I know this is a stupid question. But how do you properly pray?

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God is revealed by Jesus as Father, something that the people of Israel never understood. Decent parents love their kids and enjoy talking with them. God loves us and wants us to ask for things. I know that the world is becoming more insular, insensitive and uncaring. Too many parents are more interested in their smart phone than their kids. God is not like that. He has 3 answers: Yes, No and Wait. Just be real with God. Be yourself. I read a book years ago called "Hey God". It was the testimony of a woman who had a wonderful prayer life. And yes, she spoke to God saying, "Hey God" as the preface. I have a feeling she was Italian, but it was a long time ago. God knows our every need and weakness. He also knows that we need Him above all else. If He just doles out answers without our asking, it would create problems. We would not see our need of God. We would live independently, which is the sin that brought Adam and Eve undone. We would take God for granted. We have free will. God respects that. We need to make our will clear to God. Lord Jesus told to ask and keep on asking, seek and keep on seeking. We are told that if we draw near to God, He will draw near to us. It's relationship. How would it be in your marriage if you only spoke to your husband on a Sunday morning?

It would suck because we talk to each other literally several times a day. I can imagine how God feels by not hearing from us and not connecting with us on a deeper level.
 
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Different people pray it at different times. There isn’t a one size fits all solution for it.

I have a set of morning prayers. It includes the Our Father, some formalized Catholic prayers and the Nicene Creed. But you can pray any prayer as often or as rarely as you want.

So you just say those prayers and then get on with what you want to say or do you only say them alone? I know Catholics use the Rosary because I was taught to do so as I was a kid. Where does the rosary fit in with that?

I think if I was going to use premade prayers I would want to add my own communication with God and not just cite off some random prayers that other people have just made up.
 
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Have you had children? How many details of your children have been interesting to you? But God is not like us humans. As our children get older, they can seem more demanding to us, and we might just as soon turn them over to toys and TV and games to babysit them. But our Father does not change on us, like this. Our Father desires to share with us in all our activities and how we are relating.

"casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)

But if you put God on time out, you are putting yourself on time out from how we can discover loving with Him . . . in everything.

"Let all that you do be done with love." (1 Corinthians 16:14)

So, there is nothing to do without Him. He is this personally interested in each of us.

But we are the ones who are into ourselves and impersonal, so we do not share with Him in His love.

And so prayer is related to relating in love, sensing, responding, staying submissive to God all the time . . . in His peace >

"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)

If you are living and loving in this peace, you won't need any vain things to help you feel good. Learning how to love and share with God is the most worthwhile adventure and challenge and education there is :)

My wife and I have not been blessed by God yet. I have faith that one day we will and my wife just doesn't have faith at all. Kind of like Abrahm and Sarah. But I have two nieces and do understand your anology. But would God care about the things that are sins in his eyes? Like video games for example. Some Christian's believe that playing video games is a sin against God. Others like myself only view it as a sin if you spend too much of your time on it. One of us is right and if God doesn't approve of me playing video games I dont want to anger or upset him. Do you see what I'm saying?
 
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When I pray, I almost always start with Dear Heavenly Father and end with In Jesus's name I pray-this is just something I have done since I was little and was always told to pray in Jesus's name. I pray every morning and night-and in between :) Sometimes, I will just talk to him like I am talking to my friend. I cast all my worries onto Him throughout my day. Sometimes, when I don't know what to say, I will say the Lord's Prayer. I will even say something like "God, I do not like doing (whatever part of my job I am struggling with)". I may say it out loud talking to him, or even just think it, and I know he hears me and I feel like I am talking to my earthly parents and just having a conversation. I find that as I get further along in this journey, I do pray more and simply talk to God more. You will probably get much better answers than mine, but I always ask to be shown the way and the right way to do things.

So when you say "God" or "Dear God" God knows you are speaking to him and not to some random false God?
 
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I once read somewhere to pray with all your heart and all your mind and I wondered what that meant.
Maybe i'll never fully understand that but this is how I've been praying recently.

I just stick to the "Our Father" prayer taught to us by Jesus. However as I'm praying i keep in my mind and heart the purpose of the prayer. For example if I want God to help me with the temptation of sin I keep focusing on that in mind while praying. If I'm thanking God for something I keep that focused in my mind while praying. Whenever I tried just talking to God I become so nervous, I try make it sound eloquent but just end up stumbling over my words. God reads our minds and hearts and knows what we are going to ask for before we ask it.

