Sometimes i can't control my anger

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My opinion > in general and in case this goes for you somehow >

I think it is easiest to lose control when we do not get something that is our real treasure.

Jesus wants us to value love more than control and the ways we like to get pleasure. And value love and forgiveness more than we value being respected and accepted.
 
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Sometimes when i get mad i can't seem to control my anger and start breaking stuff or even swearing on accident and when i am angry i sometimes feel like there is the devil standing by me Pushing me to do this stuff.

What is making you angry?
 
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Sometimes when i get mad i can't seem to control my anger and start breaking stuff or even swearing on accident and when i am angry i sometimes feel like there is the devil standing by me Pushing me to do this stuff.

If you were born into the lap of God, you'd have a problem.
But you were not.
 
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There are two options. Get help from God or a therapist.

Help from God is best. Ask for forgiveness every time it's a problem --- then ask for God's help. He does help!

John 14:15
If ye love me, keep my commandments.

Ephesians 4
25 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. 26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27 Neither give place to the devil. 28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. 29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. 30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.

Proverbs 25:28
He that hath no rule over his own spirit
is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.

2 Timothy 1:7
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

Proverbs 16:32
He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty;
and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

1 Peter 1:5-7
And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.

Galatians 5:22-23
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

PRAY
 
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Yes mental illness and fighting angry bouts often walk hand in hand i think. i struggled with uncontrollable rage for many years. It has driven me psychotic many times. i have hurt my loved ones with it as well. i tried everything to control it but found it impossible when manic or rock bottom depressed. i even cursed our Lord in my rages that is how bad they got.

Then i found out that my rage was caused by a very traumatic event in my past. Trauma induced rage, or otherwise called P.T.S.D Now one thing i had done because of my many falls i hated myself an angry person. i was deeply ashamed of myself when i became like that and carried a lot of guilt. i realised i needed to go to Jesus with all of this. So i began to call on the Lord when i was angry. Sharing with Him all my feelings and all my frustrations and asking Him to forgive me and set me free an angry person.

i don't know how long after i started doing this i noticed that i had more self control and didn't rage near as often as before. However then The Lord send me a good counsellor who specialised in complex P.T.S.D cases. Over the months that followed he helped me discover the root of my rage and there i let the Lord's loving truth dismantle it. Thanks to Jesus i hardly ever get angry any more and never rage ever.

So glad the Lord taught me to respect and love myself an person who can be out of control and He taught me to let His love heal those raw spots in my heart.

Now for you it might not be so extreme, but i do know that learning to go to Jesus when you are angry and sharing yourself open and honestly with Him and let His loving graceful truth wash you clean as you go, helps a lot fighting out of control angry bouts, and teaches humility as well. The good thing of humility is that a humble heart is not near as quickly angry as otherwise and helps a lot fighting our out of control anger.

Peace.
 
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Sometimes when i get mad i can't seem to control my anger and start breaking stuff or even swearing on accident and when i am angry i sometimes feel like there is the devil standing by me Pushing me to do this stuff.

The devil is cunning, but he's not standing behind you. You can win this.
 
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Sometimes when i get mad i can't seem to control my anger and start breaking stuff or even swearing on accident and when i am angry i sometimes feel like there is the devil standing by me Pushing me to do this stuff.
I too have spent many years being on the edge of anger and then boiling over. As ive gone through life I have found an inner peace. For me this was looking at the root issues from when I was a child, processing them in counselling in my 20's and realising anger actually damages me more than it does whoever im angry at. I haven't lost my feisty side but its not really an issue so much now. I feel with knowing Im being looked after I can make things better. Hope that helps. Take a breath take a moment look up at the sky or just sit a while. It will pass x
 
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Sometimes when i get mad i can't seem to control my anger and start breaking stuff or even swearing on accident
"I will not be brought under the power of any", our Apostle Paul says in 1 Corinthians 6:12. If you are under the power of what is inferior, you can lose your temper when you don't get it the way you want. If you are being the dictator of what people have to do, you can be under the power of what you want from them so you get nasty when they do not go along with what you dictate.

But our Apostle Peter says >

"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)

So, Jesus does not want me to lord myself over others and dictate my demands on them. But depend on God >

"casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)

Who and what are you depending on, then? It is foolish to depend on things which can not love us. And even people who really love you can make mistakes and be wrong, at times. You need to stay ready for love, so you are more and more instant to love and forgive and care for people whenever they really are wrong. And be there for them with good example of how to be kind and encouraging of what is good.

And yes there are people who do not know how to love you. We need to forgive these people and have mercy for them, so they can find out how to love.

This God does with us.
 
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You absolutely can control your anger. Imagine if you became angry, but expressing it could cause you great bodily or financial harm, or land you in jail. Would you control it then?

If you are praying for Holy Spirit guidance, He will show you how to deal with anger. Anger is a normal emotion, and the ability to control it appropriately is a sign of maturity. That is why Paul said "in your anger do not sin". Self control is a fruit of the Spirit, so seek Him repeatedly to help you in order to mature in Him.
 
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I would try and find the root cause of your anger if you can. Sometimes we can get anger easily due to frustrations, things not going our way, or selfish reasons. This could be a sign that you might need a heart check to see what is going on. I encourage you to do this if you want.
 
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