Ro. 9 did not say: "...one for mercy and one for wrath" Look up the Greek word and How Paul used those words in a similar description in 2Tim.2. The word says conveys the idea of one vessel for a special purpose and one vessel for a common purpose.
Specifically talking about Jacob and Esau:
When Deity uses the word "hate" can you still Love and hate the same person like Jesus taught us to Love and hate our own family?
Esau was not born with a personality God could work with and I am sure God would hate that fact, but does that mean Esau could not be saved in the end and be in heaven?
Could God both hate and Love Esau?
Read the who story, Jacob started out wicked (someone I would not want to be around) while Esau was Loved by his father, good guy and fun to be around. Esau repented in the end and seemed to Love his brother Jacob. So how can you say for certain he went to hell?
Esau's progeny though God destroyed to the last man woman child, all were destroyed.
They were cut off from living memory.
So in the OT this conveys the idea of losing their inheritance from God and man. God made a complete end of him. In the OT exist the concept of dedicated to the Lord for destruction, which seems to have been his fate. You see this in v21 where Esau's kingdom is taken to be the Lords after every single one of Esau's descendants is destroyed.
Honestly Jacob and Esau represents how God deals with humanity, one had the calling of God on him even though he was sneaky, this shows God 's mercy to the despised. And the other the proud and haughty who care nothing for God, Esau was a profane man, He lays them low into the dust.
Jeremiah 49:10 But I have made Esau bare; I have uncovered his secret places, And he shall not be able to hide himself. His descendants are plundered, His brethren and his neighbors, And he is no more.
Obadiah 1:9 Then your mighty men, O Teman, shall be dismayed, To the end that everyone from the mountains of Esau May be cut off by slaughter.
Obadiah 1:18 The house of Jacob shall be a fire, And the house of Joseph a flame; But the house of Esau shall be stubble; They shall kindle them and devour them,
And no survivor shall remain of the house of Esau,” For the Lord has spoken.
Obadiah 1:21 Then saviors shall come to Mount Zion To judge the mountains of Esau, And the kingdom shall be the Lord’s.
Hebrews 12:15-17 New King James Version (NKJV)
15 looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled; 16 lest there be any fornicator or
profane person like Esau, who for one morsel of food sold his birthright. 17 For you know that afterward, when he wanted to inherit the blessing,
he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought it diligently with tears.
Its good to see what profane means.
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adjective
1.
relating or devoted to that which is not sacred or biblical; secular rather than religious.
"a talk that tackled topics both sacred and profane"
synonyms: secular, lay, nonreligious, nonchurch, temporal, worldly, earthly; More
2.
(of a person or their behavior) not respectful of orthodox religious practice; irreverent.
"desecration of the temple by profane adolescents"
synonyms: irreverent, ungodly, godless, impious, disrespectful, irreligious, unbelieving, disbelieving, sacrilegious, idolatrous
"a profane, unprincipled man"
verb
1.
treat (something sacred) with irreverence or disrespect.
"it was a serious matter to profane a tomb"
synonyms: desecrate, violate, defile, treat with disrespect, debase, degrade, contaminate, pollute, taint
"it was a serious matter to profane a tomb"