And Neostarwcc, I wouldn't be wasting prayers on video games. I would thank God first for the things u have such as your lovely wife who sounds like she yearns for a connection to God. Then I would ask him to help remove any resentments against family members and to keep your relationships strong.

God Bless

I agree. But isn't prayer also spending time with God? Doesn't God desire go be my friend? I discuss these things with my friends so why shouldn't I discuss them with God? See what I'm saying?
 
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Concerning praying about insignificant details...

Right after I first came to faith, I was on the job-site. I was a foreman for an aerial phone construction crew. We had to take down an old cable, and put up new strand, cable, and lash it together. It was across an intersection with four lanes. We didn't have any traffic control, so I knew we would have to do it all (take the old down and put the new up) in one pass while the light was red.

For the life of me, I can't figure out the best, safest way to do it. The big boss (company man) is in my ear to hurry up and figure something out, so I'm getting real anxious. For whatever reason, the thought occurs to me to pray. So, I throw up a quick pray, "God, if there is anyway to do this safely and successfully, please help me see it." Immediately, I could see clearly how to do it. We did it and went home that day with no disasters, no injuries.

Now, I know, some naysayers might balk and say it was coincidence, or I somehow opened my subconscious to see what I couldn't see consciously, or whatever. I get that. But, I knew in that moment that God had giving me a little gift. I knew it was an answer to my prayer, and I knew it like I know my own mama. For a long time I held that gift close, reminded myself that God is listening and God is gracious, granting gifts.

I am not at all opposed to praying for seemingly small, insignificant details. I would, however, do so while also being open to the future God has in store. God isn't there to simply give us whatever we want. But, when God does, and we are aware, then it strengthens our faith for those time when things don't go the way we might like it to. We are certainly taught by our Lord and the Apostle to make our requests known. But, in my humble and prayerful opinion, prayer is primarily about transforming us into the image we were created to be. Well, that's another sermon, haha. But, yeah, don't hesitate to take seemingly insignificant details to God. God loves us and sometimes shows it in surprising ways.

May God bless the two of you as you grow in grace. :)
 
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Please understand that I don't mean to sound like a troll on any of these questions. They are all honest and genuine questions from the heart. I honestly have been apart from God for so long that I don't know how to properly pray. Both my wife and I could use help on this. My wife has only prayed a few times in her life when she was Catholic as a kid. But she's always believed in Christ from the moment she was born. I on the other hand, was also raised Catholic but never shared my mother's faith so I didn't bother with praying much. I prayed sometimes but I still feel like as a kid I prayed the wrong way because I used to pray to Mary and to the saints and all of the other Catholic ways which I don't feel comfortable doing now as a protestant.

But yeah, I was an atheist for most of my life so I missed out on the whole "How to pray" thing. I know prayer is just talking to God and telling him about how you feel and thanking/praising him but what's expected of us when we pray? Would God care about the tiniest details of my life? Like say I want to pray about playing Video Games and tell him how happy they make me feel or tell him that I want to get to a certain level or something? Lol An honest question that I'm really embarrassed to ask. Let me explain. I don't want God to not care about what I have to say or if I'm committing a sin against him I don't want him to be angry at me or whatever. Or if I want to share with him that since I never achieved the goals in my life that I'm semi angry with him? I'm mostly angry at my dad but mostly because my dad physically abused me when I was growing up and told me that I would never amount to anything and basically that I was a loser. I've told God multiple times that I want to let this anger go in my life because God probably didn't want me to achieve the goals of my life and I should accept it. God also gave me my father for a reason. Maybe so that I would love my heavenly father more. Who knows.

Should we get in the habit of praying daily to God? I know some Christians would give varying answers to that question so maybe I can't be helped on that one. Does God hear our prayers in our thoughts or do we have to pray out loud? Would God hear my wife and I if we started praying together or is prayer supposed to be done by us individually in private like Jesus seems to command in Matthew 6:6? Do I pray to the Trinity or just to Jesus/God the Father the Holy Spirit alone?

