Single - where should I move to?

blackhole · Jun 23, 2019

Multiple users have strongly suggested that I move, so that I can find a partner. I live in South Dakota, and I haven't been able to find any godly candidates.

So then, can you suggest great places to move to, for this purpose? I'm drawn to Oregon, but I don't know if that's a good place to find what I'm seeking.

Note: I fall under Protestantism (baptist, presby, etc.).

Tree of Life · Jun 23, 2019

blackhole said:
Multiple users have strongly suggested that I move, so that I can find a partner. I live in South Dakota, and I haven't been able to find any godly candidates.

So then, can you suggest great places to move to, for this purpose? I'm drawn to Oregon, but I don't know if that's a good place to find what I'm seeking.

Note: I fall under Protestantism (baptist, presby, etc.).

What do you do for work?

blackhole · Jun 23, 2019

Tree of Life said:
What do you do for work?

Online student now, and later I plan to be a remote worker (programming). So, that doesn't limit me.

Tree of Life · Jun 23, 2019

blackhole said:
Online student now, and later I plan to be a remote worker (programming). So, that doesn't limit me.

Move to a city. If a job wouldn't bring you there, perhaps you have family or friends already living in some city who would be a connection. Or maybe you find a really good church in some city that you'd like to be part of.

blackhole · Jun 23, 2019

Tree of Life said:
Move to a city. If a job wouldn't bring you there, perhaps you have family or friends already living in some city who would be a connection. Or maybe you find a really good church in some city that you'd like to be part of.

I'm in a city now; I need specific areas that give me good odds.

Tree of Life · Jun 23, 2019

blackhole said:
I'm in a city now; I need specific areas that give me good odds.

Whats the population of your city? Is there a university in your city?

Samaritan Woman · Jun 23, 2019

blackhole said:
Multiple users have strongly suggested that I move, so that I can find a partner. I live in South Dakota, and I haven't been able to find any godly candidates.

So then, can you suggest great places to move to, for this purpose? I'm drawn to Oregon, but I don't know if that's a good place to find what I'm seeking.

I lived in Colorado for over ten years - mostly in Denver but a few years in Colorado Springs. While the cost of living has definitely risen in Denver since I moved in 2008, it is a great place to live as far as weather and number of churches among other aspects. There's a lot of single people who gravitate to Denver as well.

blackhole · Jun 23, 2019

Tree of Life said:
Whats the population of your city? Is there a university in your city?

74k.

I'm too far along to switch schools, and too poor to add a second one. But yes, there are schools nearby.

Tree of Life · Jun 23, 2019

blackhole said:
74k.

I'm too far along to switch schools, and too poor to add a second one. But yes, there are schools nearby.

Yeah go to Denver.

JacobKStarkey · Jun 23, 2019

Denver, Colorado Springs, and Salt Lake City.

blackhole · Jun 23, 2019

JacobKStarkey said:
Denver, Colorado Springs, and Salt Lake City.

No joy in SLC, I considered that area. Just FYI: Adults in Utah - Religion in America: U.S. Religious Data, Demographics and Statistics

JacobKStarkey · Jun 23, 2019

Reconsider SLC. If you are any sort of Christian, any sort of church group is going to have a preponderance of women to me

Samaritan Woman · Jun 23, 2019

I've heard Boise, ID is good as well.

Tree of Life · Jun 23, 2019

@blackhole I appreciate you wanting to solicit some advice from other Christians, but is part of your problem that you have trouble making decisions on your own? Why would you ask a group of strangers what city you should move to?

blackhole · Jun 23, 2019

Tree of Life said:
@blackhole I appreciate you wanting to solicit some advice from other Christians, but is part of your problem that you have trouble making decisions on your own? Why would you ask a group of strangers what city you should move to?

Because I'm neither omniscient nor omnipresent, and I haven't lived everywhere.

Joined2krist · Jun 23, 2019

Colorado sounds good to me, God bless

Willing-heart · Jun 23, 2019

Move closer to the LORD.

rockytopva · Jun 23, 2019

I would not move anywhere.

25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. - 1 Corinthians 7

I would, though, visit other areas and be friendly with others. God has in his heart to create all a new. We will not think back on anything we have missed out on earth.

For, behold, I create new heavens and a new earth: and the former shall not be remembered, nor come into mind. - Isaiah 65:17

blackhole · Jun 23, 2019

rockytopva said:
I would not move anywhere.

25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. - 1 Corinthians 7

I would, though, visit other areas and be friendly with others. God has in his heart to create all a new. We will not think back on anything we have missed out on earth.

For, behold, I create new heavens and a new earth: and the former shall not be remembered, nor come into mind. - Isaiah 65:17

I use that same text to argue precisely the opposite of the point you're making.

"in light of this present distress" acknowledges that the norm is to seek a wife. But for them, life was, or was about to become, extremely difficult.

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