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I feel worthless, tired, weak, unloved, the list goes on.
I don't know what to do any more. I feel like my sins are dragging me farther and farther away from God. I struggle with inappropriate content and masturbation, and I am ashamed of my weakness. Every night I rededicate my life to God, promising Him, and myself, that I will stop, but then comes tomorrow, and I break my promise by watching inappropriate content and masturbating. Am I not trying hard enough? Is it even possible for me to stop? Is there something so fundementaly rong with me that I am not acceptable to God, because I pray to Him and I ask Him to help me to break these chains, but it doesn't happen. Am I even worth it to God? I just don't know.
 

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I feel worthless, tired, weak, unloved, the list goes on.
I don't know what to do any more. I feel like my sins are dragging me farther and farther away from God. I struggle with inappropriate content and masturbation, and I am ashamed of my weakness. Every night I rededicate my life to God, promising Him, and myself, that I will stop, but then comes tomorrow, and I break my promise by watching inappropriate content and masturbating. Am I not trying hard enough? Is it even possible for me to stop? Is there something so fundementaly rong with me that I am not acceptable to God, because I pray to Him and I ask Him to help me to break these chains, but it doesn't happen. Am I even worth it to God? I just don't know.
I used to struggle with the same sin but I just prayed to God and eventually my willingness to obey Him and my love for Him became stronger than my love for that sin. Just remember that God really loves you and He gave up His only Son for you buddy. God bless you and Jesus is Lord.
 
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I feel worthless, tired, weak, unloved, the list goes on.
I don't know what to do any more. I feel like my sins are dragging me farther and farther away from God. I struggle with inappropriate content and masturbation, and I am ashamed of my weakness. Every night I rededicate my life to God, promising Him, and myself, that I will stop, but then comes tomorrow, and I break my promise by watching inappropriate content and masturbating. Am I not trying hard enough? Is it even possible for me to stop? Is there something so fundementaly rong with me that I am not acceptable to God, because I pray to Him and I ask Him to help me to break these chains, but it doesn't happen. Am I even worth it to God? I just don't know.

Marriage can help with the inappropriate content and mastrubation problem.

Only praying isn't enough. Start actually doing something to achieve your goals. You can pray pray pray all your life and nothing will happen until you get up and do somehting.
 
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You’re describing a stronghold. Christ’s remedy for this is to bind the strong man. What this means is you must address the ringleader (issue/sin) that triggers your behavior. This always leads to sin which keeps you in bondage.

Given your description you’re dealing with spirits of lust and perversion which often lead to fornication and sexual immorality. Your inability to stop is a spirit of addiction.

But that doesn’t mean it’s the ringleader. Oftentimes addictions arise for other reasons. Abuse, depression, unforgiveness, bitterness, and rejection are common causes. However, rejection is usually hidden and frequently the root cause of most strongholds.

In your shoes, I would assign a day of fasting and bring the matter to the Lord once more.

1. Confess and repent for your behavior, forgive anything you’ve been holding onto.

2. Ask for His deliverance and restoration from your bondage.

3. Start with rejection. Say, I rebuke the spirit of rejection and renounce its hold over me. Lord, deliver me from its clutches and restore my body to its godly form. Then repeat the same for unforgiveness and bitterness.

It is important to address these three in the beginning. They are usually the strongmen Christ referenced.

4. Follow with lust, perversion, addiction, and the rest.

5. Thank the Lord for His mercy and healing then close.

You may need to do this on a weekly basis until the stronghold is broken. It is important to remain close to the Lord after deliverance. They will seek to return and if you’ve languished spiritually it is easier to do.

Since your affliction occurs at night it would be good to bathe your atmosphere in the word. It is worthwhile to purchase an audio bible or use a free version and have it playing in your home. Especially at night while you sleep.

God bless. :)
 
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You are acceptable to God in Jesus Christ, and your life is hid in Him. When we get to the desperate mindset of wanting to get where God accepts us, we really start to struggle with ourselves and our sin, and all our focus is in ourselves and our unworthiness. We want to please God, and we take the burden of our sin back from Christ, as if we could do something with it, in our efforts to be holy and accepted by the one who already accepted us through His Son. Turns out we can't carry that weight, and if we try, we get crushed. In a way, we put our sin on a pedestal, and we become terrified of its supposed power over us. Christ is no longer on the pedestal, but we are, along with our weaknesses and sins. We stare at that monstrosity, and agonize ourselves because it just won't go away.

