I have two nephews and a niece that I am constantly around. I have babysat them and I am always at their house so that I do work that my dad did. My mom and dad were raising them. But my dad died on July 1st due to lung cancer. It took him pretty quick. He died two months after being diagnosed. So, now it is left up to my mom and my big sister to raise them. My big sister is not their mom.
Anyways, the two boys (Ben and Dylan) do not get along at all. And even Samantha, my niece, who is a little nicer to Ben then his brother Dylan is still gets annoyed with him. And she is constantly telling him to go away. But she can be nice to him. Well, Samantha and Dylan (the older brother) are really close. They are constantly playing with each other and leaving him out. This kind of makes me feel sad for Ben. Ben is the one that is being left out. Dylan and Samantha are always trying to get Ben in trouble, and sometimes my mom and sister fall for it. When my dad was alive, he always stood up for Ben, but now I feel like no one stands up for him any more.
I am slowly starting to get angry in the way that Ben is being treated. Well, I guess it is not slowly because I am angry. Ben likes to come and visit me in the guess room when I am there and I let him. But then my other nephew and niece wants to visit me in my room as well. This is usually after I work and I want to rest. But when they visit me, they start fighting. Not physically, but you know what I mean.
Sometimes I feel like treating my nephew and niece the way they treat Ben. I got temptations to tell them go away and don't talk to me. This is extremely immature and childish. But it hurts to see them treating Ben the way that they do.
I also sometimes feel like treating Ben with so much favoritism that it hurts the other kids. I hate this part of me, but I was treated the same way growing up. I was treated like dirt. And so it hurts to see other kids doing the same thing to another kid.
What show I do really? What is the right thing to do? I know that treating my niece and nephew like dirt is not the right thing to do. So, how do I handle this maturely?