- Aug 23, 2019
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Hi, I'm pretty much new to the community and thank you for allowing me to be part of this group. The reason I joined the forum was because I'm having some issues with my marriage and perhaps with my own self. To give you a little background of the situation, I'm a husband with 2 small kids and have been married to my wife for about 11 yrs. My marriage has its ups and downs like other marriages but mostly downs due to so many little things but financial issue has always been on top. We live in Los Angeles, CA where the cost of living is pretty high so both my wife and I work to support the lifestyle. Though I have always been envisioning to have a traditional family where the wife would stay at home for the kids and the husband goes to work, but due to the hight cost of living we both ended up working. A few years ago, my wife got an increase in salary and now she's looking for another job that pays more. I was supposed to be happy for her and for the extra money she brings home but instead I felt miserable because I couldn't be the breadwinner of the family. I feel like a failure as a husband who is supposed to provide for a family. I know this is probably just in my mind because her attitudes doesn't change much after the raise, meaning she still takes care of the kids after work and does whatever she does as a wife. However, I just couldn't accept the fact that she makes more money than I do. I knew this is a wrong thought so I'm looking for guidance and advices on how to handle this situations and be more acceptance.
Thank you in advance.
John.
Thank you in advance.
John.