These struggles should only help us understand who Christ is, and drive us to depend on Him instead of ourselves. No matter the struggle, no matter how long it takes. I don't even believe that we are 100% sanctified before Christ comes again, but that's my personal take. But what matters here is not what you can do, what you can muster up by your will and effort, but where your heart is. Keep your heart on your savior, instead of your failure. Do not torture yourself with what you did or didn't do, focus on Him who already won. He is your savior exactly because of your failure, and all of our failures. All of this He has done in divine love, not begrudgingly, not against His heart. He is not against you. You are not here to impress Him, we can't put up a performance for Him to love us, because He does so already, and what He did is so much greater than what we can ever do. But He is there to grow in you and continually be your refuge and source of strength.

Do not, in any way, think that you are unloved, beyond redemption or anything else like that. Never despair, even in the face of your sin. You are not alone in this, since so many people find themselves in the struggle of Romans 7. Don't despair, but instead give thanks to Christ, and pray for His will to happen in you. Then get up, and carry on. As many times as it takes. You will learn to quietly trust Him, to hope, no matter what happens. You will find peace in Him, not because what you can do but because what He is to you, and in the end you won't even think about yourself too much. You will be gracious towards others, and you won't think you're better than them, and you will be able to encourage them according to His will. Little by little you will be aligned to His will, and there's a good chance you won't even notice it until much later. Never think that God doesn't care about you, or that you are left here stranded. You are no more of a sinner than anyone else, and He loves you just as much today than He did a week ago, a year ago or 15 years ago. He is the good Shepherd, and He will take care of you, as you are. No fear.

Sincerely, a fellow sinner.
 
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I feel worthless, tired, weak, unloved, the list goes on.
I don't know what to do any more. I feel like my sins are dragging me farther and farther away from God. I struggle with inappropriate content and masturbation, and I am ashamed of my weakness. Every night I rededicate my life to God, promising Him, and myself, that I will stop, but then comes tomorrow, and I break my promise by watching inappropriate content and masturbating. Am I not trying hard enough? Is it even possible for me to stop? Is there something so fundementaly rong with me that I am not acceptable to God, because I pray to Him and I ask Him to help me to break these chains, but it doesn't happen. Am I even worth it to God? I just don't know.

Of course you can stop. No one is forcing you to watch inappropriate content. Get rid of your computer, and your phone, and disconnect your TV.

Jesus said, if your hand offends you, cut it off. What do you think that was in reference to?

If your hand or your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or crippled than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into eternal fire.​

Jesus was making the point that you should do whatever it takes to reach eternity in Heaven.

So maybe you have to be radical in how you act.

So you can change. It's up to you to make the choice, that is worth it to change, and then do so.

The only helpful bit of advice I can give, is that it is easier to change a bad habit when you replace it with a good habit.

You can simply quit doing a bad habit. People can do that. But it is easier to quit a bad habit, if you replace it with something. Finding something to replace it with, could be difficult, but if you can find something positive to replace it with, it will be easier on you.
 
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I love you. I may not know you but guess what I love you and more importantly Jesus loves you and there is no way that you can push him away. Trust me I spent years pushing him away I was wicked yet the lord still loved me the entire time. I will tell you to pray and beleive he will help you fix yourself... And you may mess up but guess who will still love you. Guess who will stay faithful. Through god through jesus you will be healed. One thing I would suggest is everytime you have an urge to watch some inappropriate content or touch open your bible and read. It doesn't matter what or where in the bible you read just open it I trust god will speak to you through his word. Everything will be ok... Don't forget Peter denied jesus three times and yet jesus forgave him peter became an amazing person that spread gods word. The lord will never leave you and if you fall underwater jesus will pull you up just like he did to Peter when he was walking on water. Through god all is possible.

God bless you brother.
 
