to be honest. I disagree with you from what I can see. You don't speak for me. There is not much beyond that.
 
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It's all sexual sin whatever labels you put on it.

I get that view but my point is that as a particular crime this has a specific prohibition in our society today. This is reality. There is nothing to discuss regarding that. Nothing at all.

Not all Christians think of that kind of criminal behavior as premarital anything. I know that is a fact because I'm Christian and I don't think that way so certainly not all Christians think that. There is no 'we' here as far as I'm concerned. There may be a 'some' but there is no 'we'.

Also, this is a crime no matter when it happens: before, during, or after marriage. Marriage is not the point in this in any way shape or form. Its criminal, and that is all it is.
 
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so, is it inspired by God, or by people?
The Bible is inspired. That doesn't mean it's advising you to imitate everything people do in it. You wouldn't read a text reporting what happened with the Holocaust or slavery and think that that text is telling you to do the same thing. It's the same with certain parts of the Bible. Sometimes we aren't told what God thought about certain things, because it's just describing what happened. Obviously rape and incest are wrong. Often times these things are even presented in the Bible so you can see how twisted people become because of their sin. The fact that Lots daughters would rape their own father shows just how bad of an influence Sodom was.
 
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I acknowledge the laws of the land in that regard, but the standard for majority is man-made and arbitrary. Our Savior was carried by a 15yo (or younger) after all. (But that is/was a topic for a whole other thread...)
Got proof of that?
 
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Got proof of that?
Some apocryphal accounts state that at the time of her betrothal to Joseph, Mary was 12–14 years old, and he was ninety years old. The Catholic church has beliefs about Mary that are different from the Protestant church.
 
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You wouldn't read a text reporting what happened with the Holocaust or slavery and think that that text is telling you to do the same thing.
The Bible contains archetypes. We have Abraham and he had Issac the child or promise and Ishmael the child that represents the flesh or carnal nature of man. Paul talks about this in Galatians.
 
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How often does this happen outside of the Bible?
20% of children have been evaluated for sexual abuse. This is a point to the doll and show me where he touched you evaluation. Clearly not everyone is investigated or evaluated. So the numbers could be as high as 1/3 of children have had some sort of sexual abuse. There is a question as to what is and what is not appropriate and I am sure there is very mild to very severe. From very brief to very long in duration. Could be every situation is different or maybe they all follow the same basic pattern. Police can investigate, the hospital can investigate and social services can investigate. If the abuse is reported to a family doctor then he will refer to the psychology debt of the local children hospital. My brother was actually the director of the psych dept for a while at our children's hospital. I have talked to him briefly about this subject but not a lot. This stuff is highly confidential and it is not something anyone talks about. There can be a $10,000 fine if the files are not handled properly. Because of some law that Clinton signed. When a doctor retires than pretty much everything has to be shredded. They have three months to transfer a copy to their new doctor and then they are gone.

Children want love and acceptance. I am sure this is very confusing for them to seek love and receive some sort of abuse instead. According to the story in the Bible: "
31 And the first-born said unto the younger: 'Our father is old, and there is not a man in the earth to come in unto us after the manner of all the earth.
32 Come, let us make our father drink wine, and we will lie with him, that we may preserve seed of our father.'
 
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My reflex is that if he was drunk, he did not consent so this is rape.

However, I'm not sure this makes complete sense due to the physical effect of alcohol. By this I mean that he may not have been drunk enough to not be able to give consent AND at the same time to be able to perform sexual acts.

Aside from that speculation, did he know the women were his daughters relative to Genesis 19:33 and Genesis 19:35? It seems strange that he would not know other than if their identity was somehow concealed.
The physical effect only applies to some.....
 
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so, is it inspired by God, or by people?
Not everything in the Bible is good. In fact the English translations cover over a number of crassly inappropriate passages, and the Rabbis used to cover over their mouths while reading theses passages in public.
The Bible is an open and honest expose of the depravity of mankind and the Goodness of God.
 
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Is it not the case that any sex with a minor is a de facto rape since minors are not competent to give consent?

I think during the time of Christ, Jews only considered statutory rape when having sex with underage girls.

The rules doesn't apply with underage boys.
 
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