Sketcher
Born Imperishable
If you're going to argue from creation then, the proper response is what Jesus said in Matthew 19:4-9 - which means remarriage after divorce while the ex is still living is adultery. However, he did differentiate between fornication and adultery (Matthew 15:19), as did Paul (1 Corinthians 6:9). Since Judaism had a long-standing tradition of marriage contracts, it is possible that the lack of one would have been considered a distinctive factor in whether one was fornicating or simply marrying."Two become one" is the definition of marriage Biblically and most cultures do not believe a marriage is a until it is consummated. There is no required ceremony in the Bible. Marriage is a sexual union. If you believe that, then to have sex with someone is forming a marriage. That means that anyone who has sex enters into a form of marriage with that person. Any sexual relationship after that would be adulterous if you believe that a marriage can not be completely dissolved to the point that a person can enter into a new marriage and sexual relationship with another person.
It's not a matter of "better" or "worse." It's a matter of what creates a permanent union in the sight of God that he will hold the people to, or not. God's ideal for marriage is that the two people stay together, treat each other right, and forgive each other. And his definition of it, as Jesus taught, is for life. Repenting of sin in this area means returning to God's intention for it. Which means if it was dishonored, honoring it again. This precludes marrying anyone else while the ex still lives, with the possible exception of if the ex cheated on you, per Matthew 19:9.I don't understand how people can believe that having sex outside of a marriage is not as bad as ending a marriage, repenting, and committing to a monogamous relationship to another. At least with the marriage, there was an attempt to do it right even if the actual relationship wasn't successful. One at least acknowledges that a sexual relationship is sacred and should be in the confines of marriage. The other just says sex isn't that important and makes it okay to "do it" and keeps your options for marriage free. Does that make sense? Casual sex means freedom to get married. Committed sex means you are stuck for life. ???
This is just my observations and my opinion. I can't condemn a person to being alone forever because their spouse was a louse and left them...regardless of the reason. Some people don't belong married. Some people change and become toxic to be married to. The ideal marriage is between two sexually pure individuals. However, God forgives and most people are not sexually pure an the best they can claim is to be forgiven and covered with grace.
Honestly, do people really believe that somehow a person who has had unmarried sex is "better" or less sinful than someone who only had sex within a marriage contract and yet the marriage failed? Does that sound like a distinction that you can hear Jesus saying? Sexually pure means never having had sexual relations. Anyone else is sexually tainted.
I think this is one of those instances where a person is trying to point out a splinter in someone elses eye without address the log in their own.... JMO.
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