- Oct 17, 2018
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Protestant
- Marital Status
- Single
I grew up in a blended family. Unfortunately, my parents divorced when I was 18 months old and my brother and I spent most of our time living with our Mom, who wasn't in a great place for much of her life. Now we're both grown, my brother and I. He's 35 years old, married, with two kids and a full time job with mortgage. I am 34, single, renting in a studio apartment, working full time, but pretty clueless about social skills and managing a home.
It's also important to mention that unlike my brother, I have bipolar disorder with delusional thoughts, and am being treated by a psychiatrist and therapist. So I'm better off than a lot of people in my situation because many people with mental illness do not work enough to support themselves and are dependent on family. I'm about 90% self sufficient at this point, as far as being independent from family financially.
Now that I'm on my own for the first time in my life, I'm realizing how useless it was to graduate with a B.A. without even knowing the basics of home economics. Having a solid grounding in basic adult living skills, which includes not only home skills but also interpersonal communication skills, communicating with the opposite gender, addressing people in authority, and "networking" at church and other social events, are skills that are clearly lacking, as now I am engaged in those fields of endeavor and don't know how to handle myself. Specifically, I work in an office full time and attend Divine Liturgy every Sunday, but I'm not sure how to make friends at church or how to make my female coworkers feel at ease, or how to make my superiors feel like investing the time and energy into training me was worth their trouble.
I was a janitor most of my adult life, and now I'm an office coordinator in an engineering office at a well known university. As one minister said, "New levels, new devils."
Any books, YouTube channels, or resources that come to mind about how to go from dependent adult child to man (with everything that means) would be much appreciated. I don't have a reliable father figure (polyamorous) so I can't depend on him for moral instruction.
It's also important to mention that unlike my brother, I have bipolar disorder with delusional thoughts, and am being treated by a psychiatrist and therapist. So I'm better off than a lot of people in my situation because many people with mental illness do not work enough to support themselves and are dependent on family. I'm about 90% self sufficient at this point, as far as being independent from family financially.
Now that I'm on my own for the first time in my life, I'm realizing how useless it was to graduate with a B.A. without even knowing the basics of home economics. Having a solid grounding in basic adult living skills, which includes not only home skills but also interpersonal communication skills, communicating with the opposite gender, addressing people in authority, and "networking" at church and other social events, are skills that are clearly lacking, as now I am engaged in those fields of endeavor and don't know how to handle myself. Specifically, I work in an office full time and attend Divine Liturgy every Sunday, but I'm not sure how to make friends at church or how to make my female coworkers feel at ease, or how to make my superiors feel like investing the time and energy into training me was worth their trouble.
I was a janitor most of my adult life, and now I'm an office coordinator in an engineering office at a well known university. As one minister said, "New levels, new devils."
Any books, YouTube channels, or resources that come to mind about how to go from dependent adult child to man (with everything that means) would be much appreciated. I don't have a reliable father figure (polyamorous) so I can't depend on him for moral instruction.