Hi Arnold. JoyMercy added me to this thread, and I just read through it. What a shame that many churches do not minister as they should. I will be reading Nehemiah 8 during the Bible study I will be teaching at the church tomorrow, and it speaks of how the Word was publicly read for hours, for some seven days, and that the people were attentive. We have gotten into the routine of a lot of music, a lot of stories and non-biblical preaching, and very little time of really getting into the Word of God in our churches today. Your experience of lack of concern about you by the church is related to this. The Word changes lives so that people are more compassionate, and the lack of The Word leaves many unchanged. It is what it is, and we can rightfully criticize and find fault, but that doesn't solve the problem or help us as an individual. God and His Word is still there for you as an individual in spite of the shortcomings of the local churches around you. We are to continue to go to the best church we can find, but not put ourselves in dependence upon it to meet our needs. God will use the church if the church is willing and obedient, but if it is not God will minister to you as you just lean more heavily upon spending time with Him in His Word. We may be almost isolated within a prison cell or a church auditorium filled with people. Either way, God doesn't leave us alone. He Himself is there for us and will show Himself sufficient. It is not our spouse that can truly meet all of our deepest needs, nor the church, or a lot of other things that could be listed. These things can actually distract us from God. Going into widowhood can show us where we are weak and need to start a proper intake of the right spiritual diet and the right spiritual exercise. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10; Habakkuk 3:15; 2 Timothy 2:1; Isaiah 41:13. The beginning of the strengthening process you need is not easy. It can be painful at first, but in time and in consistent application you grow in strength and confidence. It takes time and patience, and the right focus. Isaiah 26:3. Father, I pray that You will guide, coach, motivate, teach, train, and bring Arnold to the place that You would have him reach in his relationship to You, providing the people in his life that can assist, as well as the understanding of how to proceed where no people are being of any help. Amen.