Scripture pretty much says to pray to God the Father only but yet many Christians pray to the Trinity why is that when never in the New Testament do we see examples of Prayer to Jesus or the HS and Jesus never prayed to the HS? It makes sense why he wouldn't pray to himself but there's still another part of him that's fully and equally God and equivalent to himself so why didn't he pray to him to help guide him in his earthly mission?

If I just say "Dear God". Or just simply "God" when I start my prayer does that mean I'm praying to the Trinity or to a random false God? Does God know the desire of our hearts when we pray? Sounds like a stupid question but it's sincere. Like say if I pray "Dear God" does God know that I intend to pray to him or to pray to the Trinity? I really don't want him to think that I'm praying to some false God.

How do you overcome fear of rejection and the awkwardness of prayer? My wife feels extremely guilty and like God will smite her down any second because she's barely prayed to him. Nor do we really live for God and are just Christians on paper (That's changing).

I think that's about it for my questions for now. I'll probably ask more as this thread gets bigger.
What do you mean "properly"? Christ is your closest friend..Knows you better than you know yourself.. You can talk to him like anyone else about anything.
 
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What do you mean "properly"? Christ is your closest friend..Knows you better than you know yourself.. You can talk to him like anyone else about anything.

Christ also says throughout the gospels that there are incorrect ways to pray that are disapproving to God. True they were mostly done by pharisees but what I and what every Christian wants is to pray to God in a way to is pleasing to him. Dont you want that to?
 
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Concerning praying about insignificant details...

Right after I first came to faith, I was on the job-site. I was a foreman for an aerial phone construction crew. We had to take down an old cable, and put up new strand, cable, and lash it together. It was across an intersection with four lanes. We didn't have any traffic control, so I knew we would have to do it all (take the old down and put the new up) in one pass while the light was red.

For the life of me, I can't figure out the best, safest way to do it. The big boss (company man) is in my ear to hurry up and figure something out, so I'm getting real anxious. For whatever reason, the thought occurs to me to pray. So, I throw up a quick pray, "God, if there is anyway to do this safely and successfully, please help me see it." Immediately, I could see clearly how to do it. We did it and went home that day with no disasters, no injuries.

Now, I know, some naysayers might balk and say it was coincidence, or I somehow opened my subconscious to see what I couldn't see consciously, or whatever. I get that. But, I knew in that moment that God had giving me a little gift. I knew it was an answer to my prayer, and I knew it like I know my own mama. For a long time I held that gift close, reminded myself that God is listening and God is gracious, granting gifts.

I am not at all opposed to praying for seemingly small, insignificant details. I would, however, do so while also being open to the future God has in store. God isn't there to simply give us whatever we want. But, when God does, and we are aware, then it strengthens our faith for those time when things don't go the way we might like it to. We are certainly taught by our Lord and the Apostle to make our requests known. But, in my humble and prayerful opinion, prayer is primarily about transforming us into the image we were created to be. Well, that's another sermon, haha. But, yeah, don't hesitate to take seemingly insignificant details to God. God loves us and sometimes shows it in surprising ways.

May God bless the two of you as you grow in grace. :)

Thanks. But what if those small and insignificant details are sins? I dont really want to sin against God more than I have to. You know?
 
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Thanks. But what if those small and insignificant details are sins? I dont really want to sin against God more than I have to. You know?

Good question. If you are aware they are sins, then go with your conscience. If you are not sure, ask for guidance. Whatever you do, try to do what seems most loving. If you err, you always want to err on the side of love. And if you sin, trust God's grace, ask for forgiveness and the Spirit's help to do better. Don't be afraid. God isn't trying to trick you. God loves you. Trust that and go out there and be golden! ;)
 
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Christ also says throughout the gospels that there are incorrect ways to pray that are disapproving to God. True they were mostly done by pharisees but what I and what every Christian wants is to pray to God in a way to is pleasing to him. Dont you want that to?
Weren't those prayers explained as loud public prayers that were "look at me" type prayers? Prayers that said how good they were compared to others? In the basic teaching of Christ... that would be wrong on many fronts.
 
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Weren't those prayers explained as loud public prayers that were "look at me" type prayers? Prayers that said how good they were compared to others? In the basic teaching of Christ... that would be wrong on many fronts.

Right and those kinds of Jews at the time who thought they were better than everyone else because they "keep the law" but God showed disapproval on them because they didnt keep the Law perfectly .,etc.

