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Beloved2018 said:

I would like to start a survey based discussion. But I'm not sure in what forum it belongs. I am a woman but the questions will be somewhat intimate/sexual in nature. I don't want to bring scandal upon anyone and I want people to be as open and as honest with me as they can. The purpose of my questions is theological. They will be addressed solely to men. This is why I am asking them, because I have no frame of reference. Knowing all of this, what are your suggestions? Thanks.

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I wouldn't recommend it, especially online. Unless you find someone mature and able to respond wisely, you should keep these questions secret.

MasterYourLife said:

I wouldn't recommend it, especially online. Unless you find someone mature and able to respond wisely, you should keep these questions secret.

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Hi @Beloved2018, I agree with MasterYourLife, it doesn't sound like an open forum is the right place for your questions (of course, I don't know what they are, which might make a difference).

I suppose you could gather a group of up to 6 participants and have a private "Conversation" with them here. You could also pose your questions to a mod and/or an administrator and ask them 1. if they are appropriate for any of our open boards, and then 2. (if they are appropriate for these forums) which board you should use.

You could also ask your pastor, and/or one of our chaplains here at CF, and keep things between you and them alone.

--David

CF has private forums, but you have to be a paid subscriber to use them. Do not ask anyone sexual questions.

Beloved2018 said:

a survey based discussion

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Beloved2018 said:

I am a woman but the questions will be somewhat intimate/sexual in nature.

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First, in my opinion, you can have a survey, but each man is unique, so much-so, that you would do well to get each man's reason for his choice in the survey.

And I would say if you are asking about what is sexual and Christian, I think of 1 Corinthians 7:4. This would be a general principle to go with details of intimate activity. Intimate behavior needs to feed on how scriptures say for us to relate, including >

"submitting to one another in the fear of God." (Ephesians 5:21)

"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)

"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:31-32)

And my opinion is there are things for a lady to discover with the man she belongs with, things which are for them to discover, not for a surveyed bunch of strangers to tell them > or else > you can be relating, essentially, with us on the Net, instead of with your man you belong with! There are things for you to find out with God and your man, creatively, not copying what some majority of strangers say

Beloved2018 said:

1)I need a large sample group.
2)And this isn't a woman-man relationship question, this is a how do I as a man relate to God question.
It's a question that is not without precedence in Catholic spirituality ( I'm Catholic), but I'd like to have some feedback from the yr 2019, especially from Christian brothers who are not Catholic.

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Since that is the case, I think you need to pose your questions to a moderator for approval (because if they don't approve of them, you can bet that they will take them down, as I'm sure that you already know ).

--David

Beloved2018 said:

how do I as a man relate to God

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"Therefore submit to God." (in James 4:7)

By now, I'm sure we're all dying to know what the question is.

I think it could be interesting to poll how men view God, in terms of if He is personal with His children, or if He leaves us on our own to choose and do things.

One view is God is personal; so He speaks personally with each of us, but then He leaves it up to us what we do on our own.

Two > God is personal with His children; so God personally communicates and personally guides each of us and wants to guide us all the time.

Three > God wants to help us out, only when we get stuck.

Four > God is about being intimate with us in His love, while personally correcting us and communicating and guiding us all the time.

Five > God has given us church practices and moral things to do for Him, and this is what He wants . . . nothing too personal.

If you believe in choice number four, how to you go about personally relating with God?

I be quiet, when I first wake up. I wait for God to correct me so I am submissive to Him the way He wants me to be submissive. I do not take it on my own self, to try to make my own self submissive . . . in His peace. And I trust God to have me discover how He personally rules me in His peace > how I am, how I see things, how I get an idea of what I am going to do, and what He actually has me doing in His peace, and how He has me ready to relate with different people, caring for them, being ready for love with any person, at least as each person's example. And then seek to stay prayerful like this all through the day. If I or my attention gets elsewhere, I need to stop and wait for God to correct me restore me to being sensitive to Him in His peace.

I am not sure you can use multiple choices to survey how men relate with God.

But I guess you could, for someone like me, say, "I be quiet and trust God to personally correct and guide me, all the time." That could be more simple, for a survey choice.