Does anyone feel bad when they are judged for not being married? When people write blogs about how women who are over 40 and not married will remain unmarried, that they are miserable, doomed to loneliness, etc.
Which isn't necessarily true. Maybe people who are single (both young and old) find other things in life which make them happy.When people write blogs about how women who are over 40 and not married will remain unmarried, that they are miserable, doomed to loneliness, etc.
I'm not 40 yet but plan to be single at 40 still. Don't feel bad. I am happy alone and intend to be so until my children mature and I finish university. I may even decide to remain single forever, I can't predict that far.
All I know is that my life is complete as it is. I have no time or inclination to alter the status quo.
Your joy should come from your relationship with God and you can live in His peace. It is much easier to do that without the distraction of a husband. This completely dispels that mistaken stereotypical view of single women.
I feel sometimes that Christians idolise their marraiges too much by the way. However, that's not the point. If people misjudge you, don't let it bother you, prove them wrong by remaining content in Him.
I think that makes being single easier because I have my needs for touch met by hugging them.Yeah, but you have kids.
I'm in a very different place that you are Lybrah ... I was married for 28 yrs and have now been single for 12 years.
No plans for me to marry again (don't want the government involved in my life that way again), but I love spending time with women so I have had 3 GFs for 6 years now. That gives me someone to travel with, someone to visit and do things with. Plus I still have the alone time I want.
Well as a young-ish single man I do have to be a little careful around other mens' wives. I'm no model, but I'm not bald with a beer belly either! If the wife starts to get giggly, I distance myself a bit. I don't need my nose broken.I think that makes being single easier because I have my needs for touch met by hugging them.
I thought this thread was about being judged for remaining single. I get judged for being single and having children.
If I believe the internet I could be led to think women might think I'm after their husband, men might think I'd corrupt their wives. I wonder if you've read those articles too. Some aren't nice to read.
However, the Lord loves us and we needn't care too much about being judged by others. He is our refuge when it does get to us though.
I know! Single people were just normal people. Now it's like "Oh... you're over 25 and single? Are you... confused or something?"Back in the day it was common for people to remain single or unmarried (divorced). No one thought much about it.
I know! Single people were just normal people. Now it's like "Oh... you're over 25 and single? Are you... confused or something?"
I don't know what changed that mentality, exactly.
Well as a young-ish single man I do have to be a little careful around other mens' wives. I'm no model, but I'm not bald with a beer belly either! If the wife starts to get giggly, I distance myself a bit. I don't need my nose broken.
Does anyone feel bad when they are judged for not being married? When people write blogs about how women who are over 40 and not married will remain unmarried, that they are miserable, doomed to loneliness, etc.
Stop reading those blogs. There is plenty of reading material about being a strong, independent woman and staying single. There are definitely a lot of women who would be happier being single. When you are single, you get to spend your money and time how you want to spend it. You don't have to "check in" before making plans or making a major spending decision. If you don't feel like making dinner, you don't make dinner.
Does anyone feel bad when they are judged for not being married? When people write blogs about how women who are over 40 and not married will remain unmarried, that they are miserable, doomed to loneliness, etc.