When asking the question, "how do I know if I'm saved".
The typical answers are: you show fruits of the Spirit, you stop practicing sin, you want to grow spiritually, etc.
However, 99% of these signs of being born-again, are possible while unsaved.
Some people are wired psychologically to be obedient. This makes it difficult to distinguish from:
"I'm saved and don't practice sin -- because God said to obey"
and
"I'm saved and don't practice sin -- because that is the effect of being saved"
(Keeping in mind, both of these people took genuine steps to become saved.)
Distinguishing is almost impossible. Especially for a strict law keeper who perhaps sins even less than a truly saved person.
What can be said for these people?
Are the tares sitting in your own church unknowingly destined for hell?
I have come to understand in my own walk everything is about Jesus. And that is literal, not just a knee jerk religious response. When referring to deceivers and the spirit of Antichrist we are instructed to test the spirits.
1 John 4:1-6
1 Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.
2 Hereby know ye the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesseth that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is of God:
3 And every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should come; and even now already is it in the world.
Those who cannot confess Jesus are not saved.
'I believe in Jesus'... Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.
Definition of believe
1: to consider to be true or honest
b: to accept the word or evidence of
2: to hold as an opinion
without confession, to 'believe' in Jesus, is to hold to an opinion you consider to be true, based upon evidence.
That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
Definition of confess
1: to tell or make known
2: to acknowledge
3: to declare faith in or adherence to
So a confession is a declaration of faith that acknowledges your adherence to Jesus. Being contrite. You cannot confesses Jesus without accepting him as Lord, savior etc. This is why no one who is lost can confess him. For a lost person to confess Jesus, they had to come to the saving knowledge of Jesus in order to understand they need to confess him in the first place.
I watch out for those who only refer to, or imply Jesus. Or use other names.
ACTS 4:10-12
Be it known unto you all, and to all the people of Israel, that
by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom ye crucified, whom God raised from the dead,
even by him doth this man stand here before you whole.
11 This is the stone which was set at nought of you builders, which is become the head of the corner.
12
Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Examples that Que me in:
'In the name of the father, the son, and the holy spirit'.
ME: OK, what name is that?
'In his blessed name'.
ME: Who is his? Because I do not reconise God by the name of 'his'...