This may be somewhat misguided. God does not plan our lives, we do. And if He perfectly planned our lives , Adam would have never fallen from Grace.
Blessings
How right you are
@Maria Billingsley.
I'm sorry if this testimony is long winded, but it illustrates some interesting points, and will undoubtedly offend the doctrines of some people.
As a relatively new Christian, I married my first wife, also a Christian, and for nearly 30 years it was one big struggle.
Nevertheless, despite huge levels of incompatibility, I believed that marriage was a covenant, so I cried out to God for healing and change in both of us.
From my perspective, she was a feminist control freak. She came from a very strong matriarchal family which despised men. Her mother made her father's life hell, so he spent most of the time away, traveling as a company rep.
Her mother despised me from the beginning. I remember after our honeymoon, we went back to her house to collect some stuff, and as we left, at the door, I politely gave my new mother in law a kiss goodbye. Her response was to violently thrust me away with both hands on my chest, followed by an angry,
"Don't you ever do that again!"
That told me in no uncertain terms how insignificantly I figured in the scheme of things.
My wife regularly threatened divorce, using it as a weapon in arguments. I pleaded with her to stop speaking like that as it was giving Satan weapons to damage what little we had.
Eventually, she had an affair. I forgave her, but some time afterwards, she walked out, and we ended up getting divorced.
Interestingly, after she walked out, I spent that year in intercession, pleading with God to change me and to change my wife. Then one day I heard God speak, as audibly as I have ever heard his voice.
"If I could change Alice, I would have changed Adam!"
I instantly knew that my marriage was over, and no amount of prayer was going to change my wife. It was like God was saying,
"I will never put my hand into anyone's heart, and flip the '
obedient switch'!"
I had been attending a fellowship group for about a year, where it was known that I was fighting for my marriage, and not looking elsewhere.
But as God spoke those words, spiritually liberating me from my failed marriage, my eyes were suddenly opened in another direction.
There was one particular lady who had a charisma that shone in the Lord, I know God was pointing in her direction.
But at middle age, what chance did I have at restarting life again?
I was terrified at the thought, having no idea whether she would be in the slightest bit interested, or how to even approach her.
What I didn't know was that God had been speaking to her over many weeks, and she was standing off watching my struggle, and just praying quietly for God's will to be done.
I plucked up courage to say I believed that God was doing something between us, and she agreed. I said to her that we should take it slow and steady, and then 4 days later asked her to marry me.
She laughed, saying if 4 days is slow and steady, what would fast be like.
God had been preparing our hearts, and immediately confirmed it so powerfully to both of us that it was entirely of his making. We were both mature believers who heard God speak. She had never married, but God had made a promise many years previously, that He had a husband for her of his choosing.
I had a very good friend who was very prophetic, and had been my most closest support through the difficulties of the previous few years. A couple of days after asking this lady out, I met him for the first time in weeks.
"I've got something to tell you, I am going to get married again!"
His reply was straight to the point.
"I already know that, and I know who she is, and I have known for about 5 weeks!"
I replied,
"How could you possibly know for 5 weeks, I've only known for 2 days?"
"Remember when I visited your church about 5 weeks ago, as I sat down and looked around the room, my eyes fell on this lady and God said, that's FD's knew wife!"
I was both shocked and thrilled that God had gone before me.
When I entered church the next week, my friend was visiting again. As soon as we greeted, he pointed across the room at the lady I was going to marry,
"That's her isn't it?"
So, yes, God can direct us into marriage, alternatively, we can ignore God and make our own minds up.
God desires to bless all marriages, but it takes humility to receive that blessing.