If I rememeber correctly, it was Christ that said that even thinking of another woman was adultary...Jesus raised the bar... anything we do to another person that is not what we would like done to us.... now a sin.
Actually, you remember quite incorrectly, or meant more than you allowed in you statement about finding women attractive.
Matthew 5:28 quotes Jesus as saying, "Whoever looks on a woman
to lust after her has committed adultery in his heart already."
Do you have to lust after someone you see as beautiful? I don't.
Yes, Jesus did raise the bar because he wanted us to see the heart of the matter. He speaks of the heart in another place.
"For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within and defile a man." Mark 7: 21 to 23.
A heart that is iniquitous will be drawn to sin. A heart that is righteous will be drawn from it.
Has Jesus changed your heart?
Quite frankly, I don't think of other woman.
When we were younger my wife became frustrated when I pressed her for sex and said, "I don't know why you need to have sex all the time, why don't you go and find another woman?"
I replied, "Because I don't want another woman, I want you."
Later, for our 33rd wedding anniversary I wrote 10 songs as a gift for her and the one is entitled I Will Never Love Another.
That is my heart. Lovemaking is not about the physical pleasure alone, it is about the one I chose and love.
Let me say that I have quite a different view of the physical relationship and you will possibly disagree with it, but it is how I learned to overcome lust.
1. I saw that copulation is for this life only. We won't be doing it in heaven. This is based on Jesus'words that there is neither male or female in heaven for we are like the angels.
2. When I looked at Genesis 1 and 2 I noted that chapter 1 is a summary of creation leading to the final command to copulate and fill the earth. I noticed in chapter 3 that this command came after the fall of mankind where it is prophesies that a man will leave his mother and father and, cleaving to his wife they become one flesh.
3. I concluded then, using the thoughts and words of Scripture that sex is for the dying and not the living. It is a gift to corruption and not to incorruption.
Does this mean that we ought not to copulate? No, by all means, it is the gift of God; but do it in a godly fashion: with you wife.
However I am of the incorruptible by the grace of God, the gift of Christ, and the power of the Holy Ghost. Copulation is not high in my priorities, but we are commanded to fill the new earth, and we do this by being witnesses to the testimony of the Spirit.