Hello Christian Forums, I am a new member here. My age is 23 and I’m a Christian guy. I want to totally walk the Christian walk. If I’m remembered after my death, I want to be remembered for kindness and especially for my faith and trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. While I’m aware that a man doesn’t need a wife to be complete, it’s still my biggest dream in this life - to be a husband and dad.
I want a Godly woman that I can spend my life with. I want to share happiness and grief with her, be there to love and support her, and to receive love and support in return. Intimacy would be great, but mainly I want somebody to go to church with, take road trips with, and to play board games with. Somebody that I can’t wait to get home to after work.
I want children. I want to watch a young child grow up in a Godly home where the Lord Jesus Christ is exalted. I want children to love and nurture, to discipline when needed, and to make memories with.
I understand that I’m doing a great deal of idealizing here. I understand that marriage and children takes dedication and sacrifice; it is hard work. But it’s my stance that practically anything worth doing in this life is hard work. I’m ready for all the joys and heartaches that are involved in having a family. I want to man up to the challenge.
And yet, all this said, my chances of having a family of my own are very slim. Here I sit at 23 years old. I struggle with social problems. I don’t know what it is; people says it’s social anxiety (including my counselor), but I disagree. I still struggle to order my food at restaurants, and I can’t make any friends. Obviously, I’ve never been on a date or had a girlfriend. It just seems so impossible at this point. I don’t see myself every changing much. I’ve tried and tried and tried but it’s just how I am. My counselor has tried too, but in the end, I only improve a little, if any.
I am getting rather hopeless. I don’t want to idolize marriage, but it’s important to me. I think God put it on my heart to be a husband and father because I want it so much more than most peers my age. I don’t want to be the most important person in my life. I want to Lord to be at the top and then a family to be next in line. Is there any hope, friends? What can I do to either change my situation or accept it and move on?
I want a Godly woman that I can spend my life with. I want to share happiness and grief with her, be there to love and support her, and to receive love and support in return. Intimacy would be great, but mainly I want somebody to go to church with, take road trips with, and to play board games with. Somebody that I can’t wait to get home to after work.
I want children. I want to watch a young child grow up in a Godly home where the Lord Jesus Christ is exalted. I want children to love and nurture, to discipline when needed, and to make memories with.
I understand that I’m doing a great deal of idealizing here. I understand that marriage and children takes dedication and sacrifice; it is hard work. But it’s my stance that practically anything worth doing in this life is hard work. I’m ready for all the joys and heartaches that are involved in having a family. I want to man up to the challenge.
And yet, all this said, my chances of having a family of my own are very slim. Here I sit at 23 years old. I struggle with social problems. I don’t know what it is; people says it’s social anxiety (including my counselor), but I disagree. I still struggle to order my food at restaurants, and I can’t make any friends. Obviously, I’ve never been on a date or had a girlfriend. It just seems so impossible at this point. I don’t see myself every changing much. I’ve tried and tried and tried but it’s just how I am. My counselor has tried too, but in the end, I only improve a little, if any.
I am getting rather hopeless. I don’t want to idolize marriage, but it’s important to me. I think God put it on my heart to be a husband and father because I want it so much more than most peers my age. I don’t want to be the most important person in my life. I want to Lord to be at the top and then a family to be next in line. Is there any hope, friends? What can I do to either change my situation or accept it and move on?
Been there, done that.
