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A bit of background on us... We are a Christian family (wife and I have been Christians since childhood) and have been married for over two decades with kids now in the mid teens.
For about the last decade now, we have found ourselves to just be treading water and going through the motions with life. Kind of like ground hog day, over and over and over and over again. There is no real sense of purpose (other than serving God as best we can, providing for the family and witnessing to people we come in contact with) and there is no real sense of challenge or joy or contentment. It gets me down, but Wife is extremely bored with life seems semi depressed about our situation. I feel like the wind is no longer in my sails either. Financially we are ok (not rich, but not in trouble) and we are all mostly healthy. Wife works full time and I run my own small business from home.
We live in Australia, but had the wonderful opportunity of living in the USA twice. First time we lived in the USA was totally amazing and wonderful. I never wanted to leave, but wife got homesick). Second time we lived there was meant to be permanent, but wife got homesick again and we returned to Australia. Since being back in Australia, we see that God has cared for us and blessed us with his provision, however life just seems to suck. Nothing really going on, no sense of belonging here, my family is totally estranged and most of wife's family relationships are strained (except for her parents - dear people).
I just feel that something has to change. I have no idea what this would look like or what it would be, but something has to change... I find myself absolutely yearning for life in the US again, but wife has significant fears about the US health system and the gun laws (which I can understand) and I would never embark on life back in the US with her having these fears. I manage to stay in touch with a few American mates and I envy the lives they all lead.
I just don't know what to think or do anymore... I don't know if this post even makes sense.
Mostly I just try to bury these feelings and soldier on, but sometimes it gets a bit hard going.
Anyway, does anyone else experience something like this or have any pearls of wisdom to throw my way?
The grass seems greener on the other side - but it isn't. USA is a country that temporarily has a great economy, low unemployment rate - literally a million jobs available with no one willing to work them. ? Trump is trying his best to keep us prosperous and safe. But there is an elephant in the room that is being ignored - $20 trillion debt. Additionally, Obama created and left us with more racial division than we've experiences in 50 years.
The Left is pushing towards a socialist nation. Their agenda is Globalism, redistribution of wealth, to trash our Constitution and dismantle our sovereignty. Listen to Walter Chronkite's speech to the UN addressing this main objective.
You say something has to change?
The world are on the verge of
The Great Tribulation (IMHO).
It could next year or 10 years. Maybe Trump will be elected again and keep us afloat for another 5 years. I don't really think he is capable of making America great again BECAUSE the LEFT is trying so hard to get rid of him by any means. It's ugly. The corruption in the swamp is putrid.
Aside from all that, people claim they are bored because of one thing - they are boring. Don't take offense.
Life is what you make it. You can be content at any level in any place. If you change your location you are not changing your boredom, that goes with you.
It's sounds like a common midlife crisis, a stale lifestyle that you are tired of, same ole stuff day after day.
1.Your kids need you. Are their needs being met?
2. Change your routine.
3. Turn off the TV, get out of the house, get active: ride a bike, play tennis, swim
4. Get active with your church if you aren't. Maybe you lack the Joy of the Lord, the inner peace, His presence, His Grace, all from which you will experience contentment.
5. Rekindle those romantic moments, take a date night out, just the two of you, have fun, meaning, do those fun things you once found pleasure in.
6. If you are depressed, it is probably because you are focusing on yourself. Help somebody, that is the cure, it takes the focus off yourself. After that, help someone else. (Advice given by Scott Peck, a famous Psychoanalyst)
The most successfull, happy people are the givers, the servants. They don't have the attitude: "What's in it for me?" ... or "If I can only have this or move there, I'll be happy."
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