Pressured into Bible Study vs Travel

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I live in Sydney, Australia and I've recently began going to a Beginner's Bible Study Program that runs for 7 weeks that finishes at the end of the month. At the beginning of October a VERY Intensive Bible Study Class will commence that runs for 3 days a week for 8 months until May/June next year that my Tutor really wants me to attend.

I already have travel plans to the US and Canada in January/February next year to visit my sick Grandmother and Family/Friends. Everything from flights and accommodation is already set and paid for. I will be gone about 5-6 weeks and will miss about 18 Bible Lessons.
My Tutor has been pressuring me into cutting short the trip and even cancelling the trip altogether. She says by me choosing the Trip and Family over God/Bible Study I am choosing my own thoughts and desires over God which is making me feel really guilty. I feel angry that she is trying to take me on a guilt trip and trying to derail my plans. I've suggested that she and I do our own study over Skype but she doesn't want that she wants me to be here in person for the study.

Any advice? What would you do?
This teacher sounds controlling, this is just the type of thing cult leaders tell people to do. I’m not saying they are part of a cult but the behavior is similar. God commands us to honor our parents, and take care of the elderly. I’d question why you are letting this teacher have authority over you and what their motive is for wanting to keep you from your family.
 
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I would tell her: I already have plans made so I will have to honor my commitments to family. I will have to do this study another time.

If she keeps bothering you about it and trying to manipulate you; I would cut off contact with her. There are many other Bible studies to attend that won't treat you this way.
 
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I can't, personally, see any reason to insist having you there in person; what you have suggested is better than not having you there at all.

Actually, I can think of a reason why the leader of the group would insist you attend in person - they may be trying to brainwash you. Once you are away from the group, you may start to question what you have been told, and/or discover that Christians, or Scripture, actually say something else.
If you were joining the group by Skype, not only would you be removed from the group, but presumably others could watch/listen into your studies and comment if they thought the teacher was wrong.

I don't believe that a bone fide Christian teacher would have any problem with you leaving a study group to visit family and a sick grandmother. Her refusal to consider your suggestion of Skype and insistence that you attend in person, is worrying.

Whatever she says, God knows you, loves you and understands. He won't mind if you don't do this course at this time - it might even be that you find a better one later anyway.
Have a good trip. :)
 
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For what it's worth I don't think there is enough information to call this a cult or not a cult. It may be a perfectly fine Bible study.

However, there is some pretty strong indications that there is a Jezebel spirit at work in this person.
 
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I live in Sydney, Australia and I've recently began going to a Beginner's Bible Study Program that runs for 7 weeks that finishes at the end of the month. At the beginning of October a VERY Intensive Bible Study Class will commence that runs for 3 days a week for 8 months until May/June next year that my Tutor really wants me to attend.

I already have travel plans to the US and Canada in January/February next year to visit my sick Grandmother and Family/Friends. Everything from flights and accommodation is already set and paid for. I will be gone about 5-6 weeks and will miss about 18 Bible Lessons.
My Tutor has been pressuring me into cutting short the trip and even cancelling the trip altogether. She says by me choosing the Trip and Family over God/Bible Study I am choosing my own thoughts and desires over God which is making me feel really guilty. I feel angry that she is trying to take me on a guilt trip and trying to derail my plans. I've suggested that she and I do our own study over Skype but she doesn't want that she wants me to be here in person for the study.

Any advice? What would you do?

In the study do they provide study guides? If so, they could provide you with them and you could "keep pace" with the study through them through self-study of them.

Pray about it and let the Holy Spirit lead.
 
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There are non cult type people who are simply demanding. I befriended someone like this in the past. She began a monthly bible study at a restaurant once per month. I went to the first few meetings. But as my schedule picked up I was too tired to keep it up.

I was making trips to the church four times per week and was already involved in two indepth bible studies. My fatigue began to catch up with me. She was upset when I told her I was tired and heading home to rest.

She had a minor spiel about feeling the same. But she was retired and wasn’t making 8 round trips each week on foot. When I hung up the phone the Holy Spirit said these words: I didn’t tell you to do that.

And He didn’t. I was doing it to support a friend and nearing burnout. I went home and laid it down. I learned an important lesson about committing myself and being drawn into things the Lord didn’t sanction.

I wouldn’t commit to something that demanding without confirmation from Him.
 
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That sounds like a cult. Anyone who seeks to isolate you from friends and family like that is trying to get you into their circle. Before I became a Christian I dabbled with the cultist Moonies. They were nice, but they kept trying to get me to go one of their retreats even when I wasn't interested. I went to one of their conferences and it just felt really 'off.' I stopped attending the meetings and shortly after, was invited to a church by a classmate at my community college.

I have friends in all branches of orthodox Christianity, from Catholicism to Greek Orthodox and pretty much every other group that has a forum on this site. None of them advocate for a total separation from friends and family. In fact, we all as Christians should encourage those around us to share their testimony and not isolate themselves.

Does this group elevate their teaching over the bible? The group I was in called themselves Christians, but the so-called study time was just reading their leader's old speeches. The Mormons have their own book which adds on teaching to the scriptures = not Christian. In a greater sense, the Muslims say the Bible is broken and their book falsely claims to fix it. The Bible is the same today as it was when it was written. There is no need for any other teaching.

Mormons have three extra-biblical books they call scripture and they have multiple lesson manuals to instruct members on the interpretation of those books.
 
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