Is it wrong of me to sit at my mothers grave and talk to her?

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I just wish I could have a sign from God that will allow mom to visit me. Just for a few seconds :(. That's all I ask :( But now that I'm thinking about it, that sign could make me want to ask for more signs, which could turn into an addiction. But just for my birthday, a little birthday visit would be nice.
Does she even know it's my birthday tomorrow? Does she even remember me? :(

What Scripture has to say about it isn't very encouraging..

Luke 16:26
'And besides all this, between us and you there is a great chasm fixed, so that those who wish to come over from here to you will not be able, and that none may cross over from there to us.'


However, we are not given to know every last thing about the afterlife and those who have gone on before us. Besides that, I see no reason to think that it is offensive to God for you to speak, in the cemetery, as though your mother can hear you, or, for that matter, to think that Mom doesn't remember you now. Definitely not that!
 
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i'm in trouble then. i talk to my mother's portrait all the time like she's in the room with me. she passed away in 2013.
Try to move past that over time and avoid being a homeless person.
They are part of your life and are already inside you.
 
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I wouldn't call it 'wrong' if you benefit from it.
I've always been fascinated by the question of whether or not people in heaven can see what's going on down on earth, or hear our thoughts or words if we have things to say to them. I'm not betting one way or the other.

I don't think anyone really knows for sure, even if they say they know. I'm leaning strongly toward "No, they can't see you, hear you, or know your thoughts." But there's nothing wrong with trying just in case. I don't think it matters if you're at the grave in any event. She either knows what you're saying or doesn't, wherever you are, like a guardian angel following you around wherever you go. Christians believe that God hears us at all times, so maybe he has afforded that same ability to former loved ones in heaven.
 
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There is no reason as you are doing not to do it. You understand what it is to do it in a healthy manner and you recognize what is unhealthy and dangerous. If I may suggest a wise teaching is the cord of three not being easily broke. If you can find two other believers who will commit to you and who you will commit to them. Prayer and other support. Knowing you are not alone. Fellowship and being able to experience what the Body of Christ is meant to function like. Do you journal? Do you read your Bible it is the food we need as we move through this wilderness of sin.
last thing, I know I talk a lot, the Lord has put in His Word 365 times the call upon us to have joy, rejoice an so on. He knows how important it is, there will be sounds of joy and victory from the tents of the righteous. You have a Husband who is with you always and He says we do not have to wait to be together in heaven to do what will be doing for all eternity right now.
Thanks, I do journal periodically. More like impulse writing actually. And I certainly read the Bible... The only thing that kind of weirded me out, is the part about having a husband, when I'm a guy, lol. I also have had adream about Mom being in what I think was heaven, which was very comforting.
 
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I recently lost my mom and almost every day and night, I'll say "I love you mommy and I miss you", while crying. It sorta helps me cope, even when I'm at her grave. I'll tell her about my day and that I love her so much. Now I'm really afraid to do that because the bible says not to communicate with the dead. It's not that I'm trying to communicate with her as much as I am trying to cope. I do ask God to let my mom know that I'm doing ok and I miss her very much, but I don't use ouija boards. It's evil to use those things. I don't even intend to pray to my mom, I'm just expressing the pain I feel without her. I just feel so alone without her here with me. But I do know she's in heaven because she served the Lord with everything in her. Tomorrow is my birthday and it's the first birthday ever without mom. I just wish I could have a sign from God that will allow mom to visit me. Just for a few seconds :(. That's all I ask :( But now that I'm thinking about it, that sign could make me want to ask for more signs, which could turn into an addiction. But just for my birthday, a little birthday visit would be nice.
Does she even know it's my birthday tomorrow? Does she even remember me? :(

Like others have said, if you are doing this just to cope then its fine but you cannot communicate with the dead. According to the bible, the dead are in the graves awaiting the resurrection and if your Mom is saved she will arise in the first resurrection which is the resurrection of eternal life. The idea of a soul/spirit being a conscious entity that lives on after death is not biblical but came from the Greek philosophies of Plato, Sacrates and others and was later adopted by many in Christianity up till now.

So nobody can communicate with the dead because they have no life. However, there are demon spirits that imitate the dead and any attempts to communicate with the dead will have you communicating with demon spirits which is why God forbade it.
 
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I recently lost my mom and almost every day and night, I'll say "I love you mommy and I miss you", while crying. It sorta helps me cope, even when I'm at her grave. I'll tell her about my day and that I love her so much. Now I'm really afraid to do that because the bible says not to communicate with the dead. It's not that I'm trying to communicate with her as much as I am trying to cope. I do ask God to let my mom know that I'm doing ok and I miss her very much, but I don't use ouija boards. It's evil to use those things. I don't even intend to pray to my mom, I'm just expressing the pain I feel without her. I just feel so alone without her here with me. But I do know she's in heaven because she served the Lord with everything in her. Tomorrow is my birthday and it's the first birthday ever without mom. I just wish I could have a sign from God that will allow mom to visit me. Just for a few seconds :(. That's all I ask :( But now that I'm thinking about it, that sign could make me want to ask for more signs, which could turn into an addiction. But just for my birthday, a little birthday visit would be nice.
Does she even know it's my birthday tomorrow? Does she even remember me? :(
Sorry for your loss. Psalm 46 and John 14.1-17 are comforting passages for the believer.
 
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There is no reason as you are doing not to do it. You understand what it is to do it in a healthy manner and you recognize what is unhealthy and dangerous. If I may suggest a wise teaching is the cord of three not being easily broke. If you can find two other believers who will commit to you and who you will commit to them. Prayer and other support. Knowing you are not alone. Fellowship and being able to experience what the Body of Christ is meant to function like. Do you journal? Do you read your Bible it is the food we need as we move through this wilderness of sin.
last thing, I know I talk a lot, the Lord has put in His Word 365 times the call upon us to have joy, rejoice an so on. He knows how important it is, there will be sounds of joy and victory from the tents of the righteous. You have a Husband who is with you always and He says we do not have to wait to be together in heaven to do what will be doing for all eternity right now.
Yes, Bible reading is so important, for us to look above and beyond our present sorrows.
 
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