This sounds rather reasonable. An aligned mindset and of course a gentlemanly demeanor is probably a commonly desired attribute.
I am probably more adamant about gentlemanly behavior than most due to my upbringing. Etiquette and good deportment was deeply embedded. I didn’t have the option to be unladylike. We weren’t exposed to examples who didn’t emulate their principles. Everyone in our environment behaved the same.
This can be left up to interpretation I suppose...something that you could probably find out as your getting to know them or at the beginning stages.
A calling is a commitment. If both are in the early stages that’s fine. But when you’re further out its nice to have someone whose been tested and tried.
I don’t live or function in a Christian enclave. Nor are my associations wholly Christians. My hobbies and cultural interests aren’t Christian. Some people wouldn’t thrive in that environment.
You really have me curious as to what kind of industry this is. So it does raise questions. How would your profession and you specifically that's tied to this profession...would cause him to stumble? Is there sexual sin, occult, or drugs part of your industry?
The fashion industry’s hallmark is excess and some things are plentiful and boundaries are few. It’s not the ideal setting for some. Its no different than sending a saved alcoholic to a bar. It would have no impact on some and others might stumble.
Not sure how this would be a problem. Please explain. "Share my life and marriage openly"? You mean you're wanting others to know that you're married as opposed to keeping it on the downlow or am I misinterpreting that?
That’s a reference to lifestyle media. You open your home. Decor may be the product but the greater thing is what’s taking place inside those walls. Beautiful attire is the draw but its the woman in the clothes that matters most. It’s not about the meal but what’s happening at the table with the people gathered.
Everything I do is a vehicle for showing Christ to others. My emphasis isn’t random. It addresses sinful things in society and counters it with godliness.
I’m more than a pretty girl with a comfortable life and pleasant sensibilities. That enables me to shine a light in places where there’s none or too few of us. All the things that were impressed in me as a child had a greater purpose. He fashioned me this way for a reason.
So you're saying that you're a typical, independent career woman that doesn't want to be a housewife. That's understandable. Both can have careers. I've seen it done. Dual incomes and all.
I haven’t punched a clock in 13 years and never will again. I am independent and home full-time. That will never change. I’m not a housewife because God called me to a different mission. But I still have the spoils without the demands of companionship. ;-)
While other Christian wives spend time off work raising their kids while the husband works.
I’ve raised a child. That season’s done. I don’t want anymore.
I'm not sure what you mean by "wither" and "guy next door". How do you define "guy next door"?
I want someone with a similar upbringing, interests and values. Someone whose attributes are assets and he sees mine in a similar light.
So you would never date a guy, say, in the STEM profession? An accountant. A school teacher. A government job...a typical 9 to 5'er with weekends off?
I’ve never dated anyone like that. I didn’t have that lifestyle when I worked. But I loved it too.
I am curious about this last one particularly. Say if you met a man, organically. Had a cup of coffee or lunch with him...he made you laugh, charmed you, etc. Then you found out he's not a business man or an executive...but say...the above, typical professions (9 to 5'ers)...would you be like "Nope, sorry...deal breaker"...or if he was nice, charming, kind, loving, funny, etc. Would you be flexible there?
A bird and a fish can fall in love but where will they build their nest?
I’m attracted to a certain energy and personality. Because it matches mine. There’s nothing wrong with the others. I’m sure they’d make great companions and do.
But when I’m in the presence of the other he draws something from me that none can touch. He compels me through his strength and person. He inspires my awe, admiration, and respect.
The nice guy you’re referring to has never inspired the same. I can’t yield to him. I must believe in order to follow. That’s my comfort zone. The alternative doesn’t appeal to me.
Keep in mind, I’m single because of my faith. Not because I failed to find what I sought. I forsook my heart for my faith and another for my calling.
PS. After careful consideration and numerous threads on CF I’ve added a new clause. No Democrats! ~laughs
