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I mean absolutely no blasphemy or disrespect whatsoever, but sometimes I feel that God teases me. He acts like He is going to let something wonderful happen, but then at the last minute it doesn't. Or I have it for a very short while, then He takes it away and laughs at my disappointment. Part of this is depressive thinking, I understand, but I need to explain my logic here.
God is my Father. On that we agree. The thing is, in my experience with natural parents, step-parents, and other close family members, teasing is what they do. As a child I've been, for example, teased while unwrapping my Christmas presents. "What did you get there? Oh, no. That's too expensive. We can't afford it. We're going to have to take that back to the store." Couldn't let me just enjoy Christmas, could they? Or, we're homeless and looking for a place to live. My mother and brothers have been out house-hunting. When they return to the shelter, my brothers run up to me all excited, describing in detail this wonderful house they found. Turns out there was no such house. They're just yanking my chain, so they could laugh at me and say, "Sucker!" After so many of these examples, I became afraid to get too happy about anything because it might be a trick.
So, cut to modern day. My husband, through little to no fault of his own, lost two jobs within three months. He is now on unemployment while searching for another job. He's been turned down for several, and I don't understand. He's a wonderful man. What are they not seeing? Why are they not hiring him? I myself have been disabled for years after a car accident, but I'm now rehabilitated to the point where I believe I might be able to work. I was supposed to start a temporary job with the US Census, but there has been red tape and entanglements. I'm told I'm not the only one in this predicament. There are thousands of people, they said, with their starting dates on hold because all of the ducks are not in a row yet. It was supposed to start a couple of weeks ago. But.... not yet. I'm not hearing anything. I was so happy to get this job... but now I'm being teased? I'm not really going to start a job after all? Is this another "sucker" trick?
Speaking of which, when my husband casually mentioned at church that his unemployment payments have started, a member of our church laughed and pointed her finger at him. "Ha ha, you're a bum!" Didn't bother him. Bugged the stuffing out of me. I mean, good grief, if someone were to lose a parent, I wouldn't point and laugh at them, "Ha ha, you're an orphan!" This is only one example (the most painful, I think) of teasing that goes on at church. But teasing is supposed to be OK, right? Someone says something unkind, and I'm not supposed to let it hurt my feelings, or else that's me being too sensitive and not having a sense of humor.
Deacons and others at our church have been reassuring me that God does not tease, toy, or troll. My reasoning (wrong though it may be) is that He's a Father, and that's what fathers do. Also, His church is His people. They represent Him. And they sure tease.
So if God doesn't tease, why do His people?
God is my Father. On that we agree. The thing is, in my experience with natural parents, step-parents, and other close family members, teasing is what they do. As a child I've been, for example, teased while unwrapping my Christmas presents. "What did you get there? Oh, no. That's too expensive. We can't afford it. We're going to have to take that back to the store." Couldn't let me just enjoy Christmas, could they? Or, we're homeless and looking for a place to live. My mother and brothers have been out house-hunting. When they return to the shelter, my brothers run up to me all excited, describing in detail this wonderful house they found. Turns out there was no such house. They're just yanking my chain, so they could laugh at me and say, "Sucker!" After so many of these examples, I became afraid to get too happy about anything because it might be a trick.
So, cut to modern day. My husband, through little to no fault of his own, lost two jobs within three months. He is now on unemployment while searching for another job. He's been turned down for several, and I don't understand. He's a wonderful man. What are they not seeing? Why are they not hiring him? I myself have been disabled for years after a car accident, but I'm now rehabilitated to the point where I believe I might be able to work. I was supposed to start a temporary job with the US Census, but there has been red tape and entanglements. I'm told I'm not the only one in this predicament. There are thousands of people, they said, with their starting dates on hold because all of the ducks are not in a row yet. It was supposed to start a couple of weeks ago. But.... not yet. I'm not hearing anything. I was so happy to get this job... but now I'm being teased? I'm not really going to start a job after all? Is this another "sucker" trick?
Speaking of which, when my husband casually mentioned at church that his unemployment payments have started, a member of our church laughed and pointed her finger at him. "Ha ha, you're a bum!" Didn't bother him. Bugged the stuffing out of me. I mean, good grief, if someone were to lose a parent, I wouldn't point and laugh at them, "Ha ha, you're an orphan!" This is only one example (the most painful, I think) of teasing that goes on at church. But teasing is supposed to be OK, right? Someone says something unkind, and I'm not supposed to let it hurt my feelings, or else that's me being too sensitive and not having a sense of humor.
Deacons and others at our church have been reassuring me that God does not tease, toy, or troll. My reasoning (wrong though it may be) is that He's a Father, and that's what fathers do. Also, His church is His people. They represent Him. And they sure tease.
So if God doesn't tease, why do His people?