I was confused because she herself is with a non-Christian man but said she wants to get out of the relationship to find a Christian man. But maybe she is not in a place to give me advice until she actually follows through with her words.
I don’t think she’s an ideal source. If there is a situation you are best served by someone who averted temptation. Not one walking in sin.
More importantly, wanting to leave and letting go are not the same. Given the challenges many Christians have finding a partner don’t be surprised if she remains in that state. Once you’ve tasted forbidden fruit the second bite is easier.
My personal opinion for your edification is this. You serve two masters. Inevitably the differences will arise and conflict or misunderstandings may occur.
Your spirit will wither. You will believe you can make a difference and watch the calendar turn while he remains in that condition. You will carry the load of prayer and everything amiss in the relationship spiritually. You’ll pour in and receive nothing in return.
You’ll become dismayed and disheartened and reach an unexpected fork in the road. Surrender to him and forsake your faith or to God and let him go. The two will war within you constantly each desiring its way.
Light and dark cannot coexist peacefully. One will influence the other. Oftentimes light succumbs to the dark and the slide quickens.
Place your Isaac on the altar. Allow the Lord to redeem him and wait for what He has for you. If this is His will He’ll resurrect it. If not, a better solution will come forth.
We cannot operate illegitimately and expect God’s blessing when we’ve gone outside of His boundaries. We should expect hardship, pain and correction for our disobedience.
The Christian women I’ve conversed with who did the same and married the individual have waited a long while before he came to faith. Sixteen for one and twenty for another. Many are still waiting.