There's also an example Jesus gave when by e was recruiting Matthew. When he said that the pharisees were praying to God "thank you God for making me not li moo e yhem" when Matthew was praying "God. Have mercy on me for I am a sinner." And Matthew was the one justified by God rather than the pharisee.

I see what you're saying.
 
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So when you say "God" or "Dear God" God knows you are speaking to him and not to some random false God?
Absolutely-there is only one Heavenly Father, and he knows that I know that in my heart. He knows his children and we know Him :)
 
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The way to properly pray is simple, yet for some people it takes some work: be real. God already knows everything; there is really no point in being anything but completely up front and real with Him. There is no protocol, no way you are supposed to talk, no order in which you have to do things. But if you are not being real--the one thing you do have to do--then you are not praying right.

That is not to say that there are not OTHER things you are not doing right. I may not be thankful enough; I may have sinful thoughts. I may not respect God. Arrogance. Lust. Greed. Those are different issues. But when you pray, you need to take yourself, with all your own imperfections and sin, to the discussion.

Have you ever seen a small kid put something in their mouth they were not supposed to? And the mom will say, "spit it out in my hand." And so the kid spits it out--which is kind of gross--but the mom disposes of it and later washes her hands. It is not pleasant for the mom, either, but she is taking care of her kid. God is Abba Father; He is our dad. If you have sin, He wants you to take it to Him, in prayer. Even if your prayer is, "God, please kill this person," or "God, please let me have that married woman." Spit it out. At least you are taking these sinful desires to the right person. It sure as heck beats you going to SATAN with these things. If you want God to strike someone dead, you definitely have some issues; but you are not PRAYING wrong. We call that confession.
 
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The way to properly pray is simple, yet for some people it takes some work: be real. God already knows everything; there is really no point in being anything but completely up front and real with Him. There is no protocol, no way you are supposed to talk, no order in which you have to do things. But if you are not being real--the one thing you do have to do--then you are not praying right.

That is not to say that there are not OTHER things you are not doing right. I may not be thankful enough; I may have sinful thoughts. I may not respect God. Arrogance. Lust. Greed. Those are different issues. But when you pray, you need to take yourself, with all your own imperfections and sin, to the discussion.

Have you ever seen a small kid put something in their mouth they were not supposed to? And the mom will say, "spit it out in my hand." And so the kid spits it out--which is kind of gross--but the mom disposes of it and later washes her hands. It is not pleasant for the mom, either, but she is taking care of her kid. God is Abba Father; He is our dad. If you have sin, He wants you to take it to Him, in prayer. Even if your prayer is, "God, please kill this person," or "God, please let me have that married woman." Spit it out. At least you are taking these sinful desires to the right person. It sure as heck beats you going to SATAN with these things. If you want God to strike someone dead, you definitely have some issues; but you are not PRAYING wrong. We call that confession.

Thank you. So there's really no improper way to pray as long as I speak from the heart? That's helpful. Should I also keep my prayers short instead of babble on and on? Jesus said something like this. What if I have a lot to say and want to talk about?

I think if you said "please strike this person dead" God wouldn't like it and would be displeased with you would he not? Sure he could. But its never in Gods will to strike a person dead unless they did something REALLY bad. Lol.
 
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If I just say "Dear God". Or just simply "God" when I start my prayer does that mean I'm praying to the Trinity or to a random false God? Does God know the desire of our hearts when we pray? Sounds like a stupid question but it's sincere. Like say if I pray "Dear God" does God know that I intend to pray to him or to pray to the Trinity? I really don't want him to think that I'm praying to some false God.

How do you overcome fear of rejection and the awkwardness of prayer? My wife feels extremely guilty and like God will smite her down any second because she's barely prayed to him. Nor do we really live for God and are just Christians on paper (That's changing).

Not a stupid question at all. Glad to know that you're changing the way you live...after all, that is really what repentance is all about. Conforming your life to God. Becoming Christians (little Christs). Theosis. There are far too many people running around with a false security about salvation because they walked an aisle or prayed a prayer at a given point in their lives and believed that they received their heavenly boarding pass.

With regards to prayer, like fasting, it's a Christian discipline...and a big topic. My recommendation is that you start with pre-printed prayers. Read them out loud, or to yourself and positively affirm/agree with their content as you do.