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I feel worthless, tired, weak, unloved, the list goes on.
I don't know what to do any more. I feel like my sins are dragging me farther and farther away from God. I struggle with inappropriate content and masturbation, and I am ashamed of my weakness. Every night I rededicate my life to God, promising Him, and myself, that I will stop, but then comes tomorrow, and I break my promise by watching inappropriate content and masturbating. Am I not trying hard enough? Is it even possible for me to stop? Is there something so fundementaly rong with me that I am not acceptable to God, because I pray to Him and I ask Him to help me to break these chains, but it doesn't happen. Am I even worth it to God? I just don't know.
First thing you do is to break the cycle of guilt. Guilt will compound your sinning. Guilt turns a believer into a chain sinner. Like someone who is a chain smoker.

The key to breaking the guilt cycle is to keep getting yourself back to being filled with the Spirit after you slip into sin. This demands faith in God's Word.


"But if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we
have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His
Son cleanses us from all sin.


If we say that we have no sin,
we are deceiving ourselves and
the truth is not in us.
If we acknowledge/ admit to/confess
our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins
and to cleanse us from all wrongdoing."
1 John 1:7-9


To "confess" does not mean to openly confess our sins to other believers. The Greek word is a term used to cite a case in a courtroom before a judge. It means to state your sin factually by acknowledging it to God.

Man can not cleanse you of your sins, nor purify you from all the other unknown sins you were committing while the Holy Spirit was grieved inside you. The Holy Spirit becomes grieved when we sin because He wants to be one with you to lead you into all truth that you will need in your lifetime to fully mature in Christ! He wants to see you glorifying Jesus!

You think you got it bad? The congregations in Ephesus and Corinth make you look like a piker. Some of them were frequenting pagan temples to fornicate with temple prostitutes. They thought no more of doing so than we think about eating a hamburger. In those temples they could choose a male prostitute, a female prostitute, a child prostitute... even animals that they kept in the temples for this purpose.

If they could learn to overcome their guilt and to grow in Christ? You can too.

You need to keep short accounts when you sin. When you sin? Name it to God (its no one else's business!) and then pray that He continue to lead you into discovering the truths that you will need, so that God's grace will overcome your weakness with a strength that you can not possess in your natural strength. Its one way God gives evidence to a believer how the power of grace is really working in them! Be patient! For He is most likely dealing with your demons. Not just you. God requires knowledge of His Word for the Holy Spirit to claim His domain of your soul!


And He has said to me, “My grace produces contentment
/sufficiency, for the power is perfected by means of helplessness/weakness.”
2 Cor 12:9a​


No matter how many times you may fail? You probably will. Name it to God.

He wants to rescue you from the demons taunting and mocking you. You must pray to be led to find sound teachings of God's Word to guard yourself with.

If you keep resisting the devil by defiantly taking in more and more Bible teaching? Even while you may slip and fail? In due time God's grace will show you what you can not know naturally.

If you must? Keep on resisting by naming your sins. Refuse the guilt for what God says He will forgive and cleanse you from EVERY TIME! It says that He is just and faithful! He will keep on forgiving as long as you do not deny you sinned. Name to God and seeking out sound doctrinal teaching. When God keeps working in you? If you keep trusting God's Word to forgive your sins you confess to God? As God grace becomes more and more at work in you? The devil at some point will have to flee!

Keep resisting the devil who will tell you that you are a worthless piece of garbage...Defy the demons by naming your sins IMMEDIATELY!

Get right back under the control of the Spirit so you can be led, a step at a time, into His deliverance that God wants to UNIQUELY show you. For, deliverance is not achieved by some spiritual "form letter" system that some will recommend you. The Spirit, as long as you keep naming and acknowledging your sin to God - not to men! Man is a trap designed by the devil to keep you compounding your feelings of guilt! Guilt is also sin. Guilt is a denial of the blood of Christ's power to cleanse from any sin! Dare to not feel guilt as you name to God your sins.

Deal with your sin as a detail of understanding that you have a fallen nature.. Watch God move. Move a little bit at a time. Keep resisting by trusting in 1 John 1:9!

Some here will try to butcher 1 John 1:9. I have seen it done. I hope they do not see this thread as to not become a food fight.

If we acknowledge/ admit to/confess our sins, He is faithful
and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wrong doing."

Keep resisting by believing what God's Word says!
 
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