Thank you very much for the insightful post. I really took all of your posts to heart, but I truly wanted to hear everyone's voices, especially because I am reluctant to tell her. I am praying to the Lord and deciding to tell her at the right time as need be. Today is not the right time, as "Kaon" said. But with with relationship maturity and time on both our ends, I believe in the Lord's process. Also, the "single" aspect of my profile was a default while signing up for the forum. I am indeed in a relationship, and I need to change that ASAP Thank you again, coffee4u! I couldn't have made a final decision without you and the rest of the responders. God bless!That is how men look at it. Yes the man is within his rights to say nothing - If he wants to be right and also remain single he can do that. I notice you and THE W are both single.
It isn't about being right. If he feels this woman could one day be his wife he needs to open up. She will feel lied to when she finds out much later, and she will find out. The last place he wants this coming out is on his wedding night.
This isn't about did he lie, but about her perception of it and how this could hurt their relationship. Often (wrongly) we expect men to read between the lines and I am pretty sure this was her way of asking if he was still a virgin but was too shy to say so. She is probably asking because she really likes him and hopes for something long term. She wants to know if he shares her values. If he doesn't it's still early enough for her to break things off.
The relationship you form with the person you marry is different to all others so no her asking about his past sexual experience isn't inappropriate. Your marriage partner will know you in all sorts of ways that nobody else will. The time they have spent together isn't always relevant either. Some people know immediately on meeting that they have found the person they will marry.
Op I think you sound like a wonderful man that you are taking what happend and that question to heart. I agree with the poster up thread that you are a rare breed. I think she will be a lucky woman if you become her husband.
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