The Ancient Faith Prayer Book

Lutheran Book of Prayer, 5th Edition

Pick up one of these. Your wife probably has some familiarity with this style of prayer, growing up Catholic. Using a prayer book will allow you to discipline your prayer life and make it easier for you to pray.

As far as not praying to a false God, if you have a correct conception of God as stated in the ancient Nicene Creed, you're good.
 
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Absolutely-there is only one Heavenly Father, and he knows that I know that in my heart. He knows his children and we know Him :)

John 10:3 comes to mind with your statement. I mean I know it's a common Christian belief that we are God's children and he knows us all by name. It's also said that he knows all of the stars and calls them all by name as well. So I guess no matter what we pray, God knows that we are speaking to him because we are his.

Plus, doesn't God know all anyway?
 
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Not a stupid question at all. Glad to know that you're changing the way you live...after all, that is really what repentance is all about. Conforming your life to God. Becoming Christians (little Christs). Theosis. There are far too many people running around with a false security about salvation because they walked an aisle or prayed a prayer at a given point in their lives and believed that they received their heavenly boarding pass.

With regards to prayer, like fasting, it's a Christian discipline...and a big topic. My recommendation is that you start with pre-printed prayers. Read them out loud, or to yourself and positively affirm/agree with their content as you do.

The Ancient Faith Prayer Book

Lutheran Book of Prayer, 5th Edition

Pick up one of these. Your wife probably has some familiarity with this style of prayer, growing up Catholic. Using a prayer book will allow you to discipline your prayer life and make it easier for you to pray.

As far as not praying to a false God, if you have a correct conception of God as stated in the ancient Nicene Creed, you're good.

I was just asking because saying "God" could mean any God. Whereas if you say "Heavenly Father" or "Jesus" or "Holy Spirit" It's pretty obvious what part of God you are talking to.

I think we covered some of these when I went to Sunday school as a kid. I was only in Sunday school for a few months though because I quit.
 
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Thank you. So there's really no improper way to pray as long as I speak from the heart? That's helpful. Should I also keep my prayers short instead of babble on and on? Jesus said something like this. What if I have a lot to say and want to talk about?

It's not really "bad form" to babble on and on, since no such form exists. Scripture also commands us to "pray without ceasing," or to "pray continually". (I Thessalonians 5:17). However, babbling a lot might not be as good for you, because prayer is just as much for you as it is for God.

Also, it is better if prayer is a two-way conversation. Which I know is hard, because usually God doesn't just literally speak to us. Sometimes it can even get downright frustrating, like "Come on, God! Talk back!" Babbling on and on implies some lack of hearing back from God, for some reason. Could be you're not listening. Could be He didn't say anything. I don't like either.


I think if you said "please strike this person dead" God wouldn't like it and would be displeased with you would he not? Sure he could. But its never in Gods will to strike a person dead unless they did something REALLY bad. Lol.

Actually, God would be more pleased with you than you think, because He already knew your heart. But it also says something about your heart because you took your desire to HIM.

Anyway, who's to say when it is God's will to kill somebody? Everybody sins, everybody dies. I lost a close, young family member, she was praying that she couldn't wait to be with Him. She wanted to be in Heaven. Killed instantly in a head-on car crash, that was not her own fault. God answered her prayer, all right. But she did nothing wrong.
 
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Please understand that I don't mean to sound like a troll on any of these questions. They are all honest and genuine questions from the heart. I honestly have been apart from God for so long that I don't know how to properly pray. Both my wife and I could use help on this. My wife has only prayed a few times in her life when she was Catholic as a kid. But she's always believed in Christ from the moment she was born. I on the other hand, was also raised Catholic but never shared my mother's faith so I didn't bother with praying much. I prayed sometimes but I still feel like as a kid I prayed the wrong way because I used to pray to Mary and to the saints and all of the other Catholic ways which I don't feel comfortable doing now as a protestant.

But yeah, I was an atheist for most of my life so I missed out on the whole "How to pray" thing. I know prayer is just talking to God and telling him about how you feel and thanking/praising him but what's expected of us when we pray? Would God care about the tiniest details of my life? Like say I want to pray about playing Video Games and tell him how happy they make me feel or tell him that I want to get to a certain level or something? Lol An honest question that I'm really embarrassed to ask. Let me explain. I don't want God to not care about what I have to say or if I'm committing a sin against him I don't want him to be angry at me or whatever. Or if I want to share with him that since I never achieved the goals in my life that I'm semi angry with him? I'm mostly angry at my dad but mostly because my dad physically abused me when I was growing up and told me that I would never amount to anything and basically that I was a loser. I've told God multiple times that I want to let this anger go in my life because God probably didn't want me to achieve the goals of my life and I should accept it. God also gave me my father for a reason. Maybe so that I would love my heavenly father more. Who knows.

Should we get in the habit of praying daily to God? I know some Christians would give varying answers to that question so maybe I can't be helped on that one. Does God hear our prayers in our thoughts or do we have to pray out loud? Would God hear my wife and I if we started praying together or is prayer supposed to be done by us individually in private like Jesus seems to command in Matthew 6:6? Do I pray to the Trinity or just to Jesus/God the Father the Holy Spirit alone?

Scripture pretty much says to pray to God the Father only but yet many Christians pray to the Trinity why is that when never in the New Testament do we see examples of Prayer to Jesus or the HS and Jesus never prayed to the HS? It makes sense why he wouldn't pray to himself but there's still another part of him that's fully and equally God and equivalent to himself so why didn't he pray to him to help guide him in his earthly mission?

If I just say "Dear God". Or just simply "God" when I start my prayer does that mean I'm praying to the Trinity or to a random false God? Does God know the desire of our hearts when we pray? Sounds like a stupid question but it's sincere. Like say if I pray "Dear God" does God know that I intend to pray to him or to pray to the Trinity? I really don't want him to think that I'm praying to some false God.

How do you overcome fear of rejection and the awkwardness of prayer? My wife feels extremely guilty and like God will smite her down any second because she's barely prayed to him. Nor do we really live for God and are just Christians on paper (That's changing).

I think that's about it for my questions for now. I'll probably ask more as this thread gets bigger.

#1. We can pray to the Father in the name of Jesus (the Lord's prayer and John 14:13-14).
#2. We can pray directly to Jesus (and I would encourage this), as well. Jesus is our mediator between God the Father and men. It's why we pray in Jesus's name if we pray to the Father. People think there are many ways to talking to God, but the truth is that Jesus is our mediator and Heavenly High Priest.
#3. If we confess our sins (serious ones), it should be to Jesus. For He is our advocate (1 John 2:1).
#4. It does not have to fit a specific formula, but if you feel guided by God naturally to follow those men of God in the way they prayed, then by all means, do so.
#5. We should seek to not pray so as to be seen by men. I always try to encourage my wife when we are out to eat to make a silent prayer (so that no one notices that we are praying). While God can call us to pray with other believers, the Lord also wants us to do so more behind closed doors when nobody is looking.
#5. Our prayers should be focused on what God wants and not what we want or care for. If we desire to play video games to please ourselves, God is not interested in that. If it is a video game that seeks to tell people that salvation is in Jesus and in living for Him, that is different. But most video games are not like that. They seek to give a person pleasure alone, and God desires us to live for Him and not ourselves.
#6. The Lord's prayer is not something to be recited as if it was some kind of magical spell. It is an outline in how to pray. Each aspect of the Lord's prayer is about how it can help guide you in what God desires for your life. For example: "Give us this day our daily bread" = "Lord, help to show me what is in your word today as I read Romans 8, etc."
#7. Talk normally to God, but also give Him the reverence He is due because He is holy. So if you feel like bowing before God, then do so. If you are concerned that you are not more dedicated in your prayer life, or in your walk with the Lord, ask Him to help and He will.
#8. Never stop asking for something that is His will.
#9. Fasting is something that is also a part of prayer. I am weak in this area and I know I need to take my own advice on this. But fasting will help in your prayer life.
10. Pray for your enemies.
#11. Pray for lost souls in your area and opportunities to share Christ with others.
#12. Get in God's Word more and seek out all those verses on prayer. Read tons of articles on the topic and subject. Some will be good, and others will be bad, and others will be average. Just keep knocking and seeking what God's Word says about prayer. There are more gem stones on the topic of prayer in the Bible than what I can share here.

I hope that what I say helps;
And may God bless you this fine day.
 
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