StillGods
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I felt betrayed when my parents continued to go to a workplace to buy things after I had finished working there due to them treating me badly. it felt like they didnt care about how that place had hurt me.
my parents stopped shopping there after they realised how it hurt me and it was very healing for me that they did that.
your poor daughter, of course she feels like you care more about your brother than her and betrayed that you are taking his side not hers.
it will be healing for her if you stop writing to him because you know it hurts her.
your brother (if he has found God like he says) will support you not writing him as he also, (if he has found God) will not want to hurt his victim any further.
just stop supporting him and trust Him to God.
tell your daughter you are not going to write him anymore because she matters to you.
and she should matter more at this point you are betraying her if she has told you that you writing the man who injured her hurts her and you continue to hurt her.
I am glad my parents stopped supporting that place where I was treated badly by not shopping there after they knew it hurt me. it helped me heal a lot them standing with me on something as simple as that. I hope you can help your daughter heal by supporting her at this time she needs it, by stepping away from your brother and standing with her. she has let you know she needs you to do that. the little girl in her that was powerless back then needs you to do that now and stand with her now.
your brother seems to have taken the cake and eaten it too because he still has you and by doing that still is hurting your daughter. he will survive if you cut him off for a time. he's gotten away with a lot already he is resilient and devious like all molesters are. leave him to prison and the spiritual supports he has there for a time. he will be absolutely fine.
my parents stopped shopping there after they realised how it hurt me and it was very healing for me that they did that.
your poor daughter, of course she feels like you care more about your brother than her and betrayed that you are taking his side not hers.
it will be healing for her if you stop writing to him because you know it hurts her.
your brother (if he has found God like he says) will support you not writing him as he also, (if he has found God) will not want to hurt his victim any further.
just stop supporting him and trust Him to God.
tell your daughter you are not going to write him anymore because she matters to you.
and she should matter more at this point you are betraying her if she has told you that you writing the man who injured her hurts her and you continue to hurt her.
I am glad my parents stopped supporting that place where I was treated badly by not shopping there after they knew it hurt me. it helped me heal a lot them standing with me on something as simple as that. I hope you can help your daughter heal by supporting her at this time she needs it, by stepping away from your brother and standing with her. she has let you know she needs you to do that. the little girl in her that was powerless back then needs you to do that now and stand with her now.
your brother seems to have taken the cake and eaten it too because he still has you and by doing that still is hurting your daughter. he will survive if you cut him off for a time. he's gotten away with a lot already he is resilient and devious like all molesters are. leave him to prison and the spiritual supports he has there for a time. he will be absolutely fine.
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