AIKI, He did not say that she said she did not love the people of the Lord. It is interesting that you read that into what he said. It could be that she is afraid of being hurt. The church is not the safe haven it is supposed to be. Many people find that out in a VERY painful way.
I've only just now noticed your post to me.
When a person loves someone, do they forsake their company? No. Love compels one into relationship with another even when it hurts to do so. This was true of Christ and it is true of those who truly love him. Love and being hurt go together; being wounded by those you love is inevitable in a Fallen world. Ask any married couple. But the love of Christ, imparted to the believer by the Holy Spirit, is able to endure such hurt which is, in part, what distinguishes it from mere human love and marks those who give such love as children of God. Consider
1 Corinthians 13:4-7:
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
5 Does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
6 Does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
7 Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
How is this kind of love evident in the behaviour the OP has described of his girlfriend? It isn't. Hence my comments.
By the way, the Church was not always a "safe haven" for Paul. He wrote,
2 Corinthians 12:15
15 And I will very gladly spend and be spent for you; though the more abundantly I love you, the less I be loved.
2 Corinthians 10:10
10 For his letters, say they, are weighty and powerful; but his bodily presence is weak, and his speech contemptible.
It is precisely because the Church is not always a safe haven that the love of God is so vital. Without such love, it is impossible to endure with patience, grace and equanimity the inevitable slights and wounds of being in relationship with people cursed by the Fall.
I know several Christians who are respectable and mature loving brethren/"sistren" who also have an aversion to fellowship with Christians because of very painful violations to them by the church.
It is a good thing Christ did not behave this way toward us, eh? What does it say about your respectable and mature Christian friends that they have responded so differently to the "painful violations" they've sustained from fellow believers than Christ did to those who nailed him to a cross? "Father forgive them for they know not what they do," was Jesus' response to the evil men crucifying him. He gave up his life that his enemies might be saved. How about your friends? Would they be likely to love this way when by far, far lesser hurts they have become alienated from the Church? I very much doubt it. But how is it that they claim to have the Spirit of Christ, the Holy Spirit, within them, but do not love as he loved? Something is very awry.
Some of them even had their children run away from the church after seeing what happened. Church politics, social engineering, cliques, rumors, and etc. are unfortunately NOT excluded from the church.
I grew up as a P.K. (pastor's kid). I know how nasty, and petty, and selfish professing Christians can be. But I have not walked away from the Church. How can I forsake the Great Love of God, His Bride, the Church? I simply cannot. I love what my God loves. So should every believer.
Please get off of your holier than thou horse;
??? If you have a problem with what I'm saying, complain to God. I'm simply passing on what He has said to all of His children in His word.
I would also point out the hypocrisy in your remark here. How are you not guilty of being on your own high horse as you deride me for being on mine? You are, in your remark here, setting yourself above me as a critic, supposedly free from the thing of which you are accusing me. But you aren't free of your own high horse, which you must mount the moment you propose to tell me I have mounted one myself. It's the old "point a finger at me and four are pointing back at you" thing.
No, for these "heathen" you judge, "forsaking the assembling together" is a "sin" that is not unforgivable (are you sinless?)...
It is a command - not a suggestion - of Scripture that believers not forsake the assembling of themselves together (
Hebrews 10:25) . Those who disobey this command are in disobedience to the One who ultimately gave it, that is, they are guilty of sin. This is not me merely being "judgy," but the plain fact of Scripture.
...finding safer worship through the mass media, like in "Turning Point," or "Your Move," or "Leading the Way," or "In Touch," or "Insight for Living," or "Truth Which Transforms," or "Daily Audio Bible" w/Brian, or enjoying one of Ravi Zachariah's symposiums or debates and many more still show their love for the Lord and affords them the teaching and growing, however stifled it may be, we are called to exercise.
One cannot properly show one's love for the Lord by forsaking the company - however difficult - of those whom he loves and for whom he gave his life.
But for them, right now anyway, church attendance is too dangerous and threatening.
"Dangerous and threatening"? Have they been beaten with whips, spat on, and nailed to a cross? I very much doubt it.
Hebrews 12:3-4
3 For consider Him who endured such hostility from sinners against Himself, lest you become weary and discouraged in your souls.
4 You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.
They have been hurt REAL bad.
See above.
The last thing that they need right now is an attempt to put a guilt trip on them for not coming. We are to encourage them in the Lord, not judge them. Shame on you.
It does no good for a believer to respond to the sin of other believers by acting in disobedience to God. This is what a believer does when he justifies forsaking the Church because of the hurt he has sustained from other believers. Shame on
you for encouraging such self-centered behaviour in your fellow believers.
Now are you going to judge them for using the mass media for worship?
It is a clear contravention of the command of God's word for a believer to withdraw from the Body of Believers (though, there are obvious exceptions, like serious illness or death). If a believer is using mass media as a
replacement for regular fellowship with a local community of believers s/he is in direct disobedience to God's command.
Would you rather have them watching..... or going to "Cheers" and drowning their problems?
??? Do you know what a false dichotomy is? You've just made one here. The only alternative to mass media "worship" is not alcohol at a bar.
Leave them alone. They will come around in the Lord's time. Love and pray for them.
It does not follow that because I have written what I have that I don't love and pray for believers who have sequestered themselves from the Church. In fact, if I did not care about the OP and his girlfriend, I would have written nothing at all.
Here's one final thing to think on: Are you loving as Jesus loves when you stridently wag your finger under my nose, as you have done in your post? You seem very eager to tell me to love while refraining from doing so yourself.