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Sight of God yes...but where you are.. obey all mans laws
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Hi there,
If a guy and a girl rock up to church that have been living together unmarried, but both have just found salvation in Jesus, should they split as a couple until they can get married?
What if they claim they are now married before God having repented of their previous state, committed themselves to each other before Him immediately after finding salvation and are therefore married spiritually?
This begs the question - what constitutes a marriage biblically?
Some site Adam and Eve were married before God only.
Hi there,
If a guy and a girl rock up to church that have been living together unmarried, but both have just found salvation in Jesus, should they split as a couple until they can get married?
What if they claim they are now married before God having repented of their previous state, committed themselves to each other before Him immediately after finding salvation and are therefore married spiritually?
This begs the question - what constitutes a marriage biblically?
Some site Adam and Eve were married before God only.
I don't see the value in separating.. Why not just go to the JP and get it done then and there... Have a church celebration later....Hi there,
If a guy and a girl rock up to church that have been living together unmarried, but both have just found salvation in Jesus, should they split as a couple until they can get married?
What if they claim they are now married before God having repented of their previous state, committed themselves to each other before Him immediately after finding salvation and are therefore married spiritually?
This begs the question - what constitutes a marriage biblically?
Some site Adam and Eve were married before God only.
Can someone show some scripture where it says that official marriage before God has anything to do with marriage laws created by human beings? Is there any such scripture? I would love to take a look at it. ThanksHi Carl,
This couple needs to immediately stop living (and sleeping) together until they are legally married.
What constitutes a legal marriage is first directed by what Scripture says (= one man and one woman for life) and then by what their particular state requires (= marriage license, official marriage ceremony, etc.).
As believers, they are to submit themselves to the governing authorities over them in becoming "legally married," since there is nothing about those requirements that violate any biblical command (Reference: Romans 13:1-2). Without meeting these requirements, they are not married before God or anyone else but simply living in sin instead (if they continue living and sleeping together).
Hope that helps!
What do cultural norms have to do with God? It isn’t against a God to deviate from social or cultural norms is it?Hi Carl,
I would assert that your statement, "authority in any culture is to be respected and the cultural norms define what constitutes marriage" would apply only in cases where those cultures and cultural norms do not violate God's Word or principles (or our own consciences, for that matter).
For example, if a culture (and their government) legalized polygamy, homosexual marriage or human-animal marriage, then your statement would not apply since it goes against the clear teaching of Scripture. But in cases where no violation of God's Word (or our own conscience) is present, then yes, I would agree with that statement.
I don't see the value in separating.. Why not just go to the JP and get it done then and there... Have a church celebration later....
Romans 13
1Every person is to be in subjection to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those which exist are established by God. 2Therefore whoever resists authority has opposed the ordinance of God; and they who have opposed will receive condemnation upon themselves. 3For rulers are not a cause of fear for good behavior, but for evil. Do you want to have no fear of authority? Do what is good and you will have praise from the same; 4for it is a minister of God to you for good. But if you do what is evil, be afraid; for it does not bear the sword for nothing; for it is a minister of God, an avenger who brings wrath on the one who practices evil. 5Therefore it is necessary to be in subjection, not only because of wrath, but also for conscience’ sake. 6For because of this you also pay taxes, for rulers are servants of God, devoting themselves to this very thing.7Render to all what is due them: tax to whom tax is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honor to whom honor.
God works through governing authorities.
Such authorities require legal acknowledgement of marriage performed by a registered celebrant.
Folks that ignore this requirement are acting lawlessly and need to clean up their act.
They would not be considered married before God if this step is not taken.
That means those who choose to be married before God without going through this hoop are indeed living in sin.
Ok so I have a quick question for you now. Was God working through the governing authorities when say slavery was legal? Or do we pick and choose which times we get to say God was working through governing authorities and when God was absent from working with the governing authorities?Romans 13
1Every person is to be in subjection to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those which exist are established by God. 2Therefore whoever resists authority has opposed the ordinance of God; and they who have opposed will receive condemnation upon themselves. 3For rulers are not a cause of fear for good behavior, but for evil. Do you want to have no fear of authority? Do what is good and you will have praise from the same; 4for it is a minister of God to you for good. But if you do what is evil, be afraid; for it does not bear the sword for nothing; for it is a minister of God, an avenger who brings wrath on the one who practices evil. 5Therefore it is necessary to be in subjection, not only because of wrath, but also for conscience’ sake. 6For because of this you also pay taxes, for rulers are servants of God, devoting themselves to this very thing.7Render to all what is due them: tax to whom tax is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honor to whom honor.
God works through governing authorities.
Such authorities require legal acknowledgement of marriage performed by a registered celebrant.
Folks that ignore this requirement are acting lawlessly and need to clean up their act.
They would not be considered married before God if this step is not taken.
That means those who choose to be married before God without going through this hoop are indeed living in sin.
Ok so I have a quick question for you now. Was God working through the governing authorities when say slavery was legal? Or do we pick and choose which times we get to say God was working through governing authorities and when God was absent from working with the governing authorities?
I think a careful study of the Romans 13 will show that Paul was not talking about civil government but mature leaders of the body of Christ.
I don't know how the laws in New Zealand came about, but I suspect we have a similar history. It is obvious you have posted Rom 13 to repudiate what I had shared regarding the marriage license.
However, this topic is too big to discuss in this venue. If you have an open mind, I direct you to this article on Rom 13 that I wrote several years ago.
Ok so I have a quick question for you now. Was God working through the governing authorities when say slavery was legal? Or do we pick and choose which times we get to say God was working through governing authorities and when God was absent from working with the governing authorities?
I think this point you raise is fully relevant and needs to be discussed.
You claim Romans 13 refers to Church administration not Civil authority - this is critical to the topic - please support this view from scripture.
I think this point you raise is fully relevant and needs to be discussed.
You claim Romans 13 refers to Church administration not Civil authority - this is critical to the topic - please support this view from scripture.
If I had lived with my ex before we got married, then our wedding would never had happened. There is an old saying that "you do not truly know someone until you live with them." Living with her was misery. Had I known of how just unhappy she would make me, then I never would have married her.
Fast forward to now. My old lady and I have been married for 20 happy years. We lived together for 3 before.
By the time we got married we knew each other well.
My advice to others is to live together first. This is the 21st century and first century Jewish traditions do not find us not should they define us.