Tips to keep someone happy you're dating

Get to know someone, so I know if I want to do what will make that person happy.

Active listening, words of support and encouragement, and positive thoughts (not jumping to conclusions, overreacting, or assuming the worst) are usually valued by most.

Active listening and to daily recognize why you are lucky to have her/him in your life so you treat them accordingly.

Mark_CB said:

What advice do you have to keep you happy if someones dating you?

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If you want to keep them happy, keep yourself happy too. Do things for yourself, make sure you give yourself enough time apart, see movies you want to see, go places you want to go, eat what you want to eat. If you lose yourself in someone else that quickly leads to resentment, passive-aggressive behavior, and generally toxic influence on the relationship.

I know this all sounds counterintuitive, but if I've learned anything in my relationships it's that I have a tendency to focus exclusively on my significant other and not do things that I need or want. I think that ultimately had a souring effect on the relationships.

Mark_CB said:

What advice do you have to keep you happy if someones dating you?

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Find a date who is happy with you just being yourself

Just be a good host to your date. Understand they can be desperate and heart broken and would probably want someone who can make them feel important, like a winner.

If you can't, you're simply dating the wrong person. Don't "kill" yourself trying to please anyone. Chances are, if you need to work really hard to please someone, they're never meant for you. And if you end up being together, that relationship won't last. You'll grow tired of it.

You're not responsible for making someone happy, and they're not responsible for making you happy.

ReesePiece23 said:

You're not responsible for making someone happy, and they're not responsible for making you happy.

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This is very true.

That said, an unhealthy relationship could contribute to my unhappiness. So keeping a healthy relationship is important. For me, that lies almost entirely in honesty and communication. Besides that, just be true to who you are. I like actually getting to know someone rather than the sugar coated version of themselves, especially if we're dating.




And spontaneously bring over pizza

I would have to agree up thread about making sure you take care of your needs. Not in a narcissistic way but in a healthy way where when do get together, you and the other person are reciprocal. Making the other person happy is not your responsibility. It's a choice and vice versa.

Always let them eat out of the bowl first.

quietpraiyze said:

I would have to agree up thread about making sure you take care of your needs. Not in a narcissistic way but in a healthy way where when do get together, you and the other person are reciprocal. Making the other person happy is not your responsibility. It's a choice and vice versa.

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Up to some degree, we really don't have to put any more effort into it.

You could be simply dating a person who isn't meant for you that's why it's very hard to please them.

My partner’s happiness is very important. If he’s unhappy I want to know why and how I can help him through it. There are moments in every relationship when the other is not at their best. These are opportunities for love and service that render needed kindness and support to our companions. I’m happy to do so.