How do I stop caring about women constantly?

The Holy Spirit makes one content.

J Daniel said:

I want to be like David Banner aka Bill Bixby(from the Incredible Hulk back in the 1970s).

It was just him and only him riding solo not concerned about women.

His purpose? Finding a cure!

My purpose? Being SUPREMELY HAPPY ALONE! CONTENT!

1 Timothy 6:6 - speaks about content- I try to embody it............not easy..........especially in this fast age....................

I fall into the same trap constantly.

I was talking to God - I know he is not happy with me.

I do it to myself.

I try to focus on the Church only - but then I get bored and think *I NEED MORE*

I need PURPOSE! Maybe I should join the Navy or Air Force or something - I dunno.........................

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It's not easy being content when you're alone, but it is possible. Took me awhile, but I've reached the point where I'm only truly lonely or restless maybe once a month. The rest of the time I have so many hobbies and things going on I don't have time to think about being alone much. When my post-college plans didn't pan out as I'd expected, I had to rethink what God had in mind for my life. It meant staying where I am for the time being, and with that I had to learn how to be content with His will because it wasn't what I hoped for. But as I sought for and found places He could use me where I'm at, I found some contentment and purpose in that. My goal is to be a light for him in my community and to invest in the lives of others who live around me. I actually find that very fulfilling despite it being a MUCH less grand plan than I envisioned.

I'm also content with being single and alone on weekends. From what I've seen, marriage (or living together as is common today) doesn't keep you from being discontent. You'll still have days where you feel like you should have something more. Will kids fix that? No. Will a bigger house fix that? No. Will a nicer neighborhood fix that? No. A new job? No. A new car? No. A new country? No. The Navy or Air Force? No. None of those are necessarily bad or won't bring any contentment, but none of them will solve it on their own, either.

Basically, our times of discontent are because the only thing that can fill that gap is Jesus Himself. Since we aren't able to physically be with Jesus yet, deep down we're always longing for that deeper fulfillment and joy that being with Him would bring.

J Daniel said:

I want to be like David Banner aka Bill Bixby(from the Incredible Hulk back in the 1970s).

It was just him and only him riding solo not concerned about women.

His purpose? Finding a cure!

My purpose? Being SUPREMELY HAPPY ALONE! CONTENT!

1 Timothy 6:6 - speaks about content- I try to embody it............not easy..........especially in this fast age....................

I fall into the same trap constantly.

I was talking to God - I know he is not happy with me.

I do it to myself.

I try to focus on the Church only - but then I get bored and think *I NEED MORE*

I need PURPOSE! Maybe I should join the Navy or Air Force or something - I dunno.........................

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yeah, maybe the Lord is teaching you contentment. but if you're still bored from church, perhaps you need to step up and serve and love like nobody's seen. i'm talking about radical, called out service for God.

one of the things you mentioned when you first started posting here was the fact about how you were contemplating baptism, knowing that afterward it was going to be a life-changer well, Jesus said the fields are white already for harvest. that means as believers, we've been invited to go out there and do what the apostles did and expect even greater things than what came from the ministry of Jesus.

call it replacement motivation for chasing or always thinking about women. but it is what it is. im pumping myself up just typing about it.

J Daniel said:

Yes maybe he is teaching me contentment right now - seems tough but sometimes things need to be tough! Well I am going to be doing volunteering at church.

But I need more! But I can't teach in the church......................................I am not right for it. How can I when I am so messed up!

Spread the word on the street? Spread that good news to strangers? Be an apostle for God? Fulfil?

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yes. yes. yes. yes. one of the biggest mistakes the institution has made is telling believers that they need to do x, y, or z before they can serve God and other people. all it takes is someone who knows God and what He's done for them. heck, you can even start here by giving us your testimony. would you like to share with us right now in this thread?

J Daniel said:

I don't have a testimony right now - testimonies have a happy ending. Not there yet. Very much in the press.

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What do you mean, you don't have a testimony right now? Have you, in repentance and faith, trusted the gospel?

Messerve said:

The rest of the time I have so many hobbies and things going on I don't have time to think about being alone much.

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I agree. I remember a pastor’s words on the subject. He said most of the singles in the room wished they were married and most of the married ones wished they were single. The grass is always greener elsewhere.

My goal is to be a light for him in my community and to invest in the lives of others who live around me. I actually find that very fulfilling despite it being a MUCH less grand plan than I envisioned.

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I like your attitude. I’m sorting through visa changes in one of the places I wanted to study. Its doable but I planned a different approach. But if I have to shift gears its okay. I think contentment helps you roll with the punches and handle setbacks much better.

J Daniel said:

no sorry

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why not?

If you learn a good trick, pm me right away. Do you know how much time I've wasted on chasing women? Embarrassing amounts. The worst thing is, allegedly it hasn't been just for myself but for family, friends, and my own self image (though I suppose the previous reasons are also self image) and carnal desire. There are many more reasons than that which are more legitimate reasons but I find these aforementioned reasons troubling given that they stem from lust and pride (and the embarrassment of being single a while now).

Actually, since I became a Christian (8 months ago), I realize the dating pool has decreased 100 fold. What was already somewhat infrequent and scarce increased dramatically.

My solution so far? Get a puppy. So far it's working out quite well. The dog is actually a better companion than any woman I've dated yet. He never complains, always is happy, and he's easy to please.

I'm not sure whether to relax and try to forget about woman altogether or try and import one. I want a good Christian woman with traditional values (western women in general are Liberal/Progressive), attractive but doesn't go to her head, and some chemistry. It's tough out there.

It's better to marry than to burn.

J Daniel said:

I need PURPOSE!

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you need it badly...

being a woman chaser is really unhealthy. I don't say that to mean that you're trying to get women in bed but rather that your entire life trajectory is focused on gaining female companionship. this isn't good. a man needs something more in this world to accomplish than getting a woman.

the women are supposed to chase you, not the other way around.

what do you want to do with your life? what do you want to accomplish and achieve? in what way will you leave this world in a better place then